Lasagna add the dinner entree?

Honest to god, if I went to a self catered wedding, I'd be looking for hairs in the food.

Allyson, Doing adequate research on quality catering, cutting the guest list, and cutting unnecessary cost can help with budgeting. I'd really rather not get sick or be served only 1 dinner option. Cooking for a large crowd is very different than just a large family.

@Allyson nah, we're pretty basic bishes who feed their guests decent meals. Sue us?

@sage you should probably read the community guidelines prior to violating them. Also, etiquette isn't opinion. There indeed IS proper etiquette and a choice involved in following it. Etiquette is not opinion nor is it up for interpretation. It's a thing. You can choose not to follow it, but @OP said they are trying to save money by cutting corners, and food/guest experience is the LAST place to cut corners. Sorry, that is being cheap.

Have a blessed day though

How can you just offer ONE type of food? You're basically forcing them to eat that or nothing lol

This is absurd!! You should want your guests to come and enjoy themselves and "pick" and taste diff stuff and want them to leave and say wow I'm stuffed, that was amazing! I wouldn't even come to your wedding and on top of that give u a gift? I don't know...I would just elope!! Save myself the embarrassment!

Allyson, you don't have to spend ridiculous amounts if you have a small guest list. NO-ONE has said spend a ridiculous amount,

Macaroni Grill or Olive Garden will charge that range for pasta. Not that you need another person telling you not to do it yourself

I don't necessarily think that asking for professionally produced food equates to being high maintenance.

Allyson, I'm all over not spending a ton of money "on one day" but the way to do that is to cut the damn list, not hand make food that might kill someone.

Sorry about your luck but where I'm from this is how we do it and have never had a problem with anyone getting sick, the food will be properly stored and heated or refrigerated, I guess people in different areas just do things differently and I'm not eloping, all of my friends have had weddings like mine and we have a good time and the food is always great.

Please don't.

Please. Please. Don't.

That plate price is a cake walk to ours. We are at $110 a head. Granted that includes everything including beer, wine, champagne etc

Call local restaurants. BBQ, Italian.

Allyson, don't expect us to validate the self-catering option. If your guests get sick from food borne illness from your wedding, what's your plan? How will you be compensating your guests?

@allyson etiquette and classiness aren't regional but okay

Allyson, this post isn't even about you, so don't highjack her thread. Where i grew up it was potluck everything. Doesn't mean it's ok for weddings or even safe.

I'm sorry but if wanting to make sure my food is safe for myself and my guests is high maintenance then i'll gladly be high maintenance..

Allyson...there is no etiquette rule that says you should spend ridiculous amounts of money on one day. However, the minute, the second, you start inviting people to celebrate YOU, you'd better host them properly, and properly means quality over quantity, It means a choice of meals, and it means an attention to potential guest food issues. If you can't do that, or won't, then just admit what you're doing -- at least on this forum (because you aren't fooling anyone who lives and breathes weddings). If you haven't figured out a basic hosting truth, then leave the majority of your guests the hell alone..

I think everyone missed the part about my people having catering experience ( should have mentioned equipment too)so I would know it's safe... also wasn't trying to hijack her thread. I definitely don't need validation from strangers who won't even be attending.

Allyson, I had a "professional" nearly kill me 3 weeks ago because she LIED to me about how the food is prepared.... So forgive me but my experience is unpleasant... My FH is in charge of food because of his background in running kitchens, ensuring food safety... It is imperative people listen about food allergies. Literally life or death for some people..

My family has experience with catering, my mom used to design and make wedding cakes. my family is doing none of that for me. I don't want them to. I want them to enjoy the day.

Rachel I completely understand that I think I just have a different idea for my wedding than most people on here, wasn't trying to be rude to anyone

I have catering experience, and food safe certification from being a chef but that doesn't mean I want to oversee the food at my wedding. I planned my wedding far enough out that I could afford to host the guest list that was agreed upon.

@allyson but your people are your friends who should be enjoying your wedding not working it unpaid... they're not slaves. Even if they volunteer it's rude. Pay your own bills and pay for your own caterer. Adulting 101. You won't know shit. It's your wedding day FFS.

You offered your opinion and situation as advice. It's shitty advice.

Vicki I understand that my friends are not slaves which is why I have not asked them to do anything, it's just something our friend group does we cook for each other's weddings. I don't really feel the need to try to explain this anymore because obviously none of you really get that but it is something that my guests are okay with and I know this because all of their weddings were the same way. Y'all have a nice night/ weddings!

Allyson you never answered my liability question? What if someone hurts themselves working the kitchen for your wedding? Do you have insurance coverage for that?