Kids at the wedding

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For me yes it is about joining families, but our friends have 5 kids and if the kids are there the parents would not be able to relax and have fun because they would be making sure that the kids were doing ok. they were thrilled with the no kid rule. My nephew is autistic and my sister knows that the lights etc are going to cause stress so she was happy when I said no kids. FH's brother has 5 kids.

If I had kids come then my budget would be shot before even getting through our families. So no I don't dislike kids considering I have one of my own, but parents like nights out too and what a great night out

I didn't want kids at the ceremony either! I didn't want the off chance of a kid crying or screaming during my vows. So I hired the church nanny to watch after them at the church nursery during the ceremony. I allowed them during reception though. However during ceremony I started hearing one baby fuss but luckily her mom took her away super fast so she didn't cry or anything.

There is nothing wrong with not having kids at the wedding. We are only having a handful at ours, and honestly only 4 that won't be high school aged (FH niece and nephews and my neice). I want the adults to have a good time and I do not want to worry about kids being there.

It’s your wedding and not you MIL’s, so you can choose to have a kidless wedding. Also, you have 2.5 years to go. So maybe she’ll get over it by then.

We don't mind. We invited so many out of state guests with kids, it's not feasible to not invite them unless we didn't want anyone to come or way less people to come! We hired a nanny service for our kids room, so there is a place for them to hangout if they get bored.

View Quoted Comment This is exactly how I feel! We’re having a small wedding with close family, but those kids are just as much family as the adults that are invited! All of my fiancée siblings have kids and I can’t imagine having them there (or them agreeing to come, to be honest) without having all the nieces and nephews there too. They come to every other family event (where alcohol is also consumed) so I wouldn’t dream of trying to keep them out of this one. Plus, having one or two kids there, I’d imagine they would get bored and complain/whine a lot more. Might as well have them all there, they’ll entertain each other!

In the end, I get that people have reasons for not wanting kids and the wedding guests should respect that, but we’ll definitely be having kids at ours.

It depends on the individuals and what they want for their wedding. You have to feel comfortable with making that decision so that you can have a beautiful wedding. For us, we are only having the kids in our wedding party at our wedding. I have been lucky enough that people have asked me about kids at our wedding and I let them know that I not having kids at my wedding except those kids that are in the wedding party. They seemed fine with it. Maybe you should sit down and have a discussion about it so you can be comfortable with your decision that you have make for your wedding day.

I come from an incredibly large family (I’m talking like 70 first cousins). So while I love my large family, I am pro adults only weddings. My circle all enjoy to have fun and let loose and for us that doesn’t include children.
We plan to help people find babysitters but understand that some people may not want to leave their kids behind and that’s a sacrifice we are willing to make.

For us, we have two kids together who are going to be a major part of our day, and we only have two guests that have kids. We’ll have a max of 8 guests under 15, and everyone else is over 21. I personally think the shenanigans kids pull and photos of kids from weddings are cute. To me, drunk adults can cause just as much trouble as kids can. We’ll have a kids area with stuff to entertain them, and will incorporate them into all parts of the day.

However, I see no problem with kid-free weddings either. A couple of our friends are getting married this fall and requested no kids, they don’t even have any in the WP, so we happily arranged a babysitter. The couple doesn’t have or ever plan to have/want to have children, so we already expected that they would want an adults only wedding. There are a variety of reasons people choose not to have kids, and no matter what anyone thinks about your reasons it’s your decision.

Even though I do love kids, I don't want them ruining anything. There won't be a room for someone to go watch them like a nanny at our venue. On FH side of the family there's so many kids, we just couldn't have it.

I'm on the same wavelength as you! The only kids invited are in the wedding. With an open bar reception and what we hope will be a packed dance floor, in my opinion it is not a place for children, especially since our ceremony/reception will be in the evening. I think weddings are a nice night off for parents too! I don't think it is rude at all to not invite children, it's whatever you want on your day! Be firm but kind with her about it!

We're not having kids at our wedding aside from FG and RBs and so far no complaints. The only exception we will be making is for a friend who's young son is on the autism spectrum- we wanted to give them as many options as possible.

We did the math, and if all of our friends/family brought their kids we would be looking at an additional 30 heads to pay for with catering. That wasn't happening....

I never thought about it.... I’ll be 30 when I get married, and that’s the age where people start having kids if they haven’t started already! Lol most of my friends have kids.

There are small kids on mine and my FI’s side as well... I guess I’d rather people show up than not, because they couldn’t make arrangements for their kids. 🤷🏻‍♀️ So, I’m cool with kids at the wedding. It’s a family event, right?! 🙂🙂

^^ Especially since we’re out of state from both of our families, and will be having the wedding here. In that instance, it seems unreasonable for me to say “no kids.” 😄

My fiancé and I are planning to have an adult-only wedding celebration. I’ve made that very clear to my friends even before I got engaged that I do not want children there, not even going to have a flower girl or ring bearer. It’s your big day and it’s your choice. Everyone will have their own personal opinions but at the end of the day, it’s not their wedding, it’s yours. Good luck!

The only kids at the ceremony are my future sister-in-law's 3 boys, a bridesmaid's son and infant daughter, and my Godchild. They will be seated with their parents at the reception, and I plan to get them separate favor bags with things to keep them busy (lego surprise packs, coloring and activitiy books etc.) Plus, the venue has a large enclosed back yard with plenty of places to run around and play. The kids range from 7-12, plus two littles.

My FH and I agree to having a “semi-kid free”. We’re putting Adult Only affair on the invite, but allowing anyone over the age of basically 12/13 attend because we know that they’re essentially ‘adults’ to a certain extent, they know manners and (hopefully) won’t be screaming and running around the venue. Essentially we don’t want toddlers, infants, and young children at our wedding. There aren’t very many in either of our families or friends groups so it’s not a huge issue for us. I definitely understand people wanting to include them on your big day because they’re family and totally respect that! But I’m also not really a kid person, so I don’t really have a desire for small children to be there in attendance.

We are having an adult only event. We have 4 kids attending but they are in the wedding party. Other than that its adults only

I agree with you. No kids at my wedding either except for the kids in the wedding party. I love kids but really a wedding isn't an event for too many kiddos.

NO KIDS!! lol

I feel adults can't truly enjoy themselves with kids around foremost. 1. You're always worried about their safety. 2. You always want to be kid friendly. Romance doesn't necessary equal kid-friendly. 3. It kids them parents a little mini break. 4. Kids aren't taking over the dance floor.