Kinda NWR: My best friend dumped me.

She also blocked my phone number so I can't get in touch with her that way and she lives a few states off so I can't even show up with an apology...

There's always snailmail.

Also, depending on what your religious differences are, it's possible she's feeling that, in order to be truer to her faith, she can't associate with people who don't share it.

Dang. That sucks.

Did something happen between you two lately?

Perhaps send a hand written letter?

Also, the differences in political and religious beliefs sounds like a cop out to me.

I'm also hesitant to believe it could be jealousy. The only way to get to the bottom of it would be to have an honest conversation with her, if she'll allow it.

Oh WOW! I would honestly just let her cool off right now maybe she is just going through something and is just taking it out on you. I do sense some jealously maybe on her end. Is she in your BP by any chance?

I know it sucks but I wouldn't want her as a friend anymore. She doesn't sound like someone who should be in your life and is supportive of you. I had a close friend completely dump me because she asked if I was going to make her a bridesmaid and I said no. She completely flipped out, wrote something rude about me on Instagram, and has never talked to me since. Stupidest thing ever.

Apologize for what? Why do you need to apologize when she chose this time in your life to come forth with this evaluation of your "friendship"? A true friend wouldn't be so selfish. Now it's your turn to evaluate why you feel she's your friend. I know you must be devastated after all these years. Perhaps you've grown apart. There are so many variables that you can consider but is this the right time in your life to be doing this? If so, think about things from both perspectives honestly. Just my two cents.

I do have to say that you may have put her feelings on the back burner a bit... unintentionally though i'm sure!

I think she was trying to discuss something that mattered to her and she may have felt like you blew her off. The way it sounds was that she was coming to you and you basically said "I don't have time for this."

Dude whatttttt....That sounds crazy....So sorry that happened to you. I say her loss!!! It will hurt for awhile but no idea why someone would act like that out of absolutely no where. You don't need people like that.

So I don't know word for word how the conversation went down, but if I called a friend with something heavy and they told me they "didn't have the time or the emotional energy to talk to me" I'd probably block them too.

I hope you at least told her that you wanted a chance to gather your thoughts and if you could talk at XYZ time.

Give it a little while, and reach out to her via email, snail mail, etc and ask to meet up. You need to have a conversation to get to the bottom of it.

If I had a BEST friend of 13 years tell me that she needed to talk about our friendship, I would want to take the time to do that. Instead, you brushed her off and perhaps that was her last straw.

I would dump a friend after that as well. Perhaps you should look at your actions and not just put the blame on her.

I think "why are we friends" deserved more of a response than "I can't deal with you right now."

Clearly something was pretty wrong and you basically dismissed her.

If you value the friendship - write her a letter - if you don't leave it.

I have realized that the less I agree with peoples political/social/religious views the harder it is to maintain lasting friendships... they are core parts of who you are - and if you are fundamentally different people it is hard to be close.

In these situations, I think it's best to always turn inward and do a self-evaluation first.

Have you been a good friend? Are you accepting of her different faith and political opinion? Do you have open and honest discussions? Do you try to change her?

If you can honestly say you feel like you've been a good friend, maybe the two of you have just grown apart and she feels like your differences are too much.

Write her a letter, if you really want to reach out.

Until she sent me this message about our friendship I don't think I'd been a poor friend, I'd been busy but we talked more in the last few months then we normally do, we've spent huge portions of our friendship living hours and hours from each other and when things got busy we'd talk less but that wasn't where we were, we'd talked about the new guy she was dating 2 days before and my wedding and the fact that she might be moving by the end of the year....I did tell her I couldn't talk about it then but it was the opposite of because I didn't care, it was because I cared a lot and needed to be THERE and able to deal with a hard conversation and I was way too drained that evening and still HAD to pack.

Something similar happened with me. I realized that people change and we aren't the same as we used to be. We are in different chapters of our lives.

Imma go with she was never a real friend, i have tons of friend with different religious views and political view, let not start... lol Im am who i am infront of them and they are the same with me, being friends is accepting one another for who they really are. Isn't that a real friendship..

Example: We have this one friend who is the sweetest being ever, she is Arabic, and has never been married, when all the girls hang out and the conversation take a turn to dirty, we always tell her cover your ear this aint for you... Imma Catholic and she will be attending my religious part of the wedding... She come over for Christmas with gift for my kids, (we make sure there is a non pork dish for her.) and we go over when she has religious event...

Sorry cause that suck...

Also she isn't in my BP as Natasha asked I only have a MOH and no other bridesmaids and my MOH is my sister. MY friend went from saying she would ABSOLUTELY be at my wedding no matter what even if I only did it at a court house to all of a month later saying her birthday was the same week and she couldn't come, I was disappointed but I understand it's hard to do everything. I love the people that are 100% planning me like they have never been too emotionally drained to have a discussion in their lives. I wish I had that many spoons.

Losing a a long friendship can be devastating, you'll grieve it's loss. If you truly don't want to let this go, and you can't see her not being in your life in the future, write her a letter, give her a chance to explain her feelings, let her know what she means to you and then you're basically putting the ball in her court. What will be and all that.

I lost a 13 year friendship due to dumb things, I tried to reach out to her last year to try to mend it and go forward, she basically said we'd grown too far apart ( she has kids and I don't, too much has changed, and so forth). It still hurts a bit to think of her not in my life anymore. I hope you find the best solution for you!

Are you one of those people who posts about religion and politics on Facebook? If you are, I'd block you too. It might not have been a great time for her to breach that topic, but you should have taken the time to hear her out. From how you worded it on here, it sounds like "My friend is questioning our friendship but I'm too busy with my life to care right now, so she blocked me and I'm hurt".

I'm not saying part of it wasn't my fault...but I thought ending a friendship of so long because I was stressed was uncalled for, especially when she TOLD me to deal what I needed to and we would talk later...less then 24 hours later she blocked me.