Is it wrong to ask for money instead of gifts for your wedding?

I understand though its such a concept that a lot of people especially from older generations find really tasteless. I can kind of see their point of view actually.

IMHO you're not really "asking" for anything or obligating them to give you something unless you flat out say "get me a gift or don't come" lol otherwise you're just providing info and preferences for those who do choose to buy a gift and can't decide what to get you.

@MrsJoseph OMG lmao! that made me laugh.

Every wedding invite i have ever gotten had registry info in it, whether it was honeymoon or gift registry, and i am including it in mine as well, every person is different and you need to do whats in your best interest. I dont know, maybe things might be different here in alberta lol, but thats how we do things haha

I actually have been wondering the same thing, because my fiance and I have been together for 4 years, and we have practically everything we need together. We are planning on taking our "honeymoon" but that consists of relocating from FL to OH. We could really use monetary gifts more than extra home goods, especially because we want to travel light. Without coming off as rude, because it seems the majority rules that asking for money is, how does one go about bringing it up? We are having a pretty personal wedding, with about 50 people, 5 of which are just the wedding party of close friends, and about 20 are immediate family (mothers, fathers, sisters and brothers). Neither of those groups would be offended if we asked for money. Maybe instead of posting any registries, we could state that we aren't accepting any gifts due to the move but there will be a wishing well at the ceremony for optional monetary donations towards a moving fund?? Does anyone still find that rude? Please help!

It is NOT rude at all. GO FOR IT!! ASK!!

This is your wedding, your day!! Do what is best for the both of you and all those that are truly there for you will respect and appreciate the honesty in the request.

These days most couples are paying for the wedding themselves, the least guests should do is understand what a couple prefers as a gift. People who get offended by such are those that seem most immature and one sided.

DO ask for a monetary gift in the most respectful and friendly way.

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This is a great site that allows the guests to deposit money directly into the bride and groom’s account! It is very simple and easy to use. They only deal with monetary gifts, unlike many other sites. They also offer free printable wedding inserts that let your guests know, in a professional way, that you are not registering for traditional household items. After all, your guests really do just want to give you a gift that you NEED and WANT!

A friend of mine is having a wedding in April and she put a poem in her invitation that was really cute . Im considering using it for my wedding in September. My fiance and I been together for 9 yrs so I'm not registering anywhere and I've had people ask me what I wanted. If they're your family and close friends that are at your wedding then no one should be offended if your suggesting monetary gifts if they desire to get you a wedding g gift. My friend requested that and I was glad because that made my life easier not having to think of what to get them. This is the poem: With all that we have, we've been blessed. Your presence and prayers is all that we request. But if you desire to give nonetheless, monetary gift is one we suggest. I really thought that was a nice way of asking only if people insisted on getting something and if they don't all we care about is your presence at out wedding.

I don't understand how is it rude to ask for money instead of gift when you don't need anything else for the home. I know myself don't want any gifts so money would be a better idea, and if someone going gift money would be easiest for both parties. Especially since we are stretching our budget to make sure our guest have a extended menu to eat from, and open bar all night.

While I'm all for that idea, I brought up the same idea to my family and was told that could be considered rude. What I'm doing is just registering for a small amount of gifts and hopefully after those are bought the rest will stick to money.

Times are changing, the concept of asking for money instead of gifts is no longer taboo or "rude" and really only seen as such if you're very traditional. Frankly, it's pretty silly to have your loved ones spend their money on things you do not want, just because that's how it's been done in the past. I think that poem is lovely, it explains their situation in a very polite way. There are several others I've seen that are nice, too. If you're very courteous and respectful with your wording, I see no problem. We are using an online registry called Blueprint that does cash gifts and items, but the cash gifts can be for honeymoon "experiences". For example, you want to have a romantic dinner or a fun boating trip on your honeymoon, people can help gift you those things. It's a nice, unique way to make people feel like they're actually getting you something, not just giving you money.

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Nope. It's still rude to ask people for money. Everyone knows that money is a good present; they don't need guidance like they would if they were picking out items for your home. Your registry is deceptive - it looks like they're giving you a wine tasting for two or a trip to the hot springs, but they're actually giving you money, minus fees, and you can spend whatever's left however you like.

My husband and I both had a house so there was nothing we needed. I had guests that didn't know what to get for us. I did use a poem but as a option as either or. My guests were fine with it. We actually received more in our wishing well than we received in gifts.

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It's rude to ask for anything other than a timely RSVP.

You can go so far as to post a short registry on your wedding website and tell both mothers and the maid of honor that you could really use cash for a house downpayment or whatever. Word will get around. People will give you cash.

Honeyfunds take a cut. And are a way of asking for cash. People aren't stupid.

Bad verse (and all these "poems" are bad verse--cringe-making) just make things worse, like any attempt to make something adorable when it's really tacky.