I've already had guests ask to bring extra people - true or false?

False... but then again, i havent actually sent the invites just yet so probably will be true in the end.

Ugh yes, this is such a pet peeve of mine! Not even just for my wedding, but in general! If I don’t talk to that person, and wouldn’t invite them myself, why on earth would someone think it’s ok to invite or ask if they could invite them?!

True! I have had quite a few ask. I have had others assume they will he invited and even harrassed my family members to get me to invite them! HOW RUDE IS THAT??

False. Our wedding is not until next year, so we did not sedn STDs or invitations yet. However, we will be enforcing a strict 'you may only bring a plus one if your invitation says so,' type of situation.

False! Not yet anyways, but im sure there will be people like that.

FALSE! And I pray it stays that way.

True. We are keeping it small and friends and family only and haven't even sent any STD or invites obviously and yet my FMIL keeps asking us why so and so isn't invited. A cousin that FH hasn't talked to since 1991 as an example

I have had both sets of parents ask to add extra people, but not a guest yet.

False. Although people have asked about bring kids, which is a hard no for this event. We love the little ones in our family however this night will be for the adults!

True!

I had one friwns ask to bring a plus one before I sent the invites out in June! I wasn't planning to give her one, especially not her drug-dealing on-again-off-again boyfriend. She has JUST told us she moved out and was not with him like a week or two before asking 🙄.

Since sending invites out we were fortunate enough to give people the option of bringing a plus one. I had one friend split from his wife, send his RSVP in without a plus one, and then a couple days later asked if he could bring the girl he had started dating like 3 days prior. My fiance told him we could talk when the day got closer. They broke up a week later. Another family messaged me to say they were looking at plane tickets but that all 7 of them hoped to be able to come as a surprise to my groom... problem was I had them down as 5. They were assuming the two eldest children could bring their SOs 😑. The mom even justified that the one kid lives with their bf and the other has been seeing theirs for 6 or 7 months. I am passive, so I told her fortunately a couple people were not coming so her kids could bring their dates.

My MOH had a plus one who asked if she could bring a plus one. I said no so she decided not to come.

Did you see my replies lately?

I have had someone not even bother to call and ask if it was okay, but wrote on the RSVP card that she was “bringing Daughter and grandson”.

A lady that was a plus one of her co-worker to an event at our house last week stated that she is putting my Wedding on her calendar.

For what ma’am?! We don’t know you!!!!

True. Not plus ones but children bc we are having an adult-only wedding. I've had many people offer to pay for their children's heads but bc we just don't have the room for kids it's had to bee no every time.

Not yet, but I have had my sister try to convince me to add a bunch of people that are her friends but just an acquaintance for me....one of the girls has 4 kids. I don't have it in the budget to suddenly add 12 more people.

Yes, and not trying to be rude but the answer is no. I only wanted those really close to me, and those really close to him, not even any plus one, super small wedding. But people seem to invite people without asking I’ve received rsvps that I sent to a couple and it came back saying “4 persons” I know it’s their kids so I will let that slide but other than that I’m going to have to get strict, I have social anxiety so I’m already nervous about the being in front everyone part, I’ll be excited but I can’t help my shyness and fear of being the center of attention, the less people the better on my stress levels, I’ve already had to invite several people I don’t really know at all just because they’re relatives, and quite a few of them have weekly gfs/bfs that are bad news and very inappropriate/rude I obviously don’t want that vibe on my big day, but I have a feeling people are going to invite others without asking and I won’t know until they show up, stressing over it a bit

So far only 1 guest told us they were bringing someone who wasn’t invited. But she’s my FW’s sister’s kid so.. immediate family wins. Lol

False. We haven't sent invitations out yet.

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Great idea Danielle! I tried to do that and my FH was wondering why we have to keep it a secret. It's no secret it's just that when you say you're going to get married, people want to be in on all the details. Drives me crazy!!! If you're not a part of the bridal party, get the information when you get the invite! I'm glad your FH is following your lead! By the way...CONGRATS!!!

False not yet

TRUE. My aunt asked if her daughter could bring her "male companion" so she'd feel comfortable. Her daughter is 20. We are not close. I haven't seen her in at least 5 years. This companion is NOT her boyfriend, he's just a boy she hangs out with now and then.