Let's say you want to uninvite someone...

If you have to deal with this person regularly i say you break it to them gently, and blame the budget for the reason they were not included.

I would select B. I would get her alone and explain that due to space/budget we couldn't invite everyone we wanted.

I hope everyone knows that C is a joke, by the way .

How did it happen? My answer is A. If they didn't get an invite, they're not invited. If you don't want them there, don't do it to yourself. It might bother you up until the wedding or even the day of if you do invite them.

I'm having a similar issue. My FH great aunt's daughters think they're invited. They were at first up until one was drunk enough to assume I'm trying to have a big wedding to impress the family and that I'm having my FH spend all the $ to make me happy and I might divorce him later. Who says that? She also tried to impersonate me as if I was a white valley girl, saying "like... and like." She can like wonder why she was never invited like when the invitations are out.

It happened like this:

She found out I was engaged and started talking about who she was going to bring as a date to my wedding. I was so floored by her immediate assumption that I didn't say anything right away when I should have.

We used to work together but didn't really see each other or talk outside of the office then...and to be honest, I don't think she's a very nice person, so I tended to avoid her when I could.

@Maria, that is a HORRIBLE thing to say to someone! I'm so sorry that you're dealing with that.

I wouldn't say anything at all, when the invites go out, and she asks. Then tell her she didn't get invited because of 'option b'

Haha she sounds like my ex bridesmaid who immediately said when I was engaged "Oooh I hope I get pregnant and have a little girl so I can dress her up in a cute dress". But I didn't want children at my wedding. I never said anything because well...she wasn't pregnant. Then she got pregnant and started bringing it up more and when I told her and explained why we didn't want children she thought I was being sexist and ageist and all kinds of stuff and treated like her baby was the next messiah and how could we not want her precious angel?! She wanted to just show him off and yeah anyway...so letting them down after they've already gotten their hopes up might be difficult. However it's better to just tell them directly. If they don't get an invite, they'll just assume you've forgotten and then ask about it again...and eventually you'll probably have to say something. Best to let them down now.

I say just send the invites out, she will either get the hint and slope back to where she came from, or confront you, which is where you have option and can explain the decision to her in the nicest way possible.

I just wouldn't send her an invite and make her look like an ass for assuming she was invited lol. You said she isn't a nice person so chances are putting her hopes and dreams of attending your wedding down in a nice, polite fashion will probably back fire on you.

SMDH People are crazy. You don't have to un-invite her because she wasn't invited in the 1st place. I didn't know this was a thing until WW. People just inviting themselves to events. Where in the hell do they do that at???????????

Say nothing and don't send them an invitation

ETA: If she is bold enough to ask why she didn't get an invite, I would make up a white lie about space restrictions, fiance having a large family, etc.

Little bit of column a, little bit of column b....

I would choose A, and if she brings it up just say you're keeping the guest list small, etc..

I'd choose A, then B but only if absolutely necessary/. I avoid awkward things like that at all costs!

Some of these answers are hilarious, thanks ladies . Invite etiquette can be tricky, especially when someone invites herself to something as pricy as a wedding!

D) quit your job, change your name, and move to a new state. Seems like the obvious choice. ;-)

A. I would just ignore it.

I say break it to her gently, blame the budget, say you're only inviting family, what ever you think is a good enough excuse. My future mother in law added a few extra family members to the guest list just to keep everyone happy and not upset people. They're not my or my fiance's first choice at guests, but i wont say why. At first my future mother in law said to just send them a save the date, no invitation, but i knew that word would spread in the family about when and where the wedding was. And to avoid having them show up with out me planning on them being there, so to save my and my fiances butts we're sending them the invitations. But we're politely letting them know it's a black tie event, and they wont come. I would set her down and tell her that you're keeping it to family only to help with the budget. That way you don't look silly if she finds out where it's at and just shows up after asking you about not getting an invitation.

I've had people assume they're coming, even though I haven't spoken to them in months/years... they never ask me, but usually my mum (I have no idea why) and she just tells them it's very small because we're saving to go overseas or whatever...