Mrs. S™
Master October 2011

Is this tacky?

Mrs. S™, on April 11, 2013 at 10:39 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 475
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I always thought (yeah, tacky, I know) that if people invite me for their weddings, they actually want me to be there. But now I understand people do not expect all of their guests to show up, which is also tacky.

We currently have 2 tacky invitations for 2 weddings this summer. I’m wondering if we are among those tacky guests who should decline but to the couple’s tacky surprise, we accept? Before you say anything negative, I understand it’s tacky we haven’t RSVPed before we received the invitations.

Is it tacky if I call the couples and ask them if that really want us to show up? Or should we decline and just send them a tacky gift?

Please help, but don’t comment if you’re going to say something tacky. Thanks!

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Latest activity by Vanessa, on September 2, 2019 at 1:47 AM
  • PurpleSun
    Master September 2013
    PurpleSun ·
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    Lol. i vote show up with no present in an eye-catching dress in white and sequins, then get wasted on the dance floor.... before the first dance

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  • Desiree
    Master August 2013
    Desiree ·
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    You have confused the crapola out of me. That's tacky.

    How about you decline and DON'T send them a tacky gift. Maybe they won't be so tacky anymore.

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  • Laura Nicole
    VIP October 2013
    Laura Nicole ·
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    RSVP no, but show up anyway.

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  • Desiree
    Master August 2013
    Desiree ·
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    PurpleSun has the right idea too.

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  • Buffee
    VIP June 2013
    Buffee ·
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    PurpleSun is right...

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  • Bridget
    Devoted September 2013
    Bridget ·
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    I agree, the only way to deal with tacky people is to be tacky in return. Take PurpleSun's advice!

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  • lov3ualways
    VIP July 2013
    lov3ualways ·
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    I vote you be tacky and don't RSVP then show up with no tacky gift and bring 10 other tacky people that were not invited. That will teach those sending out tacky invites to you again.

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  • About2bMrs.T
    Super October 2015
    About2bMrs.T ·
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    Ok... so here's my thought.. Why invite people you don't want there. I refuse to do that. But I do agree I see it alot. I say if your good friends then go, if u just know of then decline.

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  • MissB
    VIP May 2013
    MissB ·
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    Don't forget to cut the cake for the couple, to no do so is tacky

    also hijack the speeches and the pictures


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  • Mrs. S™
    Master October 2011
    Mrs. S™ ·
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    Do you think it would be tacky if I combined all your fabulous suggestions into one tacky guest?

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  • Lulu
    Devoted August 2013
    Lulu ·
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    Honestly, I think people invite everyone they want there but have a guestimate of who may RSVP no. It doesn't mean they don't want you there, but for example: I sent out 45 invites thinking 10% may not show...nobody specific tho, and I won't be hurt if pple can't go. If everyone RSVP yes then that would be great also!! I wouldn't expect a gift if u aren't going unless u are close family. I think you should go and have a good time, unless you don't really like the people inviting you!!! Also, don't call and ask if they want you there bc obviously if you made the guest list (which I'm sure they had to cut some people out of) then they want you there

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  • Jessica
    Super September 2013
    Jessica ·
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    I'm not sure what is and isn't tacky anymore... but I AM cracking up at this post!

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  • Future Mrs.Eversole
    Super October 2013
    Future Mrs.Eversole ·
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    Dont RSVP until the day before the wedding then show up in white late to the ceremony and announce you have arrived! make sure DH wears jorts and then follow purplesun advice from there! Clearly the least tacky way to go..

    Oh and i agree with MissB make sure you cut their cake for them

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  • Mrs. S™
    Master October 2011
    Mrs. S™ ·
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    Y'all are confusing me now.

    How am I supposed to cut their tacky cake if I'm wasted? Also, will that ruin my tacky white dress with sequins?

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  • MissB
    VIP May 2013
    MissB ·
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    Ohno to not do so would be tacky

    do not forget to meow your objection loudly!!!


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  • Future Mrs.Eversole
    Super October 2013
    Future Mrs.Eversole ·
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    Either well, you will be the best tacky kitty ever invited to a wedding!

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  • Gabriele
    Super June 2013
    Gabriele ·
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    You can have one of the 10 people you brought with you hold you up and make sure you get no cake on your dress? That is clearly appropriate? No?

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  • CeCe
    Master May 2014
    CeCe ·
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    I had a friend (tacky, yes) who invited about 200 people more than she actually wanted at the wedding because she was SURE they wouldn't show up and she quite tackily wanted the gifts (I'm not close friends with her) - to her surprise a huge amount accepted and she had to go way over budget and they ended up having no room for a dance floor because of the venue. Tacky, tacky, tacky.

    Also I love all of these amazingly tacky suggestions

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  • Michelle P
    Super September 2013
    Michelle P ·
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    Lol, love this post. Yeah, I say don't rsvp, don't answer your phone, email or facebook when they try to contact you. Show up in a dress that matches the bridesmaids and bring a minimum of 3 crying children with you. Then complain to the server that you are allergic to everything being served plus you need 3 kids meals. And bring them an item completely opposite of everything they have listed on their registry. Smiley winking

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  • MissB
    VIP May 2013
    MissB ·
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    Also offer to help with the centerpieces


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