LDR (Long Distance Relationships)

Well I'm no longer in a LDR. My FH lived a hr & a half away from me, and planning sucked! I hated seeing him only on the weekends. Well I lost my job in Lynchburg and found a job in Roanoke, which was 30 mins from where he lived. So we decided to just move in together now and it's been GREAT! I love seeing him everyday and falling asleep beside him. Plus it's great help that he helps with my son

Well, we're already married, but we did a LDR. My husband moved to my home city. Planning was a little difficult, but I had a lot of help from my bridal party. Our iPhones became our best friends with needing to get instant approval to purchase something (smile). We planned the wedding 18 months, so that helped...it wasn't a rushed wedding. Enjoy this time together. You'll be together real soon, and you'll never want to part :-)

My FH and I started out in a long distance relationship... 300 miles. It was tough in the beginning but we knew it wasn't permanent. After about 6 months of dating, I was graduating college and he was already well established in the city he was living so I made the choice to move to his city to be with him.

Moving was tough on me and 3.5 years later I'm still adjusting. I still don't have any close friends here, only aquaintances, mostly dog park friends who I have dog play dates with. I don't have anyone up here to just call and be like "Let's have a girls night and go to dinner and see a chick flick." All my close friends are still in Jersey. So it has been very tough in that aspect, but going back I wouldn't have done anything differently.

Oh and we didn't have to worry about wedding planning then lol

I just moved to California From Ohio... Talk about Long Distance!!!

All wedding planning was on hold until after I moved, It was just to hard to plan a Beach wedding from 2000 miles away, but I was able to get LOTS of Ideas!!

Fh & I flew back & forth about every 3 months, for about 1 1/2 years.

We really only do spurts of planning when we have time off together. The wedding is closer to where he is. It has forced us to take it slow, which I am now really thankful for because our vision has evolved and all of this time to research has done wonders for our budget.

I will luckily be moving back to him in the next couple of months. We have been apart for the last 2.5 years that I've been in grad school. We were together 2.5 years before that, and had spurts of long distance in that time (even as far as London -- Orlando for 4 months). So 3 of our 5 years together have been long distance.

We've been long distance for almost two years now. Right now I am in WI and he is in AZ and I'll be moving there just before the wedding, after I finish grad school. We usually spend some time planning when we're together and we set up a joint email account that we use for communicating with all our vendors so that we can both take turns responding. He lives near the wedding location now so he has been doing more of the onsite stuff. I cannot wait to close the distance...it has been far too long!

We are 3000 miles apart, I'm in Cali and he's in Mass. We're hoping that he'll be able to move here after the wedding but it looks like I'll have to move back east - damn! We met while I was living on the East Coast. I'm originally from Cali but was living out East for 8 years and moved back to Cali in 2010, so we've been LDR since May of last year and became engaged in August of last year. He's the one with a job right now and we both would hate for him to have to give that up in this day and age of trying to find another one - everyone knows how tough that is. So it seriously looks like I'll have to go back there for a while anyways. But the wedding is in Cali so he'll have to come this way for that. We try to fly back and forth every couple of months but this next year will be tough since he can't take any time off - needs to save it for the wedding. Soooo looking forward to the time when we'll be together permanently!

OHhhhh Lord - well loool we started our relationship me in Houston and BF (at the time) in Fort Worth... well now I am in Dallas area and He in Canada.... It's as painful as you could imagine. But I am looking forward to the big day and me moving there!

I am sure it will be a serious life adjustment.

I know moving is exciting!!! Good luck to you all. Especially you, Queen T. Moving all the way to Canada! wow!!!!

I have been with my FH for 2.5 years. We lived 15 minutes apart & saw one another everyday. He joined the Army in October 2010 & left for basic training in January 2011. He is currently in S. Korea & I live in California. We were apart from January through the end of April (Easter) then he left for S. Korea at the end of May. So we have been apart for most of this year. A LDR is not something I would have ever thought I would be in. It is not something I would wish upon anyone. We do make it work though. The planning is tough mainly because I don't want FH to feel left out of the decision making. We continue to remind each other that we can do it, we are (Army) strong. It is worth it, if it wasn't we wouldn't be getting married!

I am going to spend Christmas & New Years with FH...I leave for S. Korea on Dec 21! I am beyond excited

Oh I forgot FH will be back stateside in May 2012 & We will move to Colorado

I give all you ladies the upmost respect and praise!!! My FH and I have been apart for an entire month now. I just relocated to Texas and he stayed behind in WI. I was lucky to find a job before I made the move. So I found us an apartment and now I'm ready for him to join me. THANK GOD he will be here next weekend...that was the longest month ever!!!

My husband and I have been married for 4 months and live in 2 different states. I live in Ohio and he is in Iowa. We thought this plan would work but have since come to realize that I miss my husband so over Thanksgiving it was decided that he will be moving to Ohio.

Hold on, Gina, you thought the plan would work for now or were you actually planning on being married and living in 2 different states?

Pretty similar to Meagan, only Marine Corps. FH is in NC, and I am in WI. He's deploying this Spring, and will be gone for a year. Really dreading it. 2 more years if he doesn't reenlist next year, than I'll have him around every day. I'm doing all of the planning. It's just easier that way. It was a pain to find a photographer who could do our e-pics super short notice while he was home on leave, and planning everything would be like that if FH was more involved. He isn't very into planning anyway, so it works out on his end.

Double post

1. We were in two different countries actually, he basically let me make most of the decisions, he just kept budget in check, that was his biggest concern..I'd ask him choices and he's usually say "you know best" lol..then he had more say in things once he actually came here about a month before the wedding..we did a loot of skyping! we skyped his parents into the reception, that was pretty awesome!

2. My amazing DS moved from Venezuela to the US.

3. about 7.5 years now :-)

LDR's suck. We were in one. It was only 2 hours away but it felt like being cross country. I was so happy when FH bought a townhouse and moved his office to my area just to be closer to me after dating LD for a year and half.

A lot of psychologists say you should move to be closer together for a time before marriage to see if the relationship is really going to work. They say its because in a LDR you only see each other for a short amount of time during the year. So if its every weekend. Then you only spend time with each other for 96 days out of 365. That's a hard deal.

Even with the ichat, the phone calls, facebook, and all of that when we were LD...we really got to know each other after he was around me almost everyday...but it made us even closer!!

Well one day soon ladies, if not already, we will be with our someone special and then it will be all worth it! And for those of you that your significant other is serving our country, we all owe them our gratitude - thank you!