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Erika
Expert November 2017

Kicking sister out of wedding party?

Erika, on January 31, 2017 at 11:52 AM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 41

My younger sister and I have an estranged relationship. I have 3 sisters, 2 on my dads side and 1 on my moms. I am estranged with the sister on my moms side. I grew up with her, I only met my biological father and other sisters when I was 18. I quickly established a close bond with them, which...

My younger sister and I have an estranged relationship.

I have 3 sisters, 2 on my dads side and 1 on my moms. I am estranged with the sister on my moms side. I grew up with her, I only met my biological father and other sisters when I was 18. I quickly established a close bond with them, which bothers my other sister (I'll call her Sam)

So Sam is in a very toxic relationship and lives 8 hrs away from me. I see her maybe once a year. Her boyfriend and her are addicted to drugs. There is physical abuse present. Her boyfriend has also stolen jewelry from my mom and checks from my parents. He DEFINITELY is not welcome in my home or at my wedding.

When FH and I started wedding planning is was going to include Sam in my bridal party, I don't want her to feel left out as my other 2 sisters are bridesmaids. I have attempted to send Sam bridesmaid dress ideas to make her feel included. She never replies. I saw her over Christmas and tried to talk with her.

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  • Mrs. Sitz
    Master July 2016
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    Ok, first, stop sending her money cause she's just going to use it for her addiction. Second, when someone is addicted they will isolate themselves from family and friends. Third, don't pressure her to leave, let her decide to on her own terms. Forth, try to include her in wedding stuff but don't count on her showing up. Fifth, let her know you're there for her but then let it go. I've dealt with a couple addicts in my life & that's the best you can do. She has to decide to change herself & until she does, she won't.

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