KWR: Are your inlaws close?

This is going to sound crazy but my parents have not met FH's parents. Probably the first time they will meet is at rehearsal. My parents are sooo different from his, so he has always been nervous about it.

It sounds like your FH is very family-oriented, and of course there is nothing wrong with that. There is not much he can do though. Personally i think it would be strange if my parents and FH's parents hung out all the time!!

My mom lives 3 hours from us. We live in the town that my husband was born and raised in so his family is all close by. My mom sees my in laws when there are parties and such (she was here last weekend for my husband's 40th Birthday Party) but doesn't see them every time she is here. I don't feel like all the parents should be doing things together. I'm happy that they get along when they are together. When we have kids, I'm sure they will see each other more often.

My mom and FMIL are pretty close. Are the besties? No. But about 3 years into dating my FMIL started inviting my mom to all the family functions (Thanksgiving, Christmas) mind you my parents are divorced so I was always trying to do all the holidays at 3 houses. My mom really felt included and part of the family. We all take vacations together. To me, it's nbd. They are kind to my dad as well, he's just very standoffish and that's his choice.

My parents live 2 hrs from us. Everyone is cool when we do hang out, but idk that our parents would ever be friends outside of us. I don't think it's a big deal. As long as there's no fighting, I think you're good!

Just because you two are getting married doesn't mean your parents need to be friends. As long as they're nice to each other and can get along at holidays, you're good.

My parents and in-laws only "hang out" when my fh and I plan something. They've met, they get along, they're comfortable with each other. I kinda feel like if it's not broken why mess with it?

My mom (dad has passed) and FH parents have never met. Honestly, they probably won't until the rehearsal dinner. It's not important to us. There is a lot of different personalities so I don't expect anyone to become friends. As long as they're nice and civil to each other I'll take it.

My parents and his parents get along great. They even hang out when FH and I aren't around. A few times we have gone to visit FH parents and happen to find my parents there.

Ours get along when we are together but aren't really close. Neither of us are bothered by that. Just because we are getting married doesn't mean they have to be super close.

My mom doesn't want to be associated with my FH parents. It's weird because when they are in the room, my mom talks a lot and won't shut up. But when not around them she just talk shit. But don't care. I'm close to my future in laws and love them!!!

Our folks only see each other at events that we host at our house. Outside of that, they don't see each other or communicate. They are cordial, but definitely not friends, and they don't have to be.

@Sharon he is very family oriented which is nice but can also be a bit much.

I agree that as long as they get along everything should be fine. But his parents were really close to his brothers now ex wife parents, so obviously that ended bad.

@Sam that is what I'm trying to get across to FH is that we can only do so much. If they don't want to hang out when we're not around, then who is to say they have to?

My mom and my FMIL have never met, I don't think it's unusual. They will meet at the shower. FFIL and my parents get along really well

My mom has been trying to be friends with FH's parents. She wanted to go look for mother's dresses with FMIL, but FMIL kept making excuses and bought one before they could go look together. They eventually did go to look for my mom's dress, but I kind of feel bad that my mom's always trying to do things with them (well not all the time, maybe once or twice a year), and they make no effort to hang out with my parents. I think after the wedding my mom might just stop trying, but I'm not sure.

My in laws live 8 hours away. Usually FH and I go to them, not them coming up here (we live minutes away from my parents) so our parents have only met twice. They send each other Christmas cards and such. My mom would like to be closer to them by talking on the phone but his mom doesn't really like that type of thing so she respects that.

My mom hasn't met FH's parents but we're not in any hurry to introduce everyone. FH's stepdad can be a bit much and his mom always thinks people are jealous of her for some reason. My mom is loud, out there, and thinks she's funny when she isn't. If they only meet for the wedding and our future kids births and birthdays then I'm okay with that.

My parents and inlaws get along great. They go to each other's functions and they send each other food and stuff all the time. We won't let them exchange phone numbers lol but it's coming. We also introduced them very early in the relationship so they've had a while to get used to each other. We have started to combine some holidays since this is the plan when we get our house. It's worked out great but I would settle for them being cordial and respectful.

My parents and inlaws live in different states, if my parents call me or FaceTime me when I'm out of town to visit them they'll say a quick hi over the phone and I think they're all friends on facebook but besides that they haven't met in person and it's not a big deal to me or my fh. They're from completely different backgrounds but I trust they can be civilized for a night.

My FILSs and my mom and step dad don't hangout unless we're all together for an event (like the wedding), which is rare. FILs speak some English and are from Peru and my family and I are Caucasian. They all get along and they make small talk when/if they see each other but that is about it.

Although, I should mention my mom has invited FILs over for thanksgiving/Christmas and I think they have have come one year.