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Ladies Help less than 6 months away

Patricia, on September 28, 2019 at 3:34 PM Posted in Planning 0 7
Hi , I'm slightly 6 months away from my Wedding Day. I'm wanting to have a very intimate Ceremony and Reception so therfore me and my FH have about 40 people on our list , but I'm wanting to do something with some friend's from church, work ,and Friends as well that I'm not inviting to the reception do to that being more close family.. Any ideas on how I can include them in something.. Bridal shower , Brunch , are in mind and I'm thinking getting them a thank you gift .. Do I need to explain to them about our intimate setting and at a later date we will plan something bigger .. Help please ladies

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Latest activity by Judith, on September 28, 2019 at 9:42 PM
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    Melle ·
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    You can do a party after your wedding and invite those people.
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  • Patricia
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    Patricia ·
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    Thanks will look into that
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  • Aleaj
    Expert October 2019
    Aleaj ·
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    You can incorporate them into your bridal shower, or like you said have a dinner with them, & then give them favors.
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  • Patricia
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    Patricia ·
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    Thank you glad I am leaning towards a decent idea
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  • MOB So Cal
    January 2019
    MOB So Cal ·
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    FYI some people might find it insulting to be invited to a shower for you (a gift-giving activity), but not actually be invited to the wedding. So, that suggestion is very much a "know your crowd" kind of thing. The most socially sensitive thing to do would be to invite those people to a hosted celebration after your wedding/reception. The implication then is that you are inviting them to a celebration you host for/with them, rather than inviting them to come to a pre-wedding event where a gift is expected.

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  • Patricia
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    Patricia ·
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    I understand that I wasn't expecting a gift ... I just wanted to share a moment with them, but I could see how a person could take it so I will definitely think on that... Thanks always good to have a second opinion
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    Sometimes bridal luncheon s or teas ( light supper and beverages, for socializing) are parties given for brides, hosted by friends. Simply no presents ( showers are all about the presents.)
    But there is also a tradition of having a social occasion hosted by the bride, open to anyone whom she invites, even though not invited to the wedding. Neighbors, coworkers, club or church members. Except that MOB may attend, it is not about family. It is usually just 3 hours max, it is made clear no gifts, please, this is not a shower.
    It is simply a brunch or tea party, not a full meal, may be dressy but not formal. Where you as bride want a gathering for any people you choose, who are shut out of other wedding related parties. Invitations say, you are invited to ( luncheon , afternoon tea, light supper) and socializing. Not called, a bridal tea. ** But you put on it that there are many important people in your life who will not be at your very small, mostly family wedding. And you would enjoy an afternoon ( evening ) of their company. Then at bottom: No gifts, please. This is not a shower.
    Since this is not a formal occasion, you can be more descriptive in your invitation. . . .**These used to be more common, but these days, people think if the word bridal is in it, it means wedding guests only. So just "tea" or "social" or even "open house".
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