Kids or no kids??

It’s totally ok to have an adults-only wedding except for 1) kids in the wedding party and 2) babies (always the exception because they may be nursing). 👍

I agree with the statement above. We are doing no kids. Our exception is wedding party and the few infants that could be coming. People dont have to like it. As others have said it's your wedding so dont feel too pressured to do things to please other people

I had a stroke of Brilliance because the venue I am using is a Casino and really wasn’t too happy with children/teens I’m attendance... but never said No I can’t have them, soooo I can saybok the website “We regret to inform you that due to our venue ‘Turning Stone Casino & Resort’ we are unable to have guests under 18”
this gets rid of the evil little terrors( that broke items and tormented my cats at a family function) that would come- numbering 6-10 of them & leaves that many spots open for adults we want.

I have teenage boys 14& 18, they will be part of my adults only wedding. I honestly just feel like omitting kids saves me $$ and the hassle of all the what ifs. Plus it's not so terrible if the parents get a kid free night off. It's your day after all, if you feel like excluding kids works best for the flow of your festivities, or due to keeping costs down...it's up to you.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with having a child free wedding. i was a part of wedding where I couldnt bring my daughter and the bride had 3 Flower girls. “Adults only affair” can be put on the invite and people will understand. The adults will tend to let loose and not have to worry about the children running around etc.

I don't like kids. I don't want kids. And I can't have kids.
Are there 30 kids on our guest list?
Yes.
My friends seem to like their children and prefer to not leave them unattended at home. I'm not going to miss out on celebrating with my friends just because they chose to reproduce.

We are doing no kids with the exception of my two nieces who will be flower girls. If we were to invite our guests kids, that would be an extra 20+ to our overall count. So far everyone we have told have been fine with it and are actually happy about it! Good luck!

We are doing a 21+ wedding. We did not write anything about it on the invitations but we only included 2 people on the rsvp and we spread the word through family. No one has complained, and the grandparents who usually end up chasing after the grandkids are actually happy that they will be able to enjoy themselves too.

Just went through this hard decision. We are only having kids 12yo & up. Which eliminates a lot of kids for us but still leaves a lot of kids attending, too. Though, those kids ages 12 & up can behave at an event such as our wedding.

We said no kids, only guests ages 15+, except for my niece flower girl (9 months old, and she will probably leave at the end of cocktail hour). Most guests understood and are hiring sitters. Some said they couldn't come. I don't regret the decision though.

I have nothing against kids. I love kids but I dont want to be babysitting at my wedding I have a few family members that will let there kids run wild while they talk eat and drink and last thing I need it to worry about things breaking or stolen and the money come out of my pocket. I finally told my mother that we want a 21+ wedding and she was irritated due to how many members in my family have kids. In my opinion I think most of those family members need an adult's only night. I thank you all for your advice and I'm going to be ferm on our decision. I can not thank yall enough.

I’ve always heard it’s kids or no kids, that’s it. We are doing a no kid wedding and we are not having a flower girl or ring bear.

I'm agreeing with everyone else. At our wedding we are only having 5 kids (ages range from 2 yrs-15 yrs old) there and they are apart of the wedding party. On our wedding website we tell our guest this " We love your kids--- we really do. BUT we want our wedding to be your night off."

I also believe that if you give advance notice that it's a no kids reception they should have enough time to make babysitting arrangements .

The age of full adulthood has always been 18, legally, and by social custom. Some privileges like being president (35) judge, or drinking age are set differently. But it is truly not polite to exclude 18-20 year olds as not adult enough to attend a wedding. They can serve on juries, vote, die for our country in the military, and at 18 are considers legally to hold all privileges of adulthood by law, like contracts, consent, medical decisions for self and others. Using the drinking age , assuming 18-21 year olds cannot be trusted not to drink, to exclude them as non-adults just feels wrong. At 18, in the US, people are adults.

A friend of mine had a wedding with the only kids being in the wedding party. I think that is still ok. We decided to just have kids since there are very few on our guest list, and most of them were out of town family. Most people have actually said that they'll be leaving the kids at home.

View Quoted Comment The reason I'm choosing 21+ is our venue will be at a vineyard and will have an open bar. By the time of our wedding there will not be anyone in our families between the age of 18-21 so I'm not excluding anybody. The oldest child by our wedding date will be 13.

I’m definitely confused about kids too! I was thinking of giving a kids cut off time. After 730 8 no kids! They will be at my in-laws house with a baby sitter but the older children like in teenage years we are thinking of letting them stay or even for all the kids using the bridal and groom suites as the rooms for them to enjoy like games chic fil a food and send them cake lol

From my experience those who have adult-only weddings do not have flower girls or ring bearers either, because fair is fair (these are based on the weddings I have been to that were adult-only in my area). Other people say those kids in the ceremony are the exception, but I just wouldn't do it. If you don't like kids enough to not have any at your wedding why do you like them just enough to have them in your wedding is my thought?

View Quoted Comment We will only have 2 flower girls which are my fiance's God daughters. Their father is my fiance's best man and they all live in Maryland and they dont have anyone to watch the girls. They are our only exception. We are not having a ring bearer or Jr brides maids ect.

We are doing no kids at all, everyone is 21+. My nieces are really sad about it but they will be coming to the ceremony. We are not having a flower girl or ring bearer either.