Lets throw etiquette out the window for one second

I would want warning as early as possible. 6 months would not be enough for a holiday weekend. 10 -12 months would be great! I already have my holidays planned by 6 months away. I might have to miss your wedding if I can’t get out of previous plans.

View Quoted Comment Throwing etiquette out the window here, I think the timeline you're thinking of would be just fine. I did something similar. My wedding is on a Friday (non-holiday) in September, sent out STDs in February and sent the invitation end of May. The reason is similar to yours as well. Almost every has to travel to attend the wedding (there's maybe 11 people that won't need to), it's on a Friday afternoon/evening and finally I got tired of people asking our parents for information about the wedding and his parents giving out the wrong info or people asking about the invitation so I sent them when I did.
I hope everything goes well for you, NYE is an awesome idea/theme 😊

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I agree with this. Plus, as a guest, I would expect that almost any hotel is going to be a lot more expensive on NYE especially in New York. If I got your STD I would immediately start looking to book my hotel to get the lower rate rather than waiting closer to the wedding.

I guess since most of our friends we want t at the wedding would not be able to attend if we did that and it would make it hard for family to attend.

View Quoted Comment I agree with this also Air And B are cheaper also china town and Financial district are cheaper. So if I could do I would look for another hotel.

6 months at least. If the wedding is New Year's then the STDs need to go out like now.

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It did not have a website because my parents are old school. And now I wish I had. because everyone is driving me insane lol

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Thanks!!!!!!!

Our hotel block required reservations 90 days in advance. So I mailed the invitations a month before that deadline and including a wedding detail sheet letting everyone know about the deadline. I asked for the RSVP about 6 weeks before our wedding though.

I would want to know far in advance. Maybe up to 6 months ahead so I can properly budget without it impacting other finances.

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I'm not in NYC but a hotel is going to be higher everywhere on NYE. But I would start looking for flights but most people were waiting to see if I had reserved a block of hotels which I did. But I had not done that when the save the dates went out

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I would start looking for flights too if it were me because I'm the type of person that has to have everything planned. So I would start looking for flights. But most in my circle would be asking if I had reserved a block of hotels so they would be waiting on that. I did not have the hotel at the time the save the date went out. Also I'm not in NYC but yes hotels will be expensive everywhere on NYE

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That's what I was thinking, I don't want to impact their finances with them not having enough time to plan accordingly

Thanks for all the advice. This is what we are going with. The wedding is Dec 31 and the hotel has a book by date of Nov 15. And the venue wants a head count by Dec 1. So I will send the invites July 15 with an RSVP date of Nov 15 which is four months. And that gives me about two weeks to call/ wait on the late rsvp's before the had count is do to the venue.

I figured it would be best to make the rsvp date the same as the hotel book by date

I think this is what a save the date helps with. If a std was sent 6-8+ months before I think a standard invitation timeline is fine. We are having lots of guests from out of the the country so sent our save the dates about 10 months out but will send invites at a relatively standard time (10 weeks out). I’ve definitely taken time off or arranged travel for other weddings without the formal invite in hand, a save the date has been enough!

We are going to a wedding in Mexico Oct 2020. I just got the save the date and all the booking info. I really appreciate it that far in advance. It will cost about 3k for us to attend.

I sent my save the dates already simply because it's a Sunday wedding, lots of the guests have kids going back to school, and some guests live out of state and/or have long drives.

In your situation, I'd be sending save the dates at minimum a year before and the invites at minimum 6 months ahead.

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I wish I had the booking info when we did our save the dates. That's why the urgency to get the invites out now that we have it

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Yes we sent the save the dates in the middle of February Once we booked the venue but did not have the booking info. We have it now that's why the urgency to get the invites out. They will go out July 15 with an rsvp date of Nov 15 since the hotel has a book by date of Nov 15

I would want to know ahead of time, especially if the hotel was $400. That's not something I cna just hop in the car and be like "Okay!" so my advice? Treat it like a destination wedding. Send them out early so that people have plenty of time to arrange things.