Kids at the wedding

View Quoted Comment That’s a good idea, Madisen. I’m definitely gonna consider that because I was thinking 18+ lol!

View Quoted Comment Lol #4!!! I definitely have to share your comment on my FB!

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LOL girl they definitely will out dance everybody! You go to the bar, and just look over at the dance floor, and it's covered in kids dancing, hopping and jumping around, just standing there looking lost, just everything in between.

I don’t want them either lol but there are too many on both our sides

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I have two kids, my fiance has 2 kids. That's 4 already. With just our nieces and nephews it's another 5 kids. I'm telling people no kids. Other then our kids and nieces & nephews. If they don't like it then don't come. Honestly, it's what you want. I'm a people pleaser but for my big day I'm going to be selfish. There are way too many children under the age of 5 in my family and I don't want babies crying during my ceremony or kids running around bumping into things.

We are only inviting a handful of kids, one of them being mine and all of them old enough to know how to behave appropriately. While I know kids are important in a family, I also know that it is not appropriate for them to be in certain settings. I am getting married in Key West. Key West is known for it's laid back lifestyle and it's bars. While my son is old enough to be there, not all children are old enough or mature enough. My reception is going to be like a cocktail party, not a sit down reception. Children do not belong at cocktail parties. I would feel terrible if a toddler got stepped on accidentally or a child heard something inappropriate (and repeated it!). Point being, if this is a decision you have made, for whatever reason, then there is no reason to question it. Don't let anyone guilt you into changing your mind.

View Quoted Comment I so agree with you! I love kids ( I'm a teacher lol) but I'm still on the fence about having kids at my wedding more specifically my reception, I am more than fine with having kids at the ceremony ( even though I'm sure that's the boring part for the kids) I'm more worried about kids at the reception just because I want my adult guest to have fun and I wonder if they would like to have a kid free night at the reception. I am seriously considering hiring a few teenagers (that I know and trust) to give that option to guests that can't find a sitter.

We're having children because the youngest of them are in the wedding party (flower girls and ring bearer). So after that it was not an issue bringing my family's kids in because they're all older, and able to behave with minimal prompting. All of my family is from out of State, and while they could leave them it's a hassle. Plus, they will fill in as playmates for my oldest, who would have no one at the wedding to talk to otherwise. (And being she's a talker this is actually super important because no one can handle her by themselves long, but kids can because they don't notice as much.) We're having trick or treating as our date is Halloween.

I want this, and the venue would prefer this( a Resort/Casino) but now FH has people “complaining” that if they have to travel then the kids should be allowed to come.

1) There are his cousins kids who are NOT well behaved and I don’t want the drama, or bill from Casino.
2) There are approx 25 kids that would come, and FH would either then have to add more to the budget for them, or remove people on HIS list- as mine is already less than 1/2 of what he has invited, will be inviting I should say.
3) The Wedding Website states “Due to the venue we are using they kindly request that no one under 18 is permitted”. I thought this would stop the “But my kid is good and wouldn’t matter.” Or “ But, we cant come if you don’t allow us to bring the kid”
4) I saw this as a friends of FH use this as a time to pawn kids off on relative and have a Romantic Getaway Kid free!

Am am I wrong? Should I change, yet again, to appease someone else? And should I go against my better judgement?
There ARE 4 kids IN wedding- 3 siblings and another little one- ages 12-4.....

HELP!!!

View Quoted Comment Jennifer, could you imagine 25 kids running around at your open bar reception while their parents are trying to enjoy themselves and kick back? That was my first question to myself! I recently attended a wedding like this. It was chaotic. If you and FH are willing to pay the extra money for the kids, go for it. But it’s your special day. You shouldn’t allow anyone to make you feel bad for wanting things done YOUR WAY. Not to mention, if they want to attend, they have ample time to hire and save money for a baby sitter.

I think everyone has a better time when they're not having to chase down their little ones all night. It lets your friends and family let their hair down and just have fun. And personally, I don't want screaming children at my ceremony. It's just not my idea of fun. We're having four kids total -- our nieces and nephew -- who are flower girls and the ring bearer. That's it. And I do believe that all four of them are being picked up by a family member after the ceremony so that their parents can have fun. I'd explain the vision for the kind of party you want to your MIL. It's your day, and ultimately the decision is yours and your FH's. She'll deal.

I think that you and your fh should talk about having at your wedding. When you and fh have discussed it and come to an agreement, then you present it to the family. We discussed it and we are only having the kids in the wedding party to attend. So far, everyone was find with it (those that asked). Finances plays a be part in wedding planning and we invited people who are close and meaningful to us. The bottom line is that it is about you and your fh wedding and you have to decide what is best for you. Good Luck.