KWR: Are your inlaws close?

My mom hasn't met FH parents yet...and we've been together for 5 years!

It's mostly due to circumstances FH lived in Canada the first 3 years of our relationship and I live in NY so when he traveled to see me he traveled alone and vis versa. He got a job here just over 2 years ago and we've been living together since then but his parents aren't big on traveling and have yet to come and visit. My mom is disabled (wheelchair bound) and traveling is not easy for her so coming with us when we drive isn't much of an option either. First time they meet will most likely be at our wedding!

My SO's parents and my parents have met and exchanged numbers. They're friendly but probably wouldn't be friends if it weren't for us, but that's cool. They don't fight. So things are great.

My future in-laws live three hours away. My fiance and I live in the same town as my parents. I'm also much closer to my parents than he is to his. We managed to get everyone together once, but that's only because we were driving through with my parents and it was easy for his parents to meet us. Everyone got along fine. so we were glad for that. My fiance has had to adjust to the fact that we are so close to my family and not to his -- they've never once come to see us although we'll come to see them.

Coincidentally, my fiance just got off of the phone with his parents as I was typing this. They were on their way to visit his younger brother. The brother only lives an hour and a half away, but they go to see him on a much more regular basis. I keep telling my fiance that my family is his family now, but I know that's not the same. It makes me sad that it makes him sad

I don't think the parents have to be best friends or anything. Our parents have meet and get along but it's not like they hangout or anything

Our parents actually have made a point to hang out a lot and become close. I think it's because neither of our parents really had an in law experience and when they did it was unpleasant. FFIL lost both of his parents before he was married and FMIL was raised by a single mother and neither of my parents really had parents involved by the time they get married and the one they were close to passed away from cancer shortly before they were married. I think because of all of this they made a point to become close to each other.

Our parents have met a few times and get along fine, but they don't hang out... my mom and his mom were actually in the same home room in high school, which is random! So they knew each other. But yeah. That's about the extent of their relationship lol

12 hour gap here. Ha. Actually FH has only been down to MS to see my family once. Parents will meet each other next year in Vegas. Mine from Mississippi and his from New York and it is going to be... interesting.. ha.

Me and FH have been together for about 8 ish years and our parents have only been around one another a few times. (Prom, graduation, when FH was in the hospital) I don't think it's very common for the extended families to blend and become this giant group of friends.

Our parents met, got along well enough that we could host Thanksgiving at our place, but aren't likely to be BFFs, and that's fine by me. Honestly, my dad is such a jerk, I'd be embarrassed to haev them together too often. :/

Our father's have never met, and our mother's have gone out to lunch together once.

We do a lot together w both sets of parents, but they don't really get together without fh and i. Although if they did, im sure they would have a great time

Your parents don't need to be friends. My mom and FMIL have a mutual friend so they're together with her once in a while. And my dad and FFIL have both hung out with FH to help work on our house, but they would never do anything alone together. They are get along and are happy to see each other at our house but that's it. I am perfectly fine with that.

My parents are both remarried, and their inlaws and step kids are acquaintances to me, not grandparents and siblings. I think of this the same way.

I will add that my mom and FMIL are both pretty laid back about the wedding and we all plan well together.

Ours have not met. FH wants to set up a dinner soon so they can all meet and I would actually prefer not to. I'd have two weddings if I could. It's not that either family is bad, just extremely different, with one side being somewhat judgmental, so it makes me nervous.

My Mom and FMIL have become very close! I am so grateful but my Dad and my step mom just met FH parents 2 weeks ago. FH and I have been together almost 8 years. It never mattered either way but they all get along great, it's just my Mom and FMIL have become good friends.

@rebecca me and FH have been together that long also! I guess FH feels they should be more than just seeing each other at get togethers. I'm happy with just everyone getting along although my mom does tend to speak her mind when it's just me and her -_-

My mom and FILs meet. My parents are divorce and I really don't want them meet my father, which will be a the rehearsal dinner. They don't really talk to each other which I don't expect them to.

FH and I met because our parents became friends while I was away at college. He knew parents pretty well, but I was never around. When I moved back to the area we took a family vacation together and that was the first time we spoke. Our parents aren't as close as they used to be, but I think they will always consider themselves friends before in-laws.

Side note: I wish they didn't know each other as well as they do. I constantly find myself asking to be left out of their business or not be told things that I'd rather hear from FH. Whenever myself or my mother has a disagreement with FMIL I get even more amped up about it because someone else is there to get me going. It's been a learning process, but I wouldn't force/encourage friendship between your parents. As long as they get along, leave it at that.

Our parents have not even met yet. You're fine.

My mom and step dad have not met FHs dad or step mom yet. They will meet for the first time at the rehearsal the night before the wedding.

Not a big deal at all. They don't need to hang out. Mine have met and that's fine by us - they don't need to keep hanging out