Lack of excitement

I feel like it’s a mixed emotions right now for us. We are 100% excited and trying to pretend nothing is going on, but definitely hurts when people joke about having to postpone bc of the pandemic 🙂. We are trying to not get overly worked up on if we have to push things back. We’ve talked to our vendors and all of them are pretty lax on if we need to reschedule.

Also. If i get tagged in anymore “free Busch lights for weddings impacted my COVID19” I’m going to scream haha. Like I get they are trying to be positive but we have not yet cancelled so I do not want to see it.

I definitely feel the same way. I have stopped being excited because I don't want to get my hopes up. Mine is in September, but the questions have been steadily coming.. "is the wedding still on?", "are you going to postpone?" and it's all really starting to get to me. My FH is not worried at all. I wish I could just turn my thoughts off!

July 18th wedding. We are so bummed and our heads are spinning. My FH’s sister told us she hopes our summer and wedding is as magical is hers was and I am like are you kidding me? Shower is canceled. This is not a magical time. This is so stressful. I don’t want to get excited and I don’t want to plan. Our wedding planner wants us to do a plan B or reschedule but we aren’t ready to give in yet. Our venue says they will try to work with us but we don’t know for sure what will happen. We will wait till June. So much stress over this.

I’ve lost so much excited bachelorette cancelled bridal shower cancelled eloping on July 17 not sure how many people can actually be even present for it it doesn’t feel the same at all we’re moving reception to October with still the uncertainty of it will happen. I’m sad but I’m also just exhausted and over it. Financially we are hurting trying to keep up with the bill of the wedding and the other bills and just want to put this behind us we want to move into a bigger place next year and get our debt under control and waiting a whole year of constant uncertainty and heartbreak just isn’t something we want to do. At the very least if nothing happens we will try and get our money back and just get in my dress and his tux and take pictures it’s heartbreaking that we can’t have the day we wanted and I know it’s effecting us in many ways and it just doesn’t feel the same really. I’m trying to stay positive what matters is us getting married and having each other but i can’t help but still feel so sad about all the work we put into it which is in many ways just being wasted.

My/our excitement is at a low when we should have been gearing up for our respective bachelorette/bachelor weekend at the end of May 😔. I had 90% of the wedding planned in December, but we have no idea what will be by our planned June nuptials. We Zoomed with our parents and they joked that we should follow in both their footsteps and do a courthouse ceremony. Our county doesn’t perform those and I’m not sorry to say that’s not good enough for me. We’ve been together over 7 years and we don’t want to wait another year as we are making decisions about starting our family.

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We postponed our May 23rd wedding on April 1st. We are getting married August 14th now. I'm so salty about it. I have had such a hard time being excited. We literally have all of the decorations in our apartment, my dress has been altered and hanging in my closet for a month, and this last weekend was supposed to be our shower. If anything happens to our August date, we are getting married and moving on. I'm not postponing again.

Our vendors have been amazing and all of them were able to accomodate the new date. But my heart isn't in it. Literally everything is ready. So, instead, we are shopping for a house.

EXACTLY the same. Constantly going back and forth through stages of grief. I'd feel excited and then not, but at this point the excitement is just gone. I know eventually things will get better and I will get to marry my guy one way or another, but that isn't helping me feel better right now. I feel shattered.

Ladies! Thank you for your honest vulnerability. I think we are all feeling along the same lines.

I was just telling a girlfriend of mine about how this all doesn't feel right because I am not as excited during the process as I thought I'd be. My Fiancé and I got engaged March 7th, 2020 on a vacation and when we got back stateside we were placed in quarantine the day after we returned and I was furloughed too that day. I haven't been able to really celebrate being engaged at all and we are still trying to plan and go with our October 17th, 2020 wedding, but like you are all saying its been hard enjoying the process. My Fiancé really just wants us to elope but only a sliver of me is okay with it because of how much unknown there is. I am not sure if our bridal shower, bachelorette/bachelor parties will even happen.

I feel for you summer brides. I can't imagine the full feelings and emotions you are going through.

I am in the same boat. I felt bad for not feeling excited but the thought of having to change plans would be so heartbreaking. It makes me feel relieved that I am not the only one feeling this way! Our wedding is August 28th 2020. So we will still have time but it is just hard to know what to do. I live on california and I think things are startong to shift next month for the better so that is kind of a light at the end of the tunnel. I am not working so I think that makes things worse with thr thoughts just popping up in my head. My family is half and half. Some are saying we will have it some are thinking there is no way. I am praying for all of the summer brides as we go through this together!! 💛

Hi! I'm supposed to get married on June 6th. I am having those same feelings! Our wedding is still on as of right now and I'm trying to think positive. All of the uncertainty has had me so bummed out that I can't even force myself to sit down and plan more (thankfully i'm almost done though). However, even if we can't have our big wedding, we will still be getting married on that day. I'm prepared to make the best out of it. Just know that you are not alone in this!

60 days and counting! I am on the opposite side of this. While I am disappointed that my wedding won’t look like we planned it, it hasn’t dampened my excitement! Most of our vendors are being very flexible and I’m very sure we will have to have to big wedding and reception (250 guests) later. Every day that I get closer to June 27th, the excitement kicks up a notch. It helps that he is just as excited! I still talk about our wedding, post about on FB (I know they are sick of us but I don’t care. Lol). I’m just so excited about marrying the man I love and sharing a home and a bed (we are abstaining) with him. I’m looking forward to our wedding day AND the big celebration that I hope will soon follow. With all that being said I certainly understand why the excitement for has dwindled or not even there at all. I hope that you find a way to find some joy even if it is the wedding you planned. This pandemic has definitely wrecked havoc on wedding planning, weddings and honeymoons. I pray that all of us bride affected by the pandemic will get the wedding that we want and all the joy that comes with even if it is at a later date. ❤️

I had to cancel my bridal shower and bachelorette. I’m upset because I’m the last of my friends to get married, and I don’t get any of that fun stuff 😞

You're definitely not alone. I don't get married until October and I'm even having a tough time. I'm supposed to be doing our invitations myself and haven't been able to bring myself to actually do them because I'm super skeptical right now. It's tough because we all have SO MUCH time to think about it and, in a perfect world, get ahead in planning but it's hard to do so when you don't even know whether it will happen. We all booked flights for the bach party over labor day weekend because the price was insane so I'm remaining hopeful that this will be over... I'll say a prayer that it's over by your wedding so you can have the day you deserve!

I'm thankful for this thread and for all of the brides-to-be here! We are all in the same boat. Although friends & family try to be helpful, they have no idea what this experience is like, but I'm grateful to see your messages and just feeling belonging in the midst of this.

Our wedding was scheduled for May 15. We postponed to July 10th. At this point, it feels too soon and in my heart I doubt we are going to have it. Like many of you, I've felt no joy about the days leading up to this. Some of our guests are expressing hesitancy to RSVP because we don't know if it's going to be safe. We may just cut our losses and do a small and gathering-approved wedding ceremony then have the big wedding celebration next year.

I have mix emotions!! I told my fiance that I didn't care if we has a wedding anymore just because I was feeling overwhelmed. It's normal to have your concerns and doubts. Other people are feeling the same. Make sure you talk thru your feelings and try not to over stress.

Hello Brides,

My goodness reading everyones comments validates my feelings! I'm a hairstylist and haven't been working for the last 6 weeks. At first I thought this was a blessing, thinking I could tie up all the loose ends to our wedding.. Boy was I wrong. These last 6 weeks has increase my stress and anxiety. Which is why I think we are postponing our wedding to next summer. We live in Iowa but have people flying in from all over to be there on our big day, we would be heartbroken if they couldn't make it due to the virus. So instead, we will wait over a year to tie the knot. This year I hope is filled with celebrating, less stress and less anxiety. Im so sorry you all are going through this; it's not fair, not fun, sad, scary and unknown. We just are having to find the good in it. I hope you all get your dream wedding, and stay healthy and happy!

I am in November and not excited anymore either. Been planning a year and a half. I hope things work out but if they don't it will just have to be that way. I know together we will make it special no matter what. I am bummed about not being able to travel to go on a honeymoon but I hope we find somewhere we can drive to that will be fun if Plan A doesn't work out.

Sending all of you good vibes because we all need them right now.

I feel the same way. In some ways - I feel selfish because I'm worried I won't get to have the experiences that I always hoped I would have. Bachelorette party is at the end of June in Maryland, and I'm really worried that while we may get to still go, a lot of the events the group planned won't be able to happen due to everything being shut down. Still not sure about bridal shower. Wedding isn't until September, and I'm thinking that if schools go back into session we will be okay to have the wedding. We are still proceeding with invitations and inviting 150 people, but I just can't help but feel down in the dumps about it. I feel selfish saying it, but I feel like it's "unfair." We are getting married this year no matter what. If we end up having to tone it down, we'll just have a big, casual party later!