It Would Be the Worst!

His daughter is 32 so i'm not sure she'd appreciate it LOL He's been divorced from her mom for over 10 years and she and her mom don't get along, don't talk etc...but she doesn't want her dad with anyone but her mom. Funny thing is she only wants to be called his "adopted" daughter. He adopted her when she was 16 and she resents it...See the issue? drama queen...I don't think he's planning to invite her since she never even speaks to him unless it's to ask for something

For your 1st concerns, I would suggest having a few jokes ready like 'Now that I've done a gravity check (if you fall), let's continue with the party!' The wind could make for some beautiful photo ops with the 2 of you facing into the wind together. My fiance & I don't drink so doing the cash bar was 1 of the 1st decisions we made. I am going to ask a few of Dave's bigger friends to keep an eye out for anyone who needs to 'talk a walk to cool down.' I also plan on letting everyone know the bar makes a good mock-tail. I hope you can find a few close friends to be the 'anti-trouble squad' so you don't don't have to worry about that.

I expect you'll be so focused on your wife on the day of that you won't mind if she shows tries to have a hissy fit. If you have some close friends to remove them (if they decide to come), that should take care of that. So far as reacting & tagging friends afterward, I would talk with your wife & come up with a game plan on how to deal with it. You might want to disconnect somewhat from the friend who keeps saying bad things about the friend who passed as it sounds like their toxic. I hope I didn't upset you. It's just how I might deal with it.

Make sure you have a few makeup trials before your big day. I'm having a cousin of mine whose into doing makeup do mine. I'm even waiting for her to show up as I type this. Look online to see if you can find photos of 'I like that' or 'I don't like that' to show your makeup person (if you have one). If you're doing your own makeup, I would watch makeup tutorials on YouTube & practice on yourself in lighting like what's at your venue. What looks good in one lighting might not look as good in another. I hope this helps.

Totally a good thing to be aware of! Many people have that fear. I would take index cards up with you. Don't try to memorize your vows as the stress of the day is going to work against you. I plan on having small card-stock cards with me that I can later frame & put of the wall of our bedroom. That way, I can see them everyday & remember what a magical night it was (will be).

If you do start laughing, you can use a joke to get back on track, 'Now that you've seen how nervous I am, let's all eat, dance, & be married!' (Yes, it's a bit cheesy but it'll be a good transition into the reception.)

Oh my!!! I thought we were talking about like an 8 year old daughter. My bad!

If she rarley talks to him & still calls him her 'adopted dad' I wouldn't worry too much about it. It sounds like she's only 'related' to him on paper (& if she needs something) I might suggest to your future hubby that the 3 of you have lunch or something like that & talk it out. Either that, or blame the venue & maximum # of people you can invite. If it's not a size-of-venue thing, then maybe she'll delay in sending her RSVP & you can adhere to that. Tell her, 'Sorry, the deadline was October whatever & you were late. Rules are rules.' The problem with that is then everyone has to hold tight to the deadline.

My FW's advice to me

I think he's pretty much done. He was in the hospital twice in the past two weeks, almost lost his leg and he never heard from her. I've been slammed on WW for referring to her as his adopted daughter, but it's because that's what she wants to be called. He stepped up when her bio dad didn't and she resents him for it. It's sad.

Oh my goodness! Those are so cute! I think I would get along with you & you FW fantastically! I use to over think everything too & had to train myself not to. A phrase that helped me not overthink things as much is 'Let go & let God.' That doesn't work so well if you're not into religion but then you could say, 'Let the universe do it's thing.' I almost like that more. I'm so happy for you & your FW!

I think you're being great by referring to him in the way she wants to refer to him in relation to her. That's sensitive of you & I commend you for it. Remember; haters gonna hate. You just keep being you. No one else can do it better!

She is pretty darn cute!!! Thank you. It really means a lot to us when people seem genuinely happy. I do like Let the universe for its thing. I might have to steal that one!

I'm glad you like it! I hope the Universe has a ton of good for you & your love! I'm just so happy you have that someone who completes you. It's such a gift when you find that person!

My worst fear is no one having a good time or dancing - everyone is sitting, the DJ is trying to get people to dance but no one gets up. Everyone leaves early because of how boring the party is!

Keep the music going, the drinks flowing, & invite people up to dance if that doesn't work. Everything will be fine.

We have an open bar and a family that loves to drink so I'm hoping this isn't a problem! Thanks for the advice!

I hope it all goes well!