Kids or no kids??

View Quoted Comment I can see your point but I just wanted to clarify that the age of adulthood is the US has not always been 18, legally. Prior to WW2, the legal age of adulthood was 21 in the US. My future mother in law refers to it all the time as she was not considered an adult until 21.

I agree with the statement. Plus if you have kids it takes away from more adults you can have there in most cases. Plus I’m having alcohol at my wedding and I’m not sure I want them all there for that.

It's fine and you are completely right about mishaps. They are bound to happen. Let's just be honest, most kids don't want to go to weddings anyway. I don't understand why adults get so huffy over this topic.

We’re doing no kids except for the wedding party. My nephew will be the ring bearer and his nieces will be the flower girls. There’s nothing wrong with the choice you make. It’s your wedding 😊

You could have an adults only reception. I went to one that the bride had kids but their father had picked them up during the reception.

It all depends if you can afford to have kids there or not. Catering is already expensive itself so add 10+ more kids to it that adds up!!

My family is huge most of my cousins have children and they're way behaved children plus I'm thinking most of my cousins will end up getting babysitters for their kids.

Were going to have our daughters as part of the wedding. You can simply put “adult affair only” on the invite. There is absolutely nothing wrong with having a child free event. Im all for it.

I think no kids is a smart idea because it limits the fussing and whining that is probable at your wedding. However, my fiancé and I discussed this and we do have a lot of young children in our family yet that we feel they need to be invited. Depending on their age (if they are toddlers) you could possibly mention that if they do not want to bring their children that is okay too...

It is fine to have only wedding party kids invited. I would add that once you have kids, seating arrangements can get more difficult. You really do not want to put kids at a table with most childless adults (unless close relatives).

It's your wedding, do it the way you want. It's okay to make a couple exceptions for kids that are actually in the wedding, and still say "no kids" or "no kids under so and so age" to be at the wedding. You want to be focused on you and your husband not what everyone's kids are doing.

We didn't' want any kids at the wedding because we felt like it was a time for adults to be able to be adults and not have to worry about kids. Also....not all parents are very good at watching their kids especially once they have a few beers...sad to say.

View Quoted Comment It's very rude to assume that no one likes kids, just because they dont want them there. There are always lots of reasons to exclude children from weddings that have nothing to do with like or dislike. Such as the fact that you are paying a crap ton of money for the wedding, especially the food, and half the time kids take 3 bites and are too full. Or lets say your cousins all have multiple kids, some up to 8, and that can really add up. Leaving out kids is just one way to cut costs, as well as leaving the bride and groom with one less thing to stress over.

Personally, I like the idea of having kids there. Maybe some things won't go perfectly, but that takes away a lot of the pressure to make everything perfect. Not to mention, a kid being stupid just makes the wedding video that much more fun to watch later on! And little kids on the dance floor is pretty adorable. Ultimately, it's your own choice and people should respect that. This is just my reasoning.

View Quoted Comment I didn’t assume anything. For whatever reason someone doesn’t want kids at their wedding it’s not exactly fair to have some there because you just need to have the in your wedding party. But nobody else’s kids are good enough to be there for food costs, safety costs, simply not liking kids, what have you. I’m speaking from experience and what I would do. No kids means no kids. I think it makes the most sense how I’ve seen people do it where they didn’t have kids in the wedding party either for an adult only occasion. 🤷🏻‍♀️

I think it is common in adult only weddings to still have the flowergirls/ ring bearers/ etc. (really any kid involved in the wedding) attend the reception. I think it would honestly look worse to ask the kids to be apart of your wedding and then not invite them to the reception!

I like the idea of a no kid wedding even though there will be kids at mine. My nephews cried the ENTIRE time as soon as the wedding procession started at my cousins wedding. It was ridiculous. LOL. I really hope that at least the ceremony part will be easy on the kids.

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I LOVE what you wrote on your website about kids, can i use your phrasing for mine? its so much easier than just saying no kids lol

We are having a kid free wedding. Which includes not having a flower girl or ring bearer to stick with our no kid rule.

@ Lauren

you can use the quote for the kids. That was on the zola.com website in the question section. which is where we are using for our RSVP & wedding registry

I'm having a no kids wedding, I don't feel bad about it either. having said that I did relent on two cousins, a 16 yr old who is a bridesmaid and a 14 year old as their mom, my aunt, is the one decorating and lives out of town. Otherwise if you don't want kids there and people give you grief about it then give them the same line I've given people "no pay, no say".

My daughter does not want kids, so HOW are you addressing this issue?