It Would Be the Worst!

My bio mom could show up. She is not to be told about the wedding until it's over, but I am having a visceral reaction now just thinking about the possibility. I'm also afraid a friend who was invited will bring the vulgar woman she is now in a relationship with. Both cases would embarrass us and lead to a swift escort off the premises.

I have a feeling the mothers of the flower girls are going to butt heads. One of the moms in my FSIL and the other is my cousin, who is also a bridesmaid. They are both very stubborn, have strong opinions on how things should be done. Note they have never met each other, but it's a gut feeling that they will clash.

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I would have a trusted friend or family member on the lookout for your bio-mom to run interference if needed. As far as the friend bringing her +1 who you don't want there, I see 3 solutions. You could 1) have a heart to heart conversation & explain why you'd rather not have 'that person' thee, 2) tell her space is limited, or 3) seat them as far away from you at the reception as you can & if asked why they're so far away, you can tell them it was 'luck of the draw.' I hope these ideas help.

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My parents and brother can spot her if she's there and all know my feeling about it. I still don't think she will show, but the thought creeps in. As for the friend, she has refused to RSVP and since the vulgar woman doesn't like us I doubt they would come. She also likes to disrespect our friend's deceased wife, the friend that brought us together and was the glue for many of us in the community, she wouldn't stay long after seeing the memorial table we have planned with a big picture of our deceased friend by the entrance.

Now, want to talk rational fears, the music doesn't play, it rains, people don't show.

I'm not worried so much about rain, its the wind we're worried about. We get the Santa Ana winds (crazy strong sometimes) during the fall season and our ceremony and reception are outdoors. Also have the normal fears of people not showing, not having fun, leaving in the middle of something important, tripping and falling because I'm so clumsy.

Also his family. The very first time I met them they were so drunk they began giving us a sex ed lecture and refused the fact that I didn't want to drink because I had to drive. Second time ever meeting them I refused a shot of tequila at 11 AM and was immediately demanded to answer their question of whether I was pregnant or not as the reason for refusing. Excuse me?! I just don't want to drink first thing in the morning, let alone tequila. I maybe have one or two drinks tops socially if I'm in the mood. I don't drink to get drunk like they do.

A lot of my side of the family does not drink at all, his side likes to get totally falling over themselves trashed and then they jump on others who don't drink. My dad will not stand for something like that and will have no issue getting physical to get a drunk person out of his face. So worried about that even with having a cash bar...

My worst fear is that Rob's horrible ex wife will show up and i'll have to knock her out while in my gown. Second fear is his daughter showing up and causing drama. I don't mind if she comes, I just want to to not be a spoiled brat as usual....

For my wedding the worst things did happen. Our DOC got drunk, destroyed items from our wedding, tried to fight guests, and could not complete his duties. I ruined my wedding dress (because she was so tight it duh into my skin and I bled all over the zipper/hook and eye area) that came one month too late and in the wrong size.


My two forum-go-to bad weddings from others both involve DIY catering. One was a cross contamination with one of my food allergies. I have an anaphylactic reaction to almonds and someone had gained salad. I had to leave the reception in an ambulance and get a fun little $5k hospital bill. The other was when about 60% of the reception (myself included) ended up in the ER due to salmonella. Needless to say I don’t eat at DIY food weddings.

If everyone got food poisoning or the flu and barfed everywhere

View Quoted Comment Well if the food is accounted for by guest count then in my case if extra guests showed up they would not be fed.

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Maybe you could set up lunch with the flower girls & their moms. Make your expectations very clear & stress that you want it to be a stress free day. I would tell them it's okay if the flower girls have a little fun (blowing bubbles or skipping rope before the service) but their behavior is important during the service. Then again, I don't know what kind of wedding you're having..... If you'd like other ideas, please let me know.

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I think having a memorial table set up for your late friend is an excellent idea! Maybe you could offer to send pictures of it to the friend (who's in the relationship with the meanie) if they decide not to come. Or you could designate someone to hold a phone on FaceTime during the service if they don't com. Let me know if you'd like more ideas.

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I would have someone by the door to run interference for the ex. as for Rob's daughter, maybe hire a baby sitter to walk around with her making sure she behaves? Unfortunately, that would be more money out of your pocket but if it's important to Rob to have his daughter there, it could work. I hope you find a solution that works!

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Unfortunately that wouldn't be possible they live over 8 hours away from one another. The only chance that they might meet is at my bridal shower if they both show up. I'm not worried about the kids behaving. I'm worried about the moms behaving lol

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Those sound like weddings from Hell! Are you still on good terms with those who got married at these catastrophic weddings. At least you can tell great 'Weddings from HELL' stories ..... & win with the worst stories ever ..... if you get into a competition of that nature.

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Are you supplying the food or are you having it catered? If you're supplying it, you can make sure it's all safe to eat. If you're having it catered, have you had their food before & was it 'safe'?

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The 'moms' can be a real pain. I would talk to the 1 you're closer to (emotionally, not geographically) & tell her you're worried about the other mom. Tell her you're worried about the other mom acting up but leave out that your worried she'll fight with the 1 you're talking to. Make sure the 1 you talk to knows it's 'top secret.'

View Quoted Comment Catered. It's a well-known restaurant and caterer. I'm just stating my worst nightmare. I saw a show on TLC....Brides, Grooms, and Emergency Rooms. This episode was "in sickness...and more sickness"

Turns out, the flower girl infected EVERYONE at the wedding. Truly frightening story, lol

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We're good on ideas and if she doesn't bother to show, I won't mourn it. They've both decided to cut people out who choose to remember our lost friend so we shall leave them to it. But the petty in me is planning to heavily tag and our friend together in the pictures. Not sure if petty will win yet or not.

My worst fear is my hair and make-up. I don't wear much make-up (as in only eyeliner), so I don't want to look like a clown or worse. My FH wouldn't complain, as he is the sweetest, but don't want my wedding photos to be ruined.

I have a fear that I will mess up my vows and then start to laugh nervously and not be able to stop. I know that sounds silly but I laugh when im nervous. So I imagine that I would start to laugh when I messed up and then continue to laugh because im mortified at the fact I cant stop laughing.