Is not sending thank-you notes to non-gifters OK?

I think an email is fine, if anything.

Gift card to your guests? or did you just mean a thank you card?

personally i would sent a card that said "thank you for celebrating with us" (if i had my pro-pictures back). i know i have seen that people said that was rude but i would want to acknowledge that they were there and took the time to be there.

If people were guests and did not bring or send gifts, it's not at all required to send thank you notes. In fact, technically guests should be providing thank you notes to hosts for something like what you provided.

Some people have different opinions on this and like to send thank you notes for attendance, which is fine too. I would just be careful in my wording because it could easily come across as though you're calling them out for not bringing a present.

The reception IS the thank you for the guests. I'm not sending thank you's for just attendance....1. because we spent $25K on a wedding to do that for us and 2. There were a lot of people that were invited that I wasn't able to see that night, no matter how hard I tried and if they didn't give at least a card, there is no way to know (unless I asked around) if they even attended.

Yes. You don't need to send a TY note to someone who didn't give a gift. If someone came in from OOT or out of the country, you might want to consider sending a thank you to them for flying/driving (if in US) and spending time with you but it is not a necessity.

I'd personally send a thank you for attending note, but thats me.

I think it's polite to send a TY note to anyone that came. The gift isn't what matters. The fact that they were there to enjoy your special day with you does. Just my two cents.

You do not send a TY note to people who didn't give a gift just for attendance. This discussion has happened MANY times on this forum and there are always people who believe you should still send "thank you for coming" notes. No. That can come across as a "hint" for a gift - it is not polite to highlight someone's lack of gift. You thank people for coming in person at the wedding and the reception itself as well as favors are also ways that you have thanked guests for attending. That is enough.

I did not send thank you gifts to the people that didn't bring a gift or send one ahead of time. I didn't want it to come across as a hint and we thanked them for coming in person.

I don't think a thank you is necessary for non-gifters. However, you might want to check with your husband esp. if you are not Indian about cultural expectations.

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I don't plan to send thank you card to everyone who attended. Just those that bring a card or a gift. The reception is my "thank you" for attending.

Im on the side of, a thank you card isnt required for guests who dont bring a card or a gift. The reception is the thank you for attending.

Sounds like a fun day! Congrats!

I side with not sending a thank you note to those that did not give a gift. As others have stated, I feel that some people may view it as a passive aggressive dig at them for not having given you a gift.

That being said, I think the culture aspect comes into play here. I would say that most couples will be able to thank guests in person for attending, but I know how crazy big the guest lists for Indian weddings would be. Seeing as most of the non-gifters you said came from your husband's side, I would ask him or a female relative of his about customs in his culture for this matter (as I assume you are not Indian). I have Indian friends at work, and one that I am close to is getting married soon herself, so I hear a lot about their customs. But I know that India is a large place and traditions and customs will vary based on the area his family is from and their religion. From what my friend tells me, it is customary for most guests to give cash (they don't do registries at all), there is no alcohol or meat (she is Muslim), and they have multi-day events with guest lists ranging in the 400-500. But since you said you had open bar, I am guessing either that was to accommodate your culture, or they follow different customs.

Anyway, I would check into it with a family member of his that you are more close to. You don't want to send a card if it is to be interpreted as a request for a gift, and you don't want to not send a card if you are expected to. It is better to error on the side of caution when integrating into a new culture, so as to not offend anyone. Though I am sure you have more experience in this culture than most, as you just married into it. Good luck!

Thanks a lot for all the responses!