Is this redneck for a wedding?

I have been to an intimate expensive wedding that was small, and in a home of very wealthy people. The food was catered, but bbq style, flowers were orchids and arranged. It was evening... but at a park, you could get rolled out carpet, go all out on drapes, flowers, and decor... and make it fancy... if the park is somewhere you enjoy and is special, have it there. Coworkers really don't belong at wedding, they are temporary people whereas lifelong friends and family are the ones most celebrating you. Have it where you wish, emphasis the meaning more than the cost. Saving money where you can is important. Life isn’t free, those coworkers are not paying your bills.

I think it’s a great idea. Nothing wrong with a good cookout. It’s a great way to save on money, and get more time to talk to your guests. My fiancé and I wang BBQ at out wedding.

I'm pretty new to all of this, but all of the books, articles, podcasts.. etc all say to do what YOU want. What foods do YOU like, what do YOU want to eat on your special day. My fiancé and I are confusing a lot of wedding professionals because we just don't care about a lot of it and we have very specific food needs. We are serving breakfast (at night time) because it means a lot to us. It's kind of 'trashy' and what-not but it's what we want. Nobody is going to complain about the food unless it's just plain bad. Weddings should be about celebrating your future together while being surrounded by people you love. It's not about having fancy food.

Nothing wrong with a cook-work for a wedding. I think it's a great idea!

Not trashy at all. This is a day to celebrate you, the way YOU want it. If they don't like it they don't have to show up.

I think you should do it. we really wanted to do a courthouse in onsies kinda thing and throw a cookout close to home! That didn't happen. My mother convinced him of the ENTIRE wedding idea. we are now doing the entire shabang! however, after the honeymoon, we have every intention of doing our wedding cook off! and inviting EVERYONE! weddings are expensive but cookout/potluck is great!
If no one is helping you cost wise for food, do what ya'll wanna do. dont listen to other peoples negativity. That's what got me into a dress in the first place. (btw, i love my dress, wouldnt change it but was another $900 i had to spend...)

Honestly, that's probably what we are doing. We haven't fully decided yet but if it makes you happy, do it! Im making all of my decorations, bouquets, all of it.

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Fantastic advice!

A cookout would be a fantastic idea for a casual wedding! My cousin had pit barbecue at his wedding, one of my friends had a casual wedding at a state park in idaho and they just made burgers and hot dogs and had a few sides they got from costco. There's nothing redneck about having a cookout. Even if you did it potluck style, it's just a casual wedding. The coworkers sound judgemental and probably think wedding means fancy, when it can literally just mean a party!

A cookout would be perfect for a casual wedding- your reception is just supposed to be a big party anyway, and all that really matters is that you have fun, you're married, and that you're enjoying the day together.

If your FH is embarassed because of the words of his coworkers, maybe he needs to figure out why their opinion about your guy's wedding means so much to him?

I think a cookout sounds like a great idea! I think weddings are all about friends, family and love! I would totally eat BBQ or hotdogs and hamburgers at a wedding. Your mason jar idea sounds fun; you could make a spiked lemonade and have beers and sodas in tin boats with ice! hah sorry getting carried away! in any case please don't let anyone make you feel badly or embarrassed about this idea

The best thing about your wedding is you and your significant other can do what fits you guys best! If the cookout is the best option for you and your fiancé then do it! I’ve been to a cookout wedding and it was beautiful!

I think it’s a great idea. Being from GA myself, it sounds more like guaranteed good food! Do what’s best for your and your future hubby. That’s what matters most. And congratulations!!

I don’t think it is “trashy” at all. Your wedding is about you and your future husband, so do what YOU want.

Umm, do what makes you happy. It's a celebration of your family! They can keep their opinions to themselves and maybe not invite people who make your hubs feel embarrassed about something he likes. Team BBQ!!

Have a cookout and enjoy your time! Remember- it's YOUR wedding! In 15 years - you will only remember the fun times at the wedding and maybe have some extra cash in your ocket!

Thatsounds fun and more appetizing than regular wedding caterers.If someone doesn't like it, they can stay home.