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Just Said Yes July 2021

July Brides — Hold out or postpone?

Elizabeth, on April 3, 2020 at 8:28 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 11

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I’m truly treating this like therapy because no one understands unless you’re going through it.

I’m having a really hard time with what to do. Especially being from New York and given the events happening right before my eyes, it’s hard to envision a light at the end of the tunnel for my 150-200 person wedding. We’re set for July 17th in New Jersey at a popular venue. My fiancé and I have been together almost 7 years and engaged for a year and a half already so the thought of having to postpone to a Thursday or Sunday for 2020, let alone next year, is sending me over the edge.
Aside from the thought of losing our date, losing time and potentially losing some of our vendors, we’re concerned that even IF we are able to continue with our original wedding plans, guests will be too traumatized and afraid to come.

Are any other July brides feeling this way? Are you rescheduling or holding out hope that things will get better? Is anyone else lost and having emotional breakdowns on a daily basis?

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Latest activity by Elizabeth, on April 10, 2020 at 10:33 AM

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Salena · on April 3, 2020 at 8:40 PM
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Hi! We’re supposed to be getting married July 11th, in NJ as well. I have no idea what to do. Literally all our family is out of state and many of them would need to fly. I’m hoping by the end of the month we’ll have more answers. Debating postponing, but there’s so much uncertainty of when this will be over (second waves and what not). Also considering doing a courthouse wedding (if that’s even still possible), but I’m not sure how that would work with all of our vendors.
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Elizabeth · on April 3, 2020 at 9:19 PM
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I feel for you, it’s so difficult. I completely put a halt on the planning for now. Most of my guests are within an hour distance with only a handful flying. Hoping we’ll both have some answers in the weeks to come!
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Dedicated July 2020
Candice · on April 3, 2020 at 9:35 PM
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Hi Elizabeth, We've already postponed from 5/24 to 7/25, and still having to worry. I'm in Houston, so not as much (today, this could change tomorrow) of a CV19 hotspot as NYC. And then you say most of your folks have to fly in. I'd wait a month and then make a decision. See how things shake out. I lived in NYC for 12 years, so can imagine what you all are going through. Super tough. Honestly while I'm trying to remain optimistic I'm pissed. I've been a bridesmaid in 5 weddings and attended countless others. Now it's *finally* my day and this happens. It feels so unfair. I know there are bigger issues but we all do deserve some grief. Praying for you all in New York and hope this passes soon.
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Elizabeth · on April 3, 2020 at 9:48 PM
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Feels. So. Unfair. We have all waited for this. It’s supposed to be the happiest time in our lives and these monumental moments are being taken from us therefore we deserve to grieve.

Definitely going to take your advice and wait it out this month, hope for the best and make a decision in May.
Thank you so much. Sending prayers back to you and everyone in Houston during this difficult time.
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Candice · on April 3, 2020 at 10:06 PM
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Hang in there. It is unfair. We'll all get through this.
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Kathryn · on April 3, 2020 at 10:39 PM
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I was supposed to be married tomorrow. Now waiting for August. 🙃🤷‍♀️ Honestly, it will be ok. I would start realistically considering that a wedding of over 100 people, especially in New York, may not be feasible. But that's the logical side. It sucks. A lot. We're having a good friend come over to sign our license tomorrow instead of the pretty ceremony we wanted, and we're still not sure our families will be able go travel in August for the bigger day we have planned. We're all still grieving and it sucks so much. Feels like even more grief knowing our furchild won't be there. Just ugh. I try to be positive but it's a lot.
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Gina · on April 9, 2020 at 3:05 PM
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Hi Elizabeth,
This is definitely a crazy stressful and uncertain time for everyone! It seems like a lot of July brides are waiting a few more weeks before making postponement decisions, but everyone's situation is different and it never hurts to be proactive about plan b!
You also aren't alone right now! ❤️
There are many resources on our website that may be helpful as you navigate the planning process. This is a great place to start: Our COVID-19 Weddings Advice Guide. You'll find articles like this one: What to Do About Your Wedding During the Coronavirus Pandemic.
And here's another discussion specifically about July 2020 Weddings!
First things first, I recommend that you call or email your venue and see how they're handling July events. Things are changing daily, so keeping the lines of communication open is important. That way, you can make decisions in a timely fashion.
Good luck!
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Lindsay · on April 10, 2020 at 10:04 AM
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I’m July 17th also in NY! No idea what to do and I’m grieving so badly over it it sure does feel like everything has been taken from us I’m waiting out a little longer but then I’m going to have to make a decision. It’s so much harder because we have no idea when the social distancing will end and that’s making it even worse but hang in there and see what happens in the next few weeks and then hopefully we will have more clarity.
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Savvy July 2020
Brittany · on April 10, 2020 at 10:27 AM
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July 11, still full steam ahead. It's to early to know what will or will not happen.
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Elizabeth · on April 10, 2020 at 10:32 AM
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Agreed! I’ve gotten a little more positive recently and I’m planning on sending out my invites in a few weeks. Hoping and praying for the best!
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Elizabeth · on April 10, 2020 at 10:33 AM
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Very true! Sending out invites in a week or two!
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