Just curious if any Brides are no longer friends with their maid of honor?

My MOH was my niece and she didn't really do much just show up and look cute... That's what I wantedI My BFF had the title of Bride's BFF or stand is MOH. She was there to support me and give me advice as I needed it and stood in for my niece in area's where she wasn't old enough like being a witness and doing my bach. party. My friend was happy to do this because she knew I really just wanted family in our wedding and she is kind of shy and wouldn't have liked the spot light even getting close to her lol

On the other hand I had invited a former friend to my wedding because I didn't want to have any regrets if we became clos again. Like one of my friends and I had a falling out and I missed the birth of her child. I hate that I wasn't there for a big moment in her life and I didn't want that regret with this person. Silly me!! She showed up with a girl I can't stand!!! and they looked like twins dressed in all black with their asses hanging out the bottom. contd

... I made a comment on facebook that the worst thing to happen was that a couple girls showed up dressed like they were going to a rappers funeral. I didn't mention names but people guessed instantly who I was talking about because they thought the same thing. It got back to this ex friend and she wrote me a nasty note about what a horrible person I am. I'm glad I figured out she was toxic before that! I know I shouldn't have said what I said openly but I was pissed! The whole night everyone and I mean everyone was asking me who they were and why they were dressed like that! Oh well, it is, what it is.

Hi Carlie,

I'm very sorry to hear about your situation. I hope you have come to terms with it, as it can be hard to look back on your special day and know that a relationship has changed with someone who shared an important part in it. I wanted to write to you because I am currently going through the exact same situation, I just ended a relationship with my friend who was my MOH in my June wedding. I found myself wondering the same thing as you, and as unfortunate as it is, it is a relief to know that someone has shared my experience. As far as my situation, I should have known what type of person she was when I called her to tell her about my engagement and her response was "you bitch!!!" Maybe it was my mistake for asking a friend who was single at the time to be in a wedding? From there things got more awkward, no questions about my wedding or offering help. Constant complaints about her dress and if her BF could ride in the limo. No message in our guest books or reflection

About our wedding in general. Starting a fight with my mom in the bridal suite as we are about to have a parents' toast. Crying as the bridal party is introduced, and later on the dancefloor. I felt like she just couldn't wait for my wedding to be over. Needless to say, I am a non-confrontational person and just let it go. When I asked her to be my MOH I thought it would bring our relationship closer (I didn't have many gfs at the time) but it only made it more toxic. Now that she is engaged it has stirred a lot of things up about my wedding and our friendship in general. Sadly, the best thing to do was to put distance between us. I'm sorry for using your post as an outlet for my own experience, but I needed to get it out there. I thought anyone would be delighted to be part of their friend's wedding, but from her behavior, she made it clear that maybe she wasn't a friend after all.

I am hoping someone can help give me a good idea of what to do in my situation. My daughter is getting married in Aug. The wedding was going to be April but it was postponed because of a terrible death in my son in law to be family. Well my so called best friend is one of daughters BM. BF is getting married in July, and I am her MOH and daughter is one of her BM. Daughter bachorette party was already sceduled and all had taken off work for it and planned and pid for it. Including myself, we went to New Orleans and spend Fri and Sat night. This my BFF/BM started by getting there not having her part of the room money then no money to play on to on and on. I gave her money paid her part and then she become a total bitch. Got mad over every thing. Went crazy hitting on walls kicking things, cussing screaming. Every hour was spend with one of the other BM's having talk to her and calm her down. So on Sat night they all had plans to spend it on Bourbon st. I am older so I was seriously

Worried about this person actions. So I was smart and limited my drinking to a couple of drinks only, while just letting the bride to be (my daughter and her BM's have some extra fun. So glad I did. Things started getting bad around midnight and I kept calming her down. She started doing shuts after shuts and got drunker and crazier. Around 2 an I told them all it was time to go. They agreed because everyone was getting so mad to this person. She was actally wearing the entire night the Bride to be's crown so they just let her. Then we were all walking back to the hotel abd she decides we are going home now. I am driving by the way also. They are riding with me and one other BM. We are 4 hrs from our home, no sleep, they have been drinking and she is going crazier. I try to reason with her about getting some sleep and then getting up and leaving. She packs her bag and runs in hallway hiding from us. Ok to make this a little shorter after 2 hrs and hunting her and calming her we drive

She rides with the BM. The next day I get a text saying where is my stuff. I just want my stuff. I text back asking what stuff. She texts I left my glasses and shoes and have a charger in your car. I tell her that I will bring the charger to her work the next day but I did not get her things, guess she left things. later afternoon I was driving to go to carwash. Looked back and she and her F were following me. I parked at cat wash and she got out came up and car open the door I handed her her charger and she said this is all over getting drunk. slammed the door walked to back of car and hit it hard. She got in her car. I got out walked to back of car to look at where she hit it and she got out of her car and started again. Over and over, cussing, yelling, saying I was miss perfect because I didn't get drunk and so on I got in my car and left. That night she text me saying, sorry party went so bad no matter what happens I will still love you. Then I see on FB she has posted on her

Bridal party site that we will all begin making plans for her wedding and parties soon. I am thinking, Really RU kidding me. This is a crazy person that I no longer want to be friends with or be her MOH and my daughter no longer wants her in her wedding as her BM. How do we step out and dismiss her with out a lot of trouble. She has told my daughter that she will tell her F all kinds of things and my Hubby to but my hubby knows her so not worried. He always said she was a nut and it would fall one day.. IT did. She messed a good time up. Please give me advise. Need it bad.

Nope. I was married in Vegas. My mom's best friend actually gave my bridal shower instead, as the MOH said I was asking for too much. So, we go to Vegas, and this crazy chick spent 2k on a bachelorette party I didn't even want. I couldn't drink, because it was literally hours before my wedding and who wants to be hung over? It wasn't for me, the MOH said my other BM refused to give her money and tried driving a wedge between us. It's three years later, I dropped her (as did her boyfriend at the time). Class act. For the record, my parents actually paid for this bachelorette party, I found out later. If I never see that girl again, it will be too soon.

The girl mentioned previously went to a wedding a few months later, of which my husband stood up in. She again got trashed, attempted making out with the groom, and then tried to assault me. For the record...she works in law enforcement. I didn't have to do anything. She was dropped because she just didn't know how to act right. I'm still annoyed.

After my maid of honor turned on me 4 days before my wedding, I made up my mind that it was best for peace of mind sake to cut ties with her after the wedding.

She treated me so badly because I told her no children were allowed. To this day she hasn't spoken to me and I'm fine with that. I realized that after 20 plus years, having a friendship with her just isn't worth it anymore. She is also a toxic poison that I will never allow Back into my life! The sad part is that the child she wanted to attend the wedding is not hers! God removes people out of our lives for a reason & friendships are only for a season. Not having her as a friend anymore is a blessing.

I had a fall with a lot of the bridesmaids. They all were so hard to work with during a year of planning.

I mean I dont expect them to be 100% for the whole year but they were sort of catty and rude.

ANYWAYS the wedding is over and I dont have to plan things with them anymore.

My MOH insisted on bringing her diagnosed bi-polar, but not on the right meds friend into my wedding. She refused to do anything without her. Upon meeting her friend, my heart sank as I could see this person was deeply troubled. My then fiancee said he could see she was VERY mentally ill and bad news. My MOH constantly said she couldn't help me because she was always helping the friend she was foisting on me.

The night before the wedding, my MOH insisted her friend cime to the B&B where the wedding was being held the next day. We were spending the night so I could get ready for the next day. Her friend got drunk and kept the other houseguests awake, making the owners come to say, frequently, that the behavior had to stoo. The two girls went around the house gossiping about me because I was trying to get her to be quiet. My MOH was there for HER, certainly not for me. The next day that girl sat at my place at the breakfast table and there wasn't a place for me, the bride. It was so embarrassing, yet I was the one who had spent the money to stay there. Neither of them helped me get ready. They hogged the bathroom mirror. Thank goodness, friends and family members arrived to helo me get my dress on and get ready. After the ceremony, my wonderful brother was videotaping the reception for us, per our request. Later in my wedding night, into the early morning hours, we received MANY, MANY phone calls full of complaints from my MOH about absolutely EVERYTHING you could possibly think of regarding our venue. When that didn't work with me, she then said that my brother had upset her and a couple other women at the wedding, including her mentally ill friend. They had all been saying, while he was videotaping, that he was a pervert, that he wanted their fat ugly selves, etc. I assured her that he was doingno such thing, is not a pervert, and that I'm very upset that they had gossiped about both my brother and I during the wedding. My MOH decided to get attention for her bad behavior. She told her family that my family and I were completely ungrateful "for all she had done for me." She sobbed and cried, and carried on. She unfriended me on Facebook. Then she woyld do something where she could send me texts on Messenger frim time to time but I could never reply. Not that I wanted to. I did send er a thank you card and was very gracious, never mentioning the things that had hurt. My advice is to NEVER allow a MOH or bridesmaid insist on bringing a friend, usung the excuse that this person wants to help. That person is your MOH's friend, not yours. They will gang up against you. It's best to have o MOH or bridesmaids if you worry about drama. We had so much crap happen it wasn't funny and it wasn't worth it. Oh, an I did try to let my MOHi off the hook from the job, but the job, the glory of it, meant everything to her - more so than the importance of it being MY wedding day. She threw the biggest fit when I told her she didn't need to be MOH, crying, carrying on, saying I didn't want her. Yet she kept telling me she wa too sick to help me do anything, making excuse after excuse. Yet always spending the night at her friend's house. I knew it wasn't going to work and had several other friends who started warning me. Please be careful whi you pick and keep their friends away!

This has almost a year ago exactly. My MOH didn't do anything for me prior to wedding. No bachelorette party, bridal party, nothing at all. Went dress shopping and she "wouldn't wear" more than half of the dresses that were picked out. Acted like she was the one getting married. I had a simple destination wedding in FL. First night she's there she gets way too drunk despite everyone telling that she can't drink that alcohol like that-it had to be sipped. She didn't listen. Decides to go to the ocean in the middle of the night and ends up tumbling into the ocean and nearly drowns. My cousin had to save her and bring her back to the house. She falls on the sidewalk and breaks part of the front teeth off. I have a panic attack. Goes to the dentist the next day to fix it. She apologizes like crazy. Flash forward to the night before my wedding- she sleeps with one of my other cousins. I have another panic attack. Now she's getting married in the early months of 2020 and I'm the matron of honor. I'm conflicted as to what to do since what all she did at my wedding.

View Quoted Comment Hey I had a falling out with my MOH, recently too. I was friends with her since 3rd grade and got married at 24. Since I got engaged she changed a lot and complained over my choices. I didn’t want to lose her as a friend so I forgave her every time. When I picked the dresses she said “does it have to be that color and cut?” And when I told her how hurtful that comment was because if she asked me to wear a trash bag to her wedding I would wear it happily. She fought with me saying I took it “too seriously.” She didn’t pay or help at all with bridal shower or bachelorette party. She made me pay for my part in everything and would venmo request me immediately for the uber rides at the bachelorette party. She isn’t broke, doesn’t pay rent or bills and makes over $650 a week cash. During the bachelorette party she judged me for drinking complained over everything and wanted everyone to go to bed by 10 pm. She also spoke behind my back to one of my other bridesmaids saying that “I don’t even wanna go to her wedding” “I want no part of this and what to go home tonight” the bridesmaid told me immediately and I confronted her. When I confronted her she cried and said she didn’t mean it etc. I forgave her since the wedding was in 2 weeks at that point. I thought she would change. However, during the wedding rehearsal she was not in a good mood barely spoke to me and judged my other bridesmaid for drinking. (side not nobody got sloppy when drinking she just kept saying “that’s why I don’t drink” and eyeing us). She agreed to fix my veil during the rehearsal before I leave the isle. However during my wedding she refused. My sister thought she forgot so she reminded her but she said “no it’s fine” my sister stepped in and fixed my veil. When my husband and I got home to open envelopes she out of all the bridesmaid gave me the least thoughtful gift. She signed her name on a card from her future in law, totaling $50. It felt like a slap in the face. Ultimately, I just blocked her told her how I felt. She just denied and called me a liar even though all the bridesmaids and family witnessed how poorly she treated me. I regret giving her so many chances but I guess it is what it is.

View Quoted Comment I had a similar situation occur to me. I was feeling very alone, but now that I hear it happens to others it makes me feel a bit better. It’s best to have a smaller circle with real people than a larger one with fake friends.

View Quoted Comment I'm sorry you went through that! Sounds like your moh is a narcissist. No empathy! It's now been 4 years since we've been married, have a 16 month old that she only met once when she was a couple weeks old. She ended up marrying the guy she cheated on a couple years ago. Now they're divorced because she couldn't stop cheating. Apparently never told him she cheated on him before they were married. Karma is hitting her hard. She's done really rough things within the last year. She's just so self destructive and doesn't care who is in her path. Luckily I managed to get out if it!

I stopped being friends with my best friend because of my wedding. She didn’t talk to me for months after my wedding and when I finally got in touch with her, she told me she was mad because I did not pay enough attention to her at my wedding, then went on to say a bunch of terrible things about me and say my wedding was not good enough (small budget with a small guest list). Anyway, I decided I didn’t need someone that entitled and awful in my life, so I moved on without her. Still a little weird and upsetting seeing her in my wedding pictures.