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Katharine
Savvy April 2021

July 2020 Weddings

Katharine, on March 16, 2020 at 10:05 AM

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July 18 2020- Do you think its all going to be ok by then?

July 18 2020- Do you think its all going to be ok by then?

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  • Kaitlin
    Savvy July 2020
    Kaitlin ·
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    I agree totally. Our date is also July 25th. At that point I think I would be happy with the fact that if only our immediate family was there for a ceremony that's all that would matter. We don't want to wait any longer!
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  • J
    Dedicated July 2020
    Julia ·
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    Oh my girl! I hear you 😞 For allllll those reasons and more, that’s why we are postponing too. And I can’t tell you how much better I feel about it. It’s like a weight has been lifted.
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  • A
    Beginner July 2020
    Ashley ·
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    I’m in the same boat! We’re July 18 & extremely nervous. But staying hopeful. July is still pretty far out and it seems as though things will calm down. The main focus right now is limiting the spread so hospitals can handle it. It may not be “gone” by July, but things will have slowed down and we do have to reopen our economy- I don’t think things will be closed from March- July. Hopeful things will calm down by May! Thinking about all brides during this time. But staying positive we’ll be fine for July ❤️
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  • Z
    Beginner July 2020
    Zainab ·
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    Im frustrated. My wedding is july 12th. I have talked to my venue located in Maryland and they are saying the only option they are offering for covid effected weddings is postponement up until march of 2021 (all off-peak dates though I paid for an on-peak month) and waiving the foolish 2000 change of date fee like they are doing anything for the care of their clients. Idk how they expect people to afford a wedding rn if people are getting laid off and they aren't planning on adjusting the pricing to the off-peak month. I don't know if I should go ahead and take legal action against them at this point because why shouldn't I be able to reschedule for an on-peak month when I paid more to have my wedding during peak season and why can't you adjust the rate to the only off-peak months you are offering clients. If anyone has advice please share?

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  • Z
    Beginner July 2020
    Zainab ·
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    Hi Katherine, I would like to ask how did you convince your venue to refund you some of your money. I am trying to work with my venue and they refuse to reduce the cost of my July wedding if I chose to reschedule. I would like to keep my date since there is meaning but they won't allow rescheduling later than March 2021. That only gives brides the option of off-peak months even if they had on peak months available.

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  • N
    Beginner July 2020
    Nunzia ·
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    Our wedding is July 26 and I’m trying to stay calm. Sadly the dresses I was hoping for my bridesmaids to wear vanished overnight on BHLDN’s website. Hoping this will be over by July.
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  • Kenzie
    Dedicated August 2020
    Kenzie Online ·
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    I'm also getting married in Maryland but in August. What venue are you using? I contacted my Venue but they won't even discuss the option of postponing or cancelling until June. That is very frustrating! You would think they would let you change it to any available date. I would just let them know you paid for a specific month/day and if there isn't anything written in your contract about that bring it up.

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  • Autumn
    Devoted July 2020
    Autumn ·
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    7/11 here! I know how stressful and easy it is to panic but I hope you all can remember that none of us knows what the future will bring and all we can do is have a backup plan! I know I was stressing HARD until my fiance and I came up with a solid backup plan, and for us it was simply doing a extremely miniature cut down version on our wedding no matter what (with just our parents, pastor, photographer, and siblings, 10 people exactly meeting CDC rules, all socially distanced and offer everyone masks.) It will even make for one heck of a story and album to show our future kids! (My fiance joked that if worse comes to worse at least when we have kids in the future we can tell them mommy and daddy loved each other so much they got married in the craziest time!) lol!

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  • Autumn
    Devoted July 2020
    Autumn ·
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    I know that having a solid backup plan really put me at ease! I recommend everyone having a sit down talk with their partners and really figuring out if worse comes to worse, what you will do, and what works best for you! For us, getting married and starting our future together (we realllyy want to start makin those babies hahaha) is 10000% more important than a wedding with a lot of people, but everyone has to decided what is best for them, and for some people being able to set up a postpone plan is the best option! Best of luck to everyone! It's so nice to have this community to ease our minds Smiley heart

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  • Autumn
    Devoted July 2020
    Autumn ·
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    Check out sites like poshmark! I've gotten bridesmaids dresses there before, people resell theirs after only using once. Good luck!

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  • Katharine
    Savvy April 2021
    Katharine ·
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    Hi Zainab,

    To be honest I think we caught them between a rock and a hard place. We're in new york and when we first started to talk to them about the process they already had to refund March, April and now May. We had given them 50% of the cost (in deposits) so I think they were just happy not to have refunded us all them money. If they're not being reasonable then consider getting your money back and going with another venue (if you want to go that route)

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  • Katharine
    Savvy April 2021
    Katharine ·
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    My girls got theirs from Lulus- much cheaper than BHLDN and with everything going on I am sure your bridesmaids will appreciate you considering there most likely shorter budget

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  • Z
    Beginner July 2020
    Zainab ·
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    Thanks for your reply Katharine! I spoke with my venue and they won't budge and they said if I want to cancel I can not get my deposit refunded. It's just a whole mess rn. I guess it depends on the venue. I just hate to lose my deposit. I think they are purposely wanting to get people to cancel so they don't have to lose the deposits.
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  • Courtney
    Expert July 2020
    Courtney ·
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    July 19! Still trying to stay hopeful for July. We still don't have a baker or florist because they started shutting down weeks ago (at least the bakery did). The florist we want has been taking forever to respond through email even before this all got started but the prices are affordable for that florist so we want to go with her. This is all so stressful but trying to stay positive!
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  • Elizabeth
    Dedicated July 2021
    Elizabeth ·
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    To be honest I don’t think so, I this won’t stop until
    August maybe longer. I already cancel my July 18,2020 date to July 17 2021, this might sound crazy but I feel so much relief changing the the date. I don’t want a rush wedding so another year of wait with zero stress will much better.
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  • N
    Beginner July 2020
    Nunzia ·
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    Still holding out hope that I won’t have to postpone my July 26 date. My BHLDN dress which was supposed to be here already is back ordered until late May. I was able to get an appointment scheduled for the first Saturday after my State’s stay home order is set to expired and they think they can get it done in time. I was supposed to finally fix my hair color this week but that’s postponed indefinitely and wondering whether I’ll be able to get an appointment in time since my place has been shut down since March. What concerns me is what my florist is saying. She says that the flower markets around the world are closed, only limited box lots are available for pick up from some wholesalers, but that most are closed and no one seems to know what will be available and how prices will be affected once things reopen. It sounds like it could take some time for things to normalize. Trying to stay hopeful.


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  • N
    Beginner July 2020
    Nunzia ·
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    I just saw this. Ironically my sister was able to find the dress on poshmark today! One down and one more to go!
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  • Z
    Beginner July 2020
    Zainab ·
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    I'm using the Villa but with their unwillingness to help I would never recommend them.
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  • Cassie
    Just Said Yes July 2021
    Cassie ·
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    Ours is set for July 1. They just extended the LA county stay at home orders through May 15th. We think we are going to postpone to next summer. It’s so sucky after almost two years of already being engaged and putting time and energy into it. We don’t want to put elderly guests at risk and we have some people flying in. Not to mention I haven’t even started alterations yet of my dress. So we don’t want to rush through it either. We’d love to still get married with close family in a backyard on July 1, but we can’t even apply for a marriage license right now. It’s such a sad reality and there’s been tears. But we’re trying to see the silver lining. It allows us more time to save. We had to cancel our bachelor/ bachelorette and my shower so if we postpone we can at least have those next year. My heart goes out to everyone in the same boat. It really sucks.
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  • Angela
    Dedicated July 2020
    Angela ·
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    My wedding is July 18th also. I'm a little anxious with the thought of having to postpone. My venue and vendors are all open to postponing if it becomes necessary. But I'm trying to keep positive that 3 months from now, everything will be OK!.

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