September 2019

Is your dress a "surprise"?

Elise, on April 18, 2019 at 8:22 PM Posted in Wedding Attire 1 88
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So we all know that most brides keep their dress a surprise from the groom until the day of wedding, but what about everyone else? So far I have only shown pictures of my wedding dress to a select few people, mostly because my mom seemed to feel strongly it should remain a "surprise," even to family members like my aunts and grandparents.

I'm not sure if I care that much, but it did give me pause! So brides, weigh in - are you keeping photos of your dress to a select few, or showing it to anyone who asks?


  • Hannah
    VIP July 2019
    Hannah ·
    I've shown it to who ever asks lol. I know my mom and FMIL have been as well. I think it's up to you. Personally, I think my dress looks so much better in person than the pictures I have, and the whole look will still be a surprise with the veil and hair, etc.
  • Cristina
    Savvy September 2019
    Cristina ·
    I am going to keep it a surprise. The only person who has seen it is my sister.
  • Elise
    September 2019
    Elise ·
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    Yeah that's definitely true! I think I might cave soon and start sharing it with more people because I'm having a hard time deciding on the "whole look" and need opinions haha

  • C
    VIP January 2019
    Cassidy ·
    My sister was with me when I bought it and we had FaceTimed my mom, who was out of town but was with me the first time i tried it on.
    I showed my MIL and some coworkers. I also showed my bridesmaid.
    I did not show anyone besides my mom after alterations were done. I didn’t show my dad at all as I wanted it to be a surprise for him and I wanted a first look with him.
    Even if you show people, you will look completely different day of once your whole look is together. (I included a picture of the day i tried it on and my wedding day for reference, i bought off the rack so it’s the exact same dress). It also gets easier to not show people the longer you’ve had your dress.

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  • Elise
    September 2019
    Elise ·
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    You're right - it will look so different on the day than of my grungy self at the bridal store lol! Your dress is lovely by the way, I love the softness of the skirt!

  • Caytlyn
    Champion November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
    I’ve only shown it to my mom (who was there when I bought it) and two of my bridesmaids. I don’t plan to show anyone else.
  • Dita
    Expert August 2019
    Dita ·
    I’ve shown my mom, FMIL & future step mother in law as they were the ones I invited to go dress shopping with me. Then after a few months my mom guilted me into showing my sisters and I caved lol. Other than that, it’s a surprise!
  • Expert October 2020
    I showed our boys, my friend, my FSIL and FMIL, and my mom. Then I started getting texts from other family members about my dress. Apparently my mom saved the picture and sent it to lots of people. 🤦🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️
  • Wendy
    Super August 2020
    Wendy ·
    I will Be dress shopping online. I want a red dress and not willing to pay more than $300 so online seems to be better.. all my family and friends live in the west coast and we live in the east coast. So no one will be seeing my dress until the day off... my mom and sister know that it’ll be red but that’s all.. I’ll be the only one to see it!!! I want it to be a WOW factor/reaction...
  • Amanda
    Master December 2020
    Amanda ·
    Only my bridesmaids, family (immediate like uncle/aunt, grandpa/ma and parents/his parents and uncle/aunt and grandma) and people at work that aren't invited
  • Hillary
    Devoted April 2020
    Hillary ·

    I've only shown my dress to my bridesmaids, my boss, and grandma. And then theres my MOH, mom, and FMIL who were with me at the appointment. On the way home, my mom said she was so excited to show her friends and I was like, "Uuuuhh no, you are most certainly not showing anyone my dress...then like a third of the guests will have already seen it!" Sometimes she drives me crazy haha.

  • K
    Savvy October 2019
    Katherine ·
    I am keeping my dress a surprise, and I have only shown a handful of special people! I especially want to keep it a surprise from my FH. We’re not doing a first look because we want that extra special moment of him seeing me walk down the aisle in the dress. Here’s the kicker to that part though... his mom and sister joined me and my family when we went dress shopping. Before we even left the store, she sent a picture of me in the dress to her husband, Ed. Turns out that she sent the picture of me in my dress to her son and my FH, Ed.... so he saw a picture of me in the dress already I know it was an accident, but it’s still a bummer
  • Courtney
    Rockstar December 2019
    Courtney ·
    For the most part I am. I decided I’m going to have my “first look” with my dad instead.
  • R
    Savvy May 2019
    Rose ·
    My mom feels it should be a surprise to everybody, only she has seen it. I once true to get a pick of me in it when I was trying it in she caught me before I could, lol. I was going to show my bridal party. But she is adamant that no one sees it. At first I didn't like that idea now I love it cause it will be a surprise to everybody!! Lol but to each their own
  • Rebecca
    Super August 2019
    Rebecca ·
    I'm happy to show it to anyone who ISN'T FH. My friends took pictures of me in all the dresses I tried on, and when I picked one, that picture got sent around (with my permission), to most of my friends.
    The thing is - it didn't fit then, and it didn't have my customizations, so it'll still be a bit of a surprise.

    I don't even talk about it on here, just in case FH comes on or looks over at my computer.

    But it's on my phone, lol.

  • Becca
    Expert July 2019
    Becca ·

    Only my BM, dad, and my best guy friends. Other than that, no one knows.

  • T
    Dedicated March 2020
    Tamsin ·
    Not a surprise, anyone who asks can see it.
    My FH and I bought it together so he has seen it
  • Victorian Bride
    VIP December 2019
    Victorian Bride ·
    Noooooo, I did at first, but after THREE postponed weddings, alot of my girlfriends and family have seen my gown. No one has seen it on me. FH just knows its pink with a long train. I think he'll be surprised. I've had it a year now, too. Lol!
  • Future Mrs.greenwood
    Expert September 2019
    Future Mrs.greenwood ·
    I haven’t posted or shown anyone .. it ruins the excitement
  • sherry
    Savvy April 2019
    sherry ·
    My sisters and mom were with me when I bought my dress. I showed a pic to my future stepsons but it will be a surprise for everyone else.

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