Jealous sister in-law

She is worried about being replaced. Try talking to her and her mom abot it. She probably just needs some reassurance of her place in the family and in her mom's heart. Go easy on her.

Umm okay thanks! I'll try to bring it up..Im not sure how though.

Well, if all else fails, it doen't hurt to kill em with kindness. Just reassure her that although you are here to stay, se can never be replaced.

You should try to sit down and talk to her. Let her know that you have been getting a strong bad vibe from her, just reassure her you are not there to replace her like analy said above in any way or form, that you just want to become part of her life as well as everyone in the family, now that you are getting married with her brother. Just be nice to her and try to keep things at ease if nothing works just sit down with your mother in law and talk to her about how you are feeling. They are to become your new family and communication is always the key. Hope it helps and good luck with everything =)

Yeah, I agree. I'd try to dissolve the issue before make a point of it. I'd definitely say things to her about how you're really excited to be a part of her family, though you know you could never be anything like a "real" sister, you're really excited to hope to be the next best thing.Basically, killing with kindness and pointing out that you're not going to or trying to take over and you know your place, but hope that it's still a special one! If humility and kindness don't work, I'd bring it up to her to try and resolve the issue. Hopefully you don't have to! Good luck!

Could be she feels her position being threatened. Could be - since yall are the same age - she might be a bit jealous that you're getting married and she's not. If you have the rapport with her, I would simply ask her about the vibes you were picking up. Ask her if you've done something to offend her or if there's anything she wants to talk about?

Thank you so much guys!! I will try to talk to her about all that, hopefully she won't take it the wrong way!!

Agree with LadyLee...but, don't be too aggresive about it. I know I hate it when fh comes to me and says "What's with the attitude?" and I say there is no attitude - then we get in an arguement about if I have an attitude or not LOL

I don't really think it's your place to talk to her. I mean, how's that supposed to go? "Hi, Susie, I'm gettin' a bad vibe that you might be feeling left out and I want to talk about that." Susie - "I'm fine." ????

I think what you need to do is bring it up to your FMIL, and let her know that you feel the additional attention you're receiving might not be so well-received by your FSIL. Weddings are all about focusing on the couple - well, mainly the bride - and that can be tough on other family members, especially those who may have been spoiled. I think I would let my FMIL know that I was a bit uncomfortable and perhaps FMIL needs to be a little more sensitive around her daughter.

But that's me and my opinion.

@MrsJoseph, it really just depends on the type of rapport you have with the person. Like a few weeks ago I seriously went right up to this lady at church and said "So....are you gonna tell me why you're mad or are we just going to stop speaking?" LOL! She confirmed what I was already thinking and she still doesn't speak to me LOL but oh well!