Kinda ranting, need advise

If you had your engagement pictures taken in 2018, and you still don't have them back, then yes, you have every right to be upset. Just because you didn't have a "professional" shoot them, you still want them in a timely fashion. It's not right for your mother to hold the photos hostage just because she thinks you're planning too early.

And no, this is not too early to think about invitations. If you're only 3 months away, you better get them ordered ASAP! You have to order them, and then put them all together and address them, get them stamped, and mailed! For a February wedding, you'll want them in the mail by December (8 weeks before), with an RSVP deadline in January (2-4 weeks before). So, no, it's not too early.

But if your mother won't budge on the photos, you may have to get invitations that don't include the photos of you. It's great that you have family willing to pitch in and help. But if they are going to drag their feet, it's really not that helpful. You and FH need to just get it done.

Ugh, that sucks! You definitely have the right to be frustrated about this! At this point you should design invitations that don't include a photo of you on them. If it helps, I only see photos for save the dates - invitations usually don't have them! You want to get them in the mail by early December, so you don't have time for your mother to drag her feet.

You have every right to be upset about those pictures. They had a huge purpose for your wedding invites and now its down to the last minuet. I wound go ahead and buy regular invites since you really need to send them out bu early December to avoid the holiday season. Its never to early to send out invites honestly. There are plenty of sights to order from at reasonable price and you can get one to match your theme of the wedding. I would order them now so that you have enough time to mail them off in December. At this point just forget bout the pictures if shes not even trying to give you them. Maybe let her know you need them now because you need to order invites and it will take time to get her.e That the wedding is very soon and you have other things to worry about.

I'd be upset too! Just get some invitations without your photos, get them ordered now! Like everyone is saying above you need to get them ordered, addressed, and sent out before December which is a few weeks away. And if your family is dragging their feet, just keep moving forward. You don't need their approval or consent, you can make all the choices you want cause it's your wedding!