Is this redneck for a wedding?

No it's your daybdont matter what others think make it how u want it also it's your dream not there's

Here's the thing--no matter what you do, someone will have a problem with it. We're paying about $30K, having a venue, catering, etc. People still have things to say. They think we should have chosen to get married in the city (which is A LOT more expensive, as NYC is home) instead of going to a cute small town an hour away on a metro line. They don't understand why we chose simple and elegant instead of extravagant. At the end of the day, we know that others stand with our decisions. Even more important--we know this is the wedding WE want.

I would do whatever you and your SO decided would be best for you. I don't think that is "redneck" at all, but even if I did, my opinion doesn't matter if I am not paying for it!! His coworkers should learn some manners. I love the idea of a cookout; don't let other people get you down!

"Trashy" is a made-up word that means nothing and people use to disparage others based on made-up tastes and superiority complexes. Do your own thing. If you're more worried about what your FH is thinking, I'd show him images of how other people have done it. Don't let people outside your relationship design your wedding, especially if it'll put you in debt or force you to go over budget.

I love this idea. I contemplated something similar myself. Not red neck at all in my opinion!!

WE ARE DOING A COOKOUT! He really enjoys cooking out and its cost efficient so ! At the end of the day it's our wedding and were going to do it our way . If anyone thinks its trashy they do not have to come. Weddings are not about the food!

It is a day for YOU and YOUR FIANCE! You guys do whatever the heck you want and what is going to make you guys happy!

I don't think is trashy at the end of the day is your day and you are allowed to have whatever you want! I just came back from a friend's wedding and they rented a taco truck and it was the epic thing ever!

Girl! Whatever works for your budget! A park in Georgia is the perfect place for a cookout. As long as the groom isn’t doing the grilling so he can enjoy his day too! Our food and beverage is about HALF of the cost of our wedding budget! (Hurts a little bit to think about) but we knew that was going to be one of the most expensive elements of the wedding

Do whatever makes you happy! If they have a problem with it , don’t invite them simple . I don’t think it’s trashy at all. If the set up is nice and organized , I don’t see a problem with it.

Ugh I hate how rude and judgmental some people can be! I think it sounds fun and I truly believe you should go with the vibe that makes you the most excited! People love a relaxed atmosphere. Everyone has an opinion about weddings, but the most important opinion (since you are paying for it and hosting) is your own. Don’t let them rain on your parade!!!

It's not redneck or trashy we are doing the same thing! It saves money, makes it more personal, and tbh it's not their wedding. As long as you and your husband are happy that's all that matters. When people look back on your wedding they wont care about how they got the food as long as it tastes good. The only thing that matters is you guys love you share for one another. As long as you're happy with it dont worry about what anyone else says.

Honey do it! Save money and you get that home cooking that warms the soul! My best friend is doing a pizza bar! It’s your wedding do what you want

Everyone I know got married like this - and you know what? They’re all still married, which is what matters! The wedding is just the celebration of love. It’s just one night to only think about love, and not anything nasty or negative.


Two of my lovely friends who just had a baby girl married in a municipal park two towns over (we live in the hill country) had a family friend grill burgers and hot dogs for them as a volunteer. Out here the whole community comes together to put on weddings, and I thought it was actually beautiful and NOT trashy that Mr. S !volunteered! to cook for them. How many people can say that somebody loved them enough to give them free things for their wedding like catering? I know this isn’t that exact case, but I learned really young to not judge weddings.

I think it's completely okay to do what you are doing, my fmil actually recommend something like this.

I think if you want to do a cookout for your reception then do a cookout. It will s not trashy. Go for what you want for your wedding.

My motto is if someone doesn’t like something they are more then welcome to pay for something else. But if they aren’t contributing money then their opinion doesn’t really matter. I think it sounds like a beautiful idea and with some cute decorations you can really make it your own.

Absolutely not. And you can make it really elegant with adding a few sunflowers here and there. My first wedding we had a bon fire and i got married in my moms front yard so your cook out idea is far from redneck.

Not at all! My cousin had hers in her parents back yard ( a little hot for my taste) but in June with a BBQ! It was actually quite amazing! Don't let others dictate what you want. If you want it a certain way, it is your day! I love the idea!

No! It’s your wedding ... I personally like the cookout idea who are these coworkers of his are they marrying you? Do they have money to contribute? Do what you want and what feels best according to your budget. A cookout setup and how is arranged can be very well put together and not tacky or redneck ! Girl keep thinking outside the box no such thing as being the same or traditional!!! Can I get an AMEN!!