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Yvonne
Savvy May 2016

Is this an inappropriate first dance song?

Yvonne, on May 4, 2016 at 1:34 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 49

Let me start by saying half of my family is ultra conservative and the other half is at the other end of the spectrum (nothing offends them etc.). I fall on the not at all conservative end of the spectrum.

My Fiance and I really love the song "My Eyes" by Blake Shelton and are considering it as an option for our first dance song. Is it too inappropriate or raunchy? Should we be taking the conservative half of our families feelings into account when choosing our music?

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Latest activity by Yvonne, on May 6, 2016 at 1:35 AM
  • P
    Expert December 2016
    Pahina2016 ·
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    Just looked up the lyrics, it may be a little risqué. personally I wouldn't play it in front of my parents but to each their own

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  • Kelsey
    VIP December 2016
    Kelsey ·
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    If you and your FH love the song, use it. I have very few conservative family members, and you better believe the music is gonna get raunchy after a certain time....

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  • P
    Devoted April 2016
    P2BE ·
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    Not even close to being inappropriate. Maybe if it's your sweet sixteen but it's your wedding day and you're adults so dance away I say

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  • Rebecca
    Master November 2015
    Rebecca ·
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    As a normal dance song I'd say it's fine, but for a first dance... everyone's going to be watching you. I'd feel kind of awkward as a guest watching you dance to that song.

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  • Kimi
    Master August 2016
    Kimi ·
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    I think it might be a bit much for a first dance. And I'm not that conservative. Definitely play it, but not as your first dance.

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  • Staci
    Master September 2014
    Staci ·
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    I am very uncomfortable just imagining being at that wedding. It's not raunchy necessarily but I don't think its appropriate for a first dance where all of your family and friends are staring at you.

    ETA: That sounded prudish lol. Do you but as a guest I would be weirded out.

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  • M
    Master July 2015
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    I promise no one ever listens to the lyrics. Ever. And if they do, they can't hear ti.

    Try to remember one first dance song from a wedding you've been to that wasn't "The Way You Look Tonight."

    You won't be able to.

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  • RealLindseyO
    Master October 2017
    RealLindseyO ·
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    I don't think many people will listen to the lyrics but for those who do it might be awkward.

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  • Patricia
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    Patricia ·
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    I don't even remember what people danced to and I don't listen to lyrics cause I am so distracted by watching the couple dance anyways. Don't worry. i almost picked "love me like you do" and that's from 50 shades. Not the reason I didn't pick it.

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  • LoveInDC
    Master November 2016
    LoveInDC ·
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    I personally wouldn't. FH would actually sing that song to me when we first started dating (which is huge because he never sings). Meaningful for us, but way too sexual for my taste. Not only for the guests, but I'd want my first moment as a married couple to be romantic and not about him wanting to rip my clothes off.

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  • Yvonne
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    Yvonne ·
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    Haha @Patricia my bridal party is actually walking in to "Love me Like You Do. We actually almost did entirely 50 shades music for the wedding but decided against it. Thanks for the opinions everyone! Very helpful.

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  • FurtureMrs.H
    Dedicated May 2017
    FurtureMrs.H ·
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    It's YOUR song! So do exactly what you want and if people have a problem with it then they shouldn't choose it as their first song. Do what makes you happySmiley smile

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  • TheRascal
    Super July 2016
    TheRascal ·
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    Eh, I couldn't tell you anyone's first dance song....except the one that made my eyebrows raise, and that one was "Glycerine" by Bush. It seemed an odd choice.

    I just looked up the lyrics and personally, I wouldn't want to dance to a song that described how much my partner wanted to bang me because of how I looked. I prefer something a little more sentimental and sweet, but to each her own.

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  • BoozyBaker
    Master January 2017
    BoozyBaker ·
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    Googled the lyrics as well, whether its fast or slow I say it's fine. You're allowed to be a little sexy on your wedding day cause you're allowed to do whatever the eff you want. if you're family is split 50/50 then go with it cause you're on the nonconservative side. Just make sure you and FH are happy with the choices made that day. Everyone else is gravy.

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  • FizzFuzz
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    FizzFuzz ·
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    I had to google the song as well. Why would you want to have your first dance to a song that is so sexual, in front of family and friends?

    People are funny.

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  • Staci
    Master September 2014
    Staci ·
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    I agree that people don't listen that closely to the lyrics, but this song says it over and over like 10 times, "my eyes are the only things I don't want to take off of you."

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    Master October 2015
    VWCat ·
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    If you have to ask, I think you have your answer.

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  • FutureMrsWallace
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    FutureMrsWallace ·
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    Absolutely an appropriate song! He is saying how beautiful the woman is and I think it's very sweet=]

    ETA: My eyes are the only thing I DON'T want to take off of you

    It's not saying he's gonna undress you. lighten up people! lol

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  • TheRascal
    Super July 2016
    TheRascal ·
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    I've thought about this more. What makes me feel this song isn't a good first dance choice is that the the song is only about the physical attractiveness of the woman on one night and how much the guy wants to f*ck her. This song is the lyrical embodiment of "the male gaze."

    In my opinion, that is superficial (and gross), not sweet. As a guest, I would be uncomfortable. That said, I will not be a guest at this wedding, so I just wasted five minutes thinking more deeply about something that has no impact on me whatsoever.

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  • Sour shoes
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    Sour shoes ·
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    It's awkward and creepy in front of your family. I wouldn't. But it's your day you should be happy with your song choice. I'm putting myself in your shoes and I would feel weird about it.

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