Junior Bridesmaids

Dont do anything just to appease your mother- that just leads to more drama. Not something any bride needs.

My little cousin is a full blown bridesmaid because I don't want there to be any drama there. I love my little cousin and she is 13... But do things because YOU want to do it. Why was she disrespectful? or Who was disrespectful?

I have the same sort of issue. I have twin cousins (13) and I am having their older sister as a BM (we grew up together), and Their mom called me to ask if they were in the wedding party. I wasn't orignally because they will not be able to do all of the activities (ex. bachlorette party) so after talking to them and their mom, They are going to be Hostesses, that way they are not in the bridal party, and don't have the responiblities that comes with it, but they still have a "Job" and a dress in the wedding. They won't walk down the aisle or anything.

If she doesn't deserve the honor of being your bridesmaid, why does she deserve the the honor of junior bridesmaid? It is basically the same thing, except for a junior bridesmaid is younger and doesn't join in the planning as much. Making her a junior bridesmaid shouldn't be a demotion, it's just as much an honor as bridesmaid. I agree with Anjuli, you shouldn't ask her just to please your mom, only if you truly want her beside you. Drama and disrespect won't change just because she's a junior bridesmaid. I'm not saying don't have her in the wedding, she is your sister and drama and disrespect usually come with the territory with 15 year olds, but it doesn't matter if she's a junior or not. Also making her feel like she has a lesser title will probably cause more drama and disrespect, knowing how 15 year olds are.

We have a junior bridesmaid who is 10... it's that icky age that's really not able to be much of anything. I really don't think she's old enough, but we were told she was too old to be a flower girl. Anyway, we wanted her to actually wear an ivory dress that was technically a FG dress, but very age-appropriate. Unfortunately, they didn't make it big enough for her - she's tall! She's now wearing the same dress as the BMs (well, she had a choice of 7 like the rest) and they're taking the boning out of it and making it smaller.

From what I know, they usually look like (or similar to) the rest of the BMs. Do all the same sort of stuff, but don't have all the costs/responsibilities that the others have. She also doesn't have to come to the bachelorette party. But she can certainly help out in any way that the BMs want her to as far as planning is concerned, just shouldn't be expected to pay for anything! As far as the ceremony... I think ours will walk after the BMs (cont)

Cause that's where she'll stand up front... the procession will probably be from the inside out (with the exception of me and possibly my FH of course - his parents want to walk him down but he doesn't want to... so we'll see what happens!)

I'm not sure if there's an official order... and this doesn't have one either. Are you having an officiant who has done weddings before? Maybe they'd know!

http://wedding.theknot.com/bridesmaids-mother-of-the-bride/bridesmaids/articles/junior-bridesmaid-duties-in-detail.aspx

I Had a Junior Bridesmaid. She was 12. She wore a black dress, and the BMs all wore red. I decided to ask her to be a Jr. BM mostly because my FG (my 2 yo neice) needed a little assistance getting down the aisle without wandering off (she is a very curious little girl!). It worked out because the Jr BM LOVED the chance to be in the wedding and bragged about it to all her friends.

Honestly I would like to have her, she is my sister, but not with the way she has been treating me, as well as my mother and brother. I know part of it is the age, I work with teenagers all day and am fully aware of how much of a brat they really can be. However, she should be mature enough to know when she has step out of line, and owes someone an apology. She blocked me on FB, which I know is rather insignificant, but in her world, it's as big of a slap in the face she can give someone right now, and that's how I'm looking at it. At this point, I can't wait around until she gets over herself, I need to go ahead with my planning. That's why I was thinking that if she does come around and starts acting like a decent person again, I would include her in the wedding, as a junior bridesmaid (not as a demotion, more of an age appropriate role I should have put her in to begin with).

First at 15 all you ever are is "drama and disrespectfulness"- remember what it felt like to be 15 yuck! Just think about that when she is older and out of her crazy teenage hormones, wouldn't you want here there.

That said I had my SIL who was 11 at the time be my jr.BM. She wore the same style dress as the BMs it was just more 11 year old friendly - read no cleve! I had my SIL walk down right before the flower girl and RB. and walked out with her brothers.

My sister who will be 14 when I get married and she will be a jr brides maid. wearing same color just different dress(age appropriate)

I hopefully got through with all the drama and disrespect from my lil sis (she was a bia**h from ages 5-10)!

I think she'll be either 13 or 14 by the time we get married, she's my height and weight, and really mature for her age, so i made her my MOH. She's actually really excited about it (which surprised me a little bc you know how kids are), and is already working on her speech

i didn't even consider the idea of jrbms actually, but if your sis blocked you on fb then she's obviously pissed with something!

I am having my baby sister (age 12) stand up as a junior bridesmaid. She will be fulfilling the flower girl/rig bearer duties. We were lucky enough to find a dress age appropriate in the same type of fabric as the bridesmaids and she absolutely loves her dress!

My FH's 10-year old niece is going to our jr. bridesmaid. She's wearing the same color as the BMs and I'm having her walk down before the BM's start. I haven't seen anything that says where they go in the processional but I figured it would work out nicely.

I do agree with the other girls who have said don't do anything just to please someone else. In the end, your wedding party should be the people you want. I don't see a problem with not having her in the wedding party.

FH's niece will be our JBM. All the BM's will be in different (but matching in color/fabric)dresses including her. The girls are so excited - they made an appointment for us all to go shopping for their dresses this weekend!