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Chrysta
Master November 2022

Letting the groom choose his attire? (turns out I’m a hypocrite lol)

Chrysta, on December 29, 2020 at 12:57 PM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 59
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I have noticed a lot of brides choose their groom’s attire for the wedding. Prior to planning my own wedding, I thought that sounded a bit “Bridezilla”. I mean, the groom doesn’t choose the bride‘s dress, so why does she choose what he wears?? After getting engaged and beginning to plan our wedding, my fiancé asked me what I wanted him to wear for the ceremony. He was shocked when I told him that it was entirely up to him; I wanted him to choose something he liked and felt good in, and I would be surprised at the altar. Shortly after, I discovered my fiancé thought 1970s powder blue leisure suits were ”cool” 🤦🏼‍♀️ I truly thought I would be completely OK with whatever he chose to wear (I had even prepared for jeans and an old Harley shirt LOL) But never in my wildest dreams did I prepare for a powder blue leisure suit. And apparently, that is where I draw the line 😆 I didn’t tell him no, or lay down any rules for what he could or couldn’t wear... but I did have him look through wedding inspo pictures on Instagram that “just so happened” to have some really great grooms looks in them. I pointed out a couple of my favorites and mentioned how incredible he would look in them. Thank my lucky stars, he agreed!! So now he will be wearing what I would’ve chosen for him anyway, but technically he chose it for himself LOL
I’m curious, what is everyone else doing in regards to groom’s attire? Are you choosing what he wears, or allowing him to choose? Has anyone else told the groom he could wear whatever he wanted, then changed their mind when they saw what he liked?

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Latest activity by Kali, on January 5, 2021 at 7:37 PM
  • Yasmine
    Master October 2020
    Yasmine ·
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    Once we picked out the colors for our big wedding, my husband chose the color of the suit ... well he did but when I showed him pictures of my vision he switched from navy suits to grey suits. He originally wanted navy but my bridesmaids are wearing navy and we thought that would be too much. But I definitely went with him to men's warehouse for the final look and gave my opinion on the tie etc 🤣
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  • Lisa
    Legend July 2022
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    Oh my gosh, too funny! Good thing you weren't surprised at the altar lol. Glad you guys were able to come to an agreement on a suit! My fiance chose what he wanted to wear, though we did discuss options before he made a decision (he also helped picked bridesmaids dress colors, we made almost all wedding decisions together, except for my dress). Initially, he mentioned the idea of an all tie dye suit (he said he wanted to pick something fun), and I wasn't thrilled about the idea, but didn't reject it, since he's the one that would have to wear it. Thankfully, the place he's getting his suit from doesn't do tie dye, so so ultimately, he settled for tie dye socks, and a light grey suit with a tie that matches the color of the bridesmaids dresses.
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  • Meghan
    Master October 2019
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    Haha this makes me laugh. When I bear "blue leisure suit" I think about cousin Eddie from Christmas Vacation Smiley laugh . I am so glad he has changed his mind.

    We were a 2 bride wedding, but I let my wife choose her own "outfit" (dress, pant suit, jumpsuit). She ended up choosing a dress. I did choose my bridesmen's suits!

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  • Chrysta
    Master November 2022
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    Sometimes they just need a visual aid LOL
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  • Lisa
    Super October 2021
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    My fiancé is picking his and his best mans attire. Right now I think they are going with light grey suits & vests with a Tiffany Blue tie. 100% his choice.
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  • Chrysta
    Master November 2022
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    Oh Lord, I am so glad my fiancé never thought of a tie-dye suit, because I guarantee he would have been all about that! (I am pretty sure he was a hippie in his past life LOL)
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  • Kristen
    Master November 2020
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    I did not. My husband likes to look good and for our minimony I just did not want a polo and khakis lol. Luckily on his own accord he show a 3 piece suit so that made me happy. I just did not want to dictate what he wore but yeah if he mentioned a powder blue leisure suit then I may have said how about...? LOL

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  • Dallas
    Devoted November 2020
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    I also let my DH choose his outfit. But he also helped make 90% of all wedding decisions. So once we decided on colors/themes, he asked to wear blue jeans and a vest, but stated he wanted to be the only one wearing a tie. So easy enough to plan out and purchase!
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  • Chrysta
    Master November 2022
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    Haha! I never even thought of Cousin Eddie! 😆My first thought was the hideous powder blue suit in Dumb and Dumber.
    Did you and your wife see each other‘s dresses prior to the wedding? Or was it a surprise when you walked down the aisle?
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  • Belle
    VIP August 1997
    Belle ·
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    I wanted to be surprise by him, but after having a talk and giving it a 2nd thought, NOPE! I can’t let him choose his and the groomsman and ring bearer attire (our sons). If I let him, he would go with shorts and shirt, and no shoes and no boutonnières 😱. I respectfully told him I can’t let him do that, and he was okay for me to be the judge of his choice of attire. I mean, I don’t want our wedding pictures looking like “Who’s that stranger at the beach asking to have a picture with the bride?”
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  • Meghan
    Master October 2019
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    Haha Dumb and Dumber is another good one!!

    We saw each others dresses for the first time during our first look. I actually did not even know if she chose a dress, suit, or jumpsuit until that day! We did get our dresses from the same bridal boutique, so the consultant was able to make sure they looked good together.

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    Champion July 2019
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    My husband and I went together to look at suits and tuxes. Black was one of our colors so it was a no brainier that he would be wearing black. When we got there the consultant asked if he wanted to wear a tux or suit, but my husband's answer was that he didn't care so she asked my opinion and I said tux. She showed us the different black tux options they had. My husband said any of them were fine except for two. He told me to pick from the remaining since I was one looking at him during the wedding. My husband cared more about our fathers not wearing black even though that's what was originally planned for my dad to wear so my dad switched to gray. He had to rent a tux either way because he doesn't own formal attire. My husband forgot to tell his dad no black🤦I definitely wasn't happy when I saw dad's black suit because I really wanted my dad to wear black until my husband vetoed it.
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  • Michelle
    Master April 2021
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    Oh thanks for the laugh! Powder blue leisure suit? For reals??
    My fiancé decided he wanted to wear a suit & he chose the color (charcoal). I, too, was surprised he wanted me to come to his appointment with the suit guy. He wanted me to help him decide on style, color for the tie/vest, etc.
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  • Chrysta
    Master November 2022
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    So did you specify to him the formality his attire needed to be? (ie, no polo and khakis) or did he just do good all on his own?
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  • Chrysta
    Master November 2022
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    I love that the first look was a surprise for both of you! ❤️ That was such a good idea to go to the same boutique & have the consultant make sure your outfits complemented each other (and that you didn’t pick out the same dress! Lol)
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  • Chrysta
    Master November 2022
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    Haha! You are totally right- if you were in a gown on the beach and he was in shorts & t-shirt it would totally look like a tourist posing with a bride 😆
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  • Chrysta
    Master November 2022
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    Oh no! What was his reasoning behind vetoing towing black for the fathers?
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    Master January 2019
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    🤣 so funny!
    My husband knew what he wanted to wear. He knew like right off the bat, didn’t have to think about it he wanted to wear white. But I went with him to look and pick it out. He did “let me” choose the groomsmen vest color though.
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  • Chrysta
    Master November 2022
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    Girl. FOR REAL 😆🤦🏼‍♀️ And this wasn’t one of those random side comments that he wouldn’t ever act on... he actually pulled out an old photo album where he wore a powder blue suit for his prom, just to show me “how cool it looks”!!!
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    After I narrowed my dress choice down to 3, I asked FI and Mom. So he had seen my dress. We had talked earlier about different formality of clothes, setting and service. He agreed on formal, and said he would look at choices with his brother the BM. He came home with a midnight blue tux, and his Brother bought a dark navy that was available to buy or rent. I wasn't surprised. Even at a casual eve t, he is careful about his appearance. He already own a black tux he bought the year before and had worn in 1 army bud and two brothers weddings the year before ours. But he thought midnight blue was better with my pale gold, and I agree. That is when I found he had all kinds of strong opinions on clothes. One we agreed on, was that in formal suits or tuxes, accessories should be ones you would ordinarily wear with the suit, a d never matched to bridesmaids' dresses, which is a fairly new wedding thing I hate. And which is never done, except in recent wedding silliness. I like the fact that he is fully grown up, and never like a little boy or teen who needs me to play mommy to help him pack, or pick out clothes or take care of them. It is one of the first attractive things I noticed, and Kudos to my MIL.
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