It's your wedding, but......have you made any decisions just because they made someone else happy?

I refused to to that this is the one day I refuse to try to make anyone else happy they want my date to be in 2019 we are getting married in 2020 like we want

Only one minor thing that isn't even set in stone yet.

I told my sister and a couple bridesmaids I felt as if the garter and bouquet toss were antiquated, but they convinced me that the bouquet toss at least may be fun.

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That doesn't count Peggy! :-) I am just happy my FH wants to be involved in decisions. He just wouldn't take on my sister! :-)

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That's a lot Nikita. I pray it all works out. I have 8 wedding party tables so that spouses that are not a part of the bridal party can sit with their spouse.

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WOW!! Sounds like drama waiting to happen. I pray that she gets her act together and allows this to be your dream come true.

View Quoted Comment Yup. I agree. I only have 8 tables total, and all parents need to be at different ones. I couldn't imagine having 8 tables for just wedding party. That's a lot of navigation. Even the three family is rather frustrating as I can really only have two tables equal distance from the sweetheart table.

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My FH keeps verbally inviting people and I just smile because if there is no RSVP, there is no entry!

I really have been putting my foot down lately! For the most part, I haven’t actually had any major planning issues, my mom and I have completely different taste, but we have actually been agreeing on pretty much everything so far! However, fmil is giving me hell, but is doing so behind my back. I have tried including her in most things but what she really fails to understand, is that I am doing very little planning myself, because I hired a wedding planner. I’m not going to hobby lobby like she did for my fsil wedding a few years back, and so she is having a really hard time understanding that my florist (also planner) is taking care of all of the decor, along with my invitation designer who is making all of the sinage and that type of stuff.

One huge issue that she has regards the tuxes. I never asked for her to pay for anything but she offered to take care of tuxes. I sent her all of the info with all of the tuxes ready to order, however she doesn’t want to use an online service (generationtux) and wants to use mens wearhouse instead - I honestly wouldn’t have a problem with this, however MW was significantly more expensive and it was NOT what I wanted. Heres the kicker though, she has completely ignored me over this (never texted and will not bring it up in person either) and tells fh that “she is GOING to convince me to use MW”, I just laughed because that is NOT what is going to happen, and I will pay for it if she is going to throw such a fit over it. There are many other issues with the way fh was raised and the way things have been over the last few years, and so for me its more of a combination of many issues that just add annoyance on the relationship with her, so this just adds to it. I can’t wait *insert major sarcasm here* to see what issues we’ll have for the rehearsal dinner.

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AMEN!!!! I have been more vocal with friends and their "suggestions"...…...

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I am becoming a Master at logistics...………..! :-)

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Like many have said before...stand your ground, be in sync with FH and let the chips fall where they will. At the end of the day, it is your day and you have final say! Thanks for sharing. I am sure there are others experiencing something similar and you just helped them to see that they are not alone.

View Quoted Comment Best life skill ever!

View Quoted Comment Thank you, Faith! I hate it because I’ve been trying to avoid drama - I know what I like and I don’t plan on changing because she has something else in mind! Good thing fiance has my back - and as far as what planning he wants to take part in, is with the food and alcohol! And well of course, getting married lol. Thanks for reassuring me that I should stand my ground.

Omg yes!! We are eloping to try to keep things simple, but my fiancé is from India and his parents are very traditional. I’m now having a second ceremony in India next December. 6 months after we are already married. They’ve dictated everything with that. It has been so hard, but it’s the compromise of the two cultures I suppose. 🤷🏻‍♀️

View Quoted Comment I set him straight the other day.. I was like, I like these people too but we don’t have the room. If we have enough no’s, then we can invite more people. But until then, he agreed to stop verbally inviting people without checking with me first! Like come on lol

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That is the one thing I like most about this site: hearing other people's opinions and encouraging each other. It has been a life saver (and sanity check) for me!

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I guess that is one challenge with differing cultures......Best wishes!!! I can only imagine that the foods and colors or India will be spectacular!

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I got my FH to agree also until we were in Target and he saw three old friends from high school!!! Really??!

View Quoted Comment Absolutely! I have no qualms with the ceremony or location itself. Just a lot of the finer details they haven’t considered our input or how it will be for us. It will all work out though

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It really will!