It's your wedding, but......have you made any decisions just because they made someone else happy?

Not at all and do not plan to as long as I can help it! Lol! I am actually proud of myself because I typically live my life for everyone elses happiness.

View Quoted Comment Yes Tamara. I’m living for your response 👏🏾

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Me too Tamara......I don't know why I caved in so easily!

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I know you do! I am taking a page out of your book!

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Lol! It's hard for sure. Just promise yourself you will stick to your guns moving forward!

I had 4 put of 5 of my bridesmaids come with me when picking out a dress for them. They all decided on a dress and most bought it that day. The one bridesmaid who wasn't able to be there had a problem with the dress being only one shoulder. I knee she was extremely modest but for some reason this didn't occur to me at the time. I'm letting the one bridesmaid wear a shawl at her request. I wish they would all match but letting her wear the shawl will make her so much more comfortable and that was more important to me!

I think had circumstances been a little different we would have chosen our other top venue. We liked both a lot and they were roughly the same pricing but there was a lot of parental pressure from both sides to choose the one we have.
I'm not mad about it, it makes more sense logistically but the other venue was unique and extra beautiful.

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I understand! My sister thought the bridesmaid dress was a little revealing, so she will wear a shawl also!

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And it will be a beautiful ceremony because you guys are in sync!!!

I’ve honored tons of decisions my fiancé wanted and I didn’t. But I haven’t let my family or friends decide anything for me.

Not in regards to my wedding party. There was drama in my family since I’m only having friends walking and not my 2 cousins but it was my decision and no one could tell me otherwise.

View Quoted Comment Exactly what Tamara said! I'm usually the one to compromise, but not this time! The wedding is going to be how my fíance and I want it, no exceptions. Luckily, my MOH is all about holding me to that and making sure we get our perfect day.

I’m letting a few of my FMIL’s close friends be invited even though I don’t know them from Adam. After a slightly heated conversation i had in front of her with my FH over inviting people without checking with me (yes, he did that!!!!!) she actually told me I didn’t have to invite the specific people I’m referring to. So I’m hoping my FH will understand when we have to trim down the guest list.

Other than that, no one has really pressured us to make certain decisions. Actually, no one is really giving us their own opinions on anything lol

Maybe because my hubby & I are older (50s/40s), or because we kept our event details a secret to surprise guests, but we did it our way! #noregrets

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Excellent!

For sure changing from a beach wedding to something closer to home for FH. He hasn't been vocal about much wedding stuff but he actually expressed his concerns to me. It took some time but I'm finally excited again! Anything to make FH happy ❤

View Quoted Comment Marieke yes girl!!! I love your response!!

Having one particular "friend" as a bridesmaid. She's the wife of the best man and yeah she used to be a good friend of mine but over the years we just seem to not connect anymore. We're four months out and she's the only bridesmaid that hasn't gotten her dress. Backstory on that is that she was jobless for about 3 months and told me she needed more time. I was fine with that and told her when she's able to go get, just let me know. But no pressure. And if she feels like she can't make the commitment as a bridesmaid I wouldn't be upset if she dropped out. Taking care of your financial responsibilities is more important than being in my wedding. And she agreed. But then went behind my back and told her husband that I kick both them out. So then my FH found out when he was going to take his party to get fitted for suits so then they talked it out and not supposedly they're both back in the wedding. But she hasn't talked to me about it. Best man said she was going to call me and I've texted her a few times and still no response. So now I dont want her in but FH says just to wait and she'll call me but dont kick her out.

Sorry, long story.

Nope! It started with my aunt offering to pay for my dress but then tried bullying me and putting me down because she felt that her money gave her power and say over which dress I picked...I told her I found THE dress and that I was ready to buy but she basically was like “No. Keep looking”...So I ended up buying my dress on my own, without her or her approval and she was not happy 😂.

Next, my FH and I decided that we wanted to do a first look so we could have more time for pictures and our reactions could be more intimate and genuine, but FH’s aunt initially hated the idea and tried to talk me out of it. She wasn’t being rude, but she felt as though it would take away from me walking down the aisle (which I disagree)...I just explained to her why we chose to do it that way and she respected our decision.

The whole situation with my aunt and my dress really pissed me off so it forced me to keep the same energy during planning 😂😂 DONT SETTLE FOR ANYTHING LESS THAN WHAT YOU WANT!

Yes, I'm not eloping to make people happy.

I'm also planning to mitigate drama. For instance, my dad has a plus 1 because my family doesn't talk to her. I also have 3 family tables so no one feels slighted.