Just curious if any Brides are no longer friends with their maid of honor?

Well my first choice for a MOH fell through. We were best friends for like 10 years and I hadn't picked a date yet and didn't want to pick anyone else to be in the bridal party just yet at the time. We had tried dresses on for her and that was about it. She didn't want to go and help me pick out anything and always had an excuse for not doing it. We had a very bad falling out because of it. About 4 months later I picked my whole party excluding her. She said she was fine and us fighting about it wasn't worth losing our friendship over. But she's not fine and for months now she keeps asking how the wedding planning is going and asking if is so and so helping you and I say well we do some things here and there. And she's like well see no one wants to do things either what goes around comes around is what she actually said today. That really hurt my feelings. My bridal party all hates her from long ago and so does my family but we are still friends. My bridal party doesn't cont...

Want her know what we do together and not for me to speak their name in front of her. So I only tell her little bits and she thinks she has the upper hand. We will be friends forever but because of her pettiness not Best friends or even good ones.

I wanted my best friend (who is like my sister) as my moh but there was an issue (befoe we annouced our engagement) that I realized that my older siter might want ot be it. I also felt more obligated to pick my older sister since I am alreayd getting married before her. SO I talked ot my fiance and he told me to choose my older sister one because she is my sister but two whatever happens if Krystie and I stop speaking since were still young...

I had asked one of my friends to be a bridesmaid, and then two months after that I finally got fed up with her antics and decided that she was more toxic to me than it was worth. So then I had to end the friendship and kick her out of the wedding. it hasn't been easy since she is still friends will all my other friends, who are in the wedding.

That happened to one of my good friends. It actually began at the Bacholorette party. The girl was so self absorbed and a total b1tch. They barely spoke at the wedding and haven't since. The MOH is lucky that my friends and I didn't kick the crap out of her for how she treated the bride.

I wanted to pick my bestfriend who is like my sister and also had my close cousin in ny- i pick ny because we are family. But told my bestfriend she is still close to my heart- she my bb but help to do a lot. I hope we do not fall out. it sad to hear it happens- good luck

Prior to getting engaged, I told a friend of mine that if I ever get married she would be my bridesmaid. 4 months later I was engaged, but i no longer wanted her as one due to not talking to her that much. I just didn't feel like she was that good of a friend to stand up there with me. I decided to only have a MOH and that was it. She keeps asking me (when I actually talk to her) how the wedding plans are going and who I am having stand up with me. I keep telling her that we're keeping it small.

Even though I didn't have an official bridal party, I had my "closest" friend at the time be there for what most would consider the MOH stuff....I know she certainly considered herself my MOH....she and I are no longer friends because of her behavior leading up to and at my wedding...like you said, it opened my eyes up to previous behavior and who she really is and that she was toxic in my life...someone said it on here before, there are "close" friends and there are "good" friends, they aren't always the same thing.

Well we its not out moh its our bm he turned into a jurk we can't stand him anymore he said some mean stuff to my husband and they were best friends its nuts my husband deiced he was tired of his attitued and stop talking to him

I'm sorry to hear that everyone has had to deal with this but It's always better for all of us to get those kinda people out of our lives and make new positive friendships. I just didn't know if what happened between my "Friend" and I were normal. It's a shame what happened because she was included in an life event that is big to me I'm glad I realized this now so she can't treat me bad any longer, but I've definitely moved on Thanks for everyone's input so far

I was having my best friend since we were 12 was suppose to be my maid of honor she actually date my fiance cousin for a bit they broke up and now she backed out very childish of her to do its been over 2 yrs since they parted some people are toxic and better left out of your life they try to bring you down we did everything together my moh will be my aunt shes only 10 yrs older then me we are very close

My MOH, turned into the worst person i can think of she was no longer my best friend. She took the fun out of planing the wedding. She acted like it was her wedding and how i should do it and who and you can not come cause they weren't pretty enough like it was a pageant. she don't even wanna walk down the aisle if the guy walkig next to her isn;t good look. I can't stand it. I told her its my wedding, but she said that if i want a nice wedding I should do it right, which means her way. SHE Don't even want me to marry fiance.

I regret making one of my bm a bm.We were really good friends, like sisters, 10 years ago. I thought she might step up to the plate and it would bring us closer again, but she just wasn't the same person anymore and I should have known. People definitely change throughout the years and very much influenced by their choice in a mate. She wasn't all bad, just not how I remembered.We still talk tho. I just know now that I can't revive our strong bond from the past..My MOH had never been a bm before and also dropped the ball a lot, didn't know what she had to do, and was not around a lot. But she was there in the moments that counted and had a lot of other priorities, which I can understand. So it was enough. I probably should have had just 1 or 2 bms and that's it. The odd thing, which is I guess not that odd, is after my wedding and witnessing everyone's behavior, I have very little patience for women, who are not happy, toxic, superficial, and materialistic. I don't pick up the cell.

I've just dealt with something similar about a week ago. I choose my little sister when we first got engaged then found out she slept with an ex of mine (out the door) well then I choose my cousin to take her place, well she asked, I agreed. Welp after getting nowhere with her I said something to her and at that point she started saying mean things about FH so I booted her. Now I believe I've got it, my best friend who has done about as much planning as I have in the weeks shes been official. Needless to say I'm happy with the way it's working out.

Well I havent had the issue with my MOH but my husband has with his Best Man. He's done nothing to help him didnt congratulate him at all has complained non stop and his wife treats me like crap. He's had to ask him to no longer be the best man and only be a groomsmen but basically after the wedding he doesnt think he will have anything to do with him anymore.

Got engaged a year before my "BFF" was suppose to get married...she was thrilled for me unitl I started making plans for my own wedding...then it became how I never had time for her and I was ignoring her wedding in favor of my own...it got absolutly insane...needless to say i wasn't in her wedding and she was not in mine...it is sad to end a freindship but when it starts to get crazy, childish and a little bit toxic..it is time to let go..I had an amazing day and I heard through the grapevine so did she I hold no hard feelings and I am glad we were both able to get the wedding day of our dreams.

I had a girl that I'd been best friends with since college. I knew my fh was going to ask me to marry him soon - so I started planning about 4-5 months before he asked. She was looking at BM dresses with me (online) and very supportive (I think she assumed she'd be the MOH) - until he officially asked me. About a week after he asked me, we had an arguement. A couple of weeks went by and I thought we were ok again - but I decided to ask my cousin to be my MOH since she is older, married, and always have had my back.

As I'm looking for BM dresses, she was no longer helpful or had time (she doesn't work, though).

Then she sends me a rude EMAIL saying that the dresses I was showing them were too expensive/didn't like/etc - and I need to get the cost of the dress, shoes, and accessories down to $200 or less so SHE CAN GET HER HAIR/NAILS/MAKEUP DONE. At the end the email was a stupid like to Davids Bridal.

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I forwarded the email to my MOH who sent out an email saying that if anyone could not afford the cost of: dresses, shoes, hair, make-up, batchlorette party & bridal shower - they should gracefully step down or pick the most important things to them - and not to worry about the dress cost since WE HAD NOT PICKED ONE YET.

She gets mad and (rudely ) emails my MOH saying she was not doing it cause we were ridiculaus.

When I called her about the email (more the tone than anything else) - explained to her (AGAIN) that if we picked dresses that were too expensive we would get them made by a seamstress I ALREADY HAD AND PRICED.

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And I also asked her - if she felt the dresses were ugly or too expensive, why not help me look for dresses LIKE THE REST OF MY BM'S. She's "too busy" not working to do that.

we got into a screaming match and haven't spoken since.

I was really upset, especially since me & my fh had already decided to surprise her by paying for her transportation to the wedding AND her hotel while in town...

One of my very good friends picked a mutual friend of ours to be her MOH and this girl got mad over EVERYTHING, even when it had NOTHING to do with her. The day of the wedding, she walked down the aisle with such an attitude and nasty look on her face! She didn't even make a speach at the reception! Needless to say, they aren't friends anymore for sure!