Lack of excitement

Yes you are not alone. This weekend Fiance and I decided to pospone our October wedding for April 2021! It is hard breaking. I have yet to hear back from the venue and the cater company to see in what way they can help us. I do feel bumed out

I know exactly how you're feeling. Our date is June 28th, and this is after we had to postpone our March 22nd wedding. It's been SO incredibly hard trying to remain optimistic and upbeat when it's not guaranteed that we'll even have our big day in June. All my friends and family are being very supportive, but some of my friends that have already had their big day just keep telling me that years from now having a big wedding won't matter to us. I know they're right, but it's also easy for them to say when they DID get to have their dream wedding without hiccups like this. We haven't postponed yet, as we are in Florida where things seem to be slowly looking up. Hoping you get to have the day you envisioned!

I get the emotional roller coaster. At first I felt that way myself. I actually postponed a second time from this summer to the fall and now entirely to July 2021. It wasn’t ideal but for me I want the big day. I want the party. I feel personally I’ve spent a lot of money and there’s no way this virus is going to stop me from having that. I’ve accepted if I did a wedding this year it wouldn’t be completely what I envisioned. Masks, social distancing, and certain family members being restricted from coming just isn’t part of my plans. It’s got to be perfect and moving it to next summer is the only way I can guarantee that. I know not everyone can do thus as they want to start a family or their venues aren’t accommodating. Thankfully mine has been. It’s certainly not anything any one of us would have predicted. But it’s a fact for us all. The pandemic of our lifetime we will never forget. If you still can move it to next year and you want that big day stress free do it. You’ll feel a lot better. Don’t let this control what you want.

Hey I feel you, my wedding was supposed to 5/30 in virginia and idk what to do. i have aug 29th reserved in case but few of my vendors are not going to be that date. Its tough. everyone is saying just have something in our backyard which is big and under construction right now but I want the whole wedding experience and I wont have that in may. but if aug is good alot of family wont be able to come, and idk if that date would be changed again or not. its so hard

I feel this 100%. If only all of us could get together with some food and drinks and talk about this all together as postponed brides! We postponed from June 2020 to August 2020 and then to June 2021 (just yesterday). We are thankful that all of our vendors were available for our new date and are not charging us and that our venue and planner has been great about everything. However, it is really, really hard and draining and sometimes I think people might mean well but it isn't helpful. I completely understand what you mean about the lack of excitement, especially when insensitive things are said about postponing. However, one of my friends said something really profound to me and that was "Let's do a reset." My canceled shower and bachelorette party can now happen when things are safe (the same friend ordered "Final Fiesta" goodies and plans on using them whenever it is booked), I can do a re-design on our website, we can keep adding things at our leisure to the registry, keep thinking of decor and music, etc. I know it might seem a little Pollyanna-ish but when she framed it for me that way, it helped because since February planning has been a pain and the what-ifs surrounding the pandemic took away my excitement. Now I am approaching it with the mindset of "I have the big things all done and now I get to focus on the fun stuff without worrying about the what-ifs of COVID-19." On that note, I will say to take the time to be upset when and if you postpone but don't let it take away from the fact that you found your partner in life and that is not something that everyone is blessed enough to find!

Did you get married??

So grateful to have found this thread. We postponed our May 23rd 2020 wedding to July 3rd 2021. Our guests dropped from 200 to 50 and I'm personally over it and wish we could cancel but so much money has already been put in. My matron of honor and a bridesmaid have already dropped out. Didn't have a bachelorette or bridal shower... I just want to move on with life...

You're not alone. When things were so up in the air, it took us a long time to get excited again about planning. We didn't even know when our wedding would get to be! Even after we finally settled on October 23rd of this year, and knowing we were 75% done with our planning as it was (we were three weeks away from our wedding when everything shut down last year), it still took us a while to really feel excited again. We've all been smacked in the face by reality, which can kill the mood every time. I get worried about doing new invitations and whether or not I will in fact get my bachelorette party, and I worry about the family drama resurfacing, more so on my fiance's side. At the end of the day, though, I remind myself "I'm getting married!", and that gives me a bit of peace. I hope you and your fiance are able to find a similar peace of mind and will ultimately enjoy your special day.