Kids at wedding

Hmm tough. I feel ya tho I didn’t want kids either but my fiancé did considering his family members have lots of kids including his sister who has a baby which of course he wanted his niece to be there. I also was worried about kids screaming, crying, running around during ceremony buuut After watching wedding videos I saw that most don’t have the live sound from the wedding except maybe a few parts but mostly have a song over the video so you wouldn’t hear any kids once your watching it. I have also asked him to personally tell each family member with kids go please step out with their child if they decide to cry. I also mentioned it on the wedding website. Now I can just hope all goes well lol

Maybe you can invite kids to be present during reception only and have someone watch them in a room during ceremony if possible?

I think just having your own kids is fine. Will there be an option for the kids to leave early if they get bored?

Etiquette-wise this would not be an issue. It's perfectly OK to have only the couple's children or kids who are in the wedding. By your venue's standards, some of your kids may even be considered adults.

I would have your own kids only and then make arrangements for them to leave after the dinner before people start getting drunk.

I think it’s well within your right not to have children at your wedding perhaps for your own you can hire a sitter to watch and entertain them during the reception? Also feel worried about people becoming too drunk, you could limit drinks to 2 to 3 per person minimum.

My sister just had my kids 6,3 and 1 at her wedding in June because they were the flower girls .. then immediately after the ceremony my fiancés mom came and picked them up!