KWR: Are your inlaws close?

My parents and FIL's have only been around each other for a handful of hours. They don't even have each other's phone numbers and probably never will. FIL's live 17+ hours away and are completely opposite of my parents. There will never be a family vacation together lol. I'm sure at the wedding they'll be polite and go their separate ways at the end of the night.

FH parents and my parents live in the same town. FH and I live about 3 hours away.

We actually had dinner last night and even talked about the wedding and my FMIL was on her phone the entire time! That's another rant for another day but needless to say I was super annoyed.

Our families never met until the day of our celebration. I may be in the minority but I don't think it's that big of a deal if your families meet and are buddies.

My parents have never met FH's parents. I think it is fine that way. I think it depends on the people. I know people with in-laws that are friends, but I honestly think it is more common that they are not. You can't force people to be friends.

My FH and I have been together about 5.5 years and I'd say our parents have gotten together about 5 times. They get along and they're cordial, even exchange text messages sometimes (mostly about wedding stuff) but they aren't friends and I don't think they would be if it wasn't for our relationship. But I think it's totally fine and normal. Maybe I'm weird, but I would find it to be kinda odd if they hung out together without FH and I.

My FH's parents are divorced and his father and stepmother live over an hour away so they've only met my parents once and they got along but they're definitely not close. More like acquaintances. His mother and stepfather and my parents have hung out several times but as a family thing and get along just fine but are by no means close. The thing is, they're adults and they don't have to hang out every weekend if they don't want to. My parents are homebodies and prefer each other's company rather than other's and theres nothing wrong with that in my books.

Not at all!! Never expected them to though. I don't know any couples who hang out with in laws and parents together. At one point I thought that the man I marrieds parents would be friends with mine and we'd have big holidays together. Then I woke up. HaHa!! Maybe FH is just really old fashioned.

Our parents have been together twice in the last 9 years we have been together. They actually met for the first time a year or so ago. It irritated me that it took so long but it's not a big deal.

Our parents have barely even met. We live in one state, my parents in another, and his parents in two other states. I doubt it bothers any of them and it definitely doesn't bother me or my fiancé.

We usually try to get together as a group a few times a year but they don't get together on the their own. Our parents live about a half hour away from one another but then we live four hours away. I know his mom has made some comments about my mom never calling her to get together but I always tell my mom it shouldn't be on her to always plan stuff (it's usually her who organizes the larger get-togethers). But then my FMIL has caused a lot of friction in the past over making rude comments so it's really nothing new.

My FH parents are divorced so we do quiet dinners with his mom but with his dad we all ride our motorcycles together. His mom is shy and honestly isn't into the social side but my parents and his dad are great friends

As long as they are nice to each other that should count for something. My FH's parents get along great with mine! They have only met a few times but they enjoy conversation and they all joke around a lot.

They like each other but they don't hang out or talk to each other. FH parents live in Indiana and mine live close to us in Virginia. I think they've probably seen each other 3 times in the 4 years we've been dating haha! But some people are really family oriented. I don't think it's that big of a deal because with time they'll probably grow closer.

We live in the same city as my son's in-laws. We are cordial when family function brings us together. But we have our friends of many many years, we have a social pattern we are very comfortable with. They have their own friends and are not comfortable in social situations, why would we be so disrespectful to expect that they would want to change how they live their lives or how we choose to live ours just because our children married? Tell your husband to get a grip and be more respectful of who these people are and how they choose to live their lives.

Mine have met and they like each other. But they don't hang out.

Our parents have actually gotten a LOT better as the wedding has gotten closer. We've known each other since middle school, and this past Thanksgiving was the first time we got both families together. Dinner started at five, and FH's family didn't go home til around 10. I've never heard either set laugh so hard.

That being said, while I'd love FMIL and my mom go together to get their dresses for the big day, I don't think it'll happen. Not to mention, neither of our families are super close even with the blood relatives!

My parents and my in-laws don't like each other at all.

I get that when you get married it's two families coming together, but I don't think in-laws need to hang out or be friends, especially if it's forced. As long as they can all be mature when it comes to events for our children, that's all I care about.

Mine get along, but they never hang out or anything. My parents would like to, but his are kinda homebodies.

My mom has met my In-laws, but not my dad. My parents live in Florida and FH's family lives in New York. The first time they all really met will most likely be the rehearsal dinner. My mom contacts FMIL every now and then to help coordinate wedding stuff, but they're not friends in the slightest.

My mom is a very standoffish, loud and blunt person. She's nice, but do one little thing she doesn't like and you're screwed. She's also a jealous type - any time I do anything with FH for FMIL (like we went to NH for her birthday), it immediately comes back to me with the guilt tripping (why don't you guys do that for me, etc). I can't hang out with his family without my mom making some rude comment about how we always see them more.

My FMIL is super laid back, carefree, and honestly probably doesn't want to deal with my mom's bullshit, so I doubt they'll ever be good friends. FH's family is also way less social whereas my mom is the complete opposite, so she thinks they're "party poopers" while they probably think she's nuts.

She also didn't make a very good first impression to FH's family when she sent my FH a 10 page long childish Facebook message bitching to him about how he didn't want to split our first Thanksgiving to see both families (I also wasn't happy with him about that, but that's for us to deal with, not her). That wasn't the last time she sent him angry messages about stupid jealously crap either.

So yeah, his family just wants to stay away from the crazy and I honestly don't blame them. The wedding should be interesting.