Is it too long to be waiting?

We will have waited two full years to get married when we finally say I do! I like having a long engagement because we were first on the calendar for 2020 at our venue, we got all the big stuff done early, and most importantly, we had plenty of time to do things and make decisions! It has been relatively stress free and fun! We have had a ton of time to save up money too! Everyone is different, but I say no, it is not too long!

We decided on a year long engagement. And as much as I want to be married already, I wish I'd had 3 years to save for it!

Just my opinion. The first 3 years are the hardest. Just getting to know each other with ups and downs. My and my FH have been together 5 years but engaged. A little over 1. We finally.(well me, he has been ready) decided to get married.

It is totally up to you. We got engaged four months ago and we’re not getting married until June 2021. It’s a great opportunity to take things slow and save as much money as we can.

Totally not judging and I mean, if it works for you then it works for you! But just curious why wait so long?

The only opinion on this that should matter is yours and your fiances. everyone's reasons are different. my fiance and i will be engaged 18 months on our wedding day, now that timeline is a little more typical, but it's what was best for us. don't worry about what anyone else thinks. i've learned that!

Congratulations! There's nothing wrong with a 3 year engagement...we don't know your circumstances, its none of our business. You and your fiance had a conversation on setting a date and if 3 years is what you both decided, then 3 years it is, that's all that matters. Do what's best for the both of you. I've been engaged for 4 months and we're not getting married until 5/21/21 which will pretty much be 2 years; FH and I both decided on that date...and that's what we want to do. We can save, plan and take our time. I don't want the stress of it all financially as well as mentally. Good luck with everything

I personally couldn't wait that long to get married (our wedding is just over a year after getting engaged), BUT everyone's situation is different.

Is there a reason you guys are waiting that long to get married?

Every situation is different! We were engaged for 20 months, just shy of 2 years. We knew we needed that time to save money for the wedding we wanted. We had just bought a house and we were broke. 20 months felt like forever a lot of the time, so I feel like if we had waited 3 years it would have felt like an eternity. If I could go back? I would have gotten married sooner, with less people. Again we all have our reasons, but sometimes the wait is awful!

We will be engaged 2 years before our wedding date and together for 7 years. I dont think it's too long. Its whatever feels right to you.

Hi! We decided to wait because right now we are in MA and our families are all in NJ, so we wanted to wait until we moved back down there to start the wedding process, so we’re planning on tentatively 2022!! We also need time to save up the money since we are basically paying for it ourselves

I am waiting till I graduate from college. Which hopefully will be Spring 2021, but we found the date that we wanted in 2022. September 24, 2022 is our day

I agree, I think everyone is different and everyone has different reasoning for a long or short engagement. You should do whatever your comfortable with. Personally, I’m waiting over three years because I’m in college right now. I want to have my four year degree so I can focus most of my attention on school. Don’t let anyone pressure you into a timeline.

Follow what works best for you two. You’ll have more time to plan and save which is always a plus. Just make sure not to leave the planning for last minute just because you have 3 years to plan. I started planning my 2019 wedding in late 2017 so I got some 2018 prices for the vendors I booked because they didn’t have 2019 prices yet. Of course don’t book vendors too much in advance either specially if is a small company in case they go out of business and you lose your deposit but if 2022 is what works for you guys go for it.

We got engaged July 2018 and we're getting married April 2020. So it'll be a year and nine months before we're husband and wife.

We decided to wait because:

1. I've always want a spring wedding and my fiance proposed in the middle of the summer. We wanted to save for at least a year. And planning a wedding in nine months was not something we were going to.

2. My sister's vowel renewal (actually a full blown wedding) was exactly one year away from the date my fiance proposed.

Honestly, TIME FLEW! We're soooo happy that we had more time. The extra time has help us to my our day perfect.

So do what's best for you and your fiance. What family and friend say and think DO NOT MATTER. Tune them out. Their opinion do not matter.

I just got engaged the first of this month. We decided to wait till 2022 for lots of reasons, it's okay to wait. You have forever with your partner so why rush right. Some of my reasons where, I would be graduated from college that may, I would finally have to leave my parents health insurance and we could save up a lot more money if we waited.

Not too long! Whatever works for you is totally fine, and it’ll give you more time to save up!

Its whatever the couple wants! I got engaged June of 2017, and will be getting married October 2020. It helped us get to know what we want and also time to save

We will have had a 2 year engagement at the time we get married. We got engaged in August of 2018 and didn't even pick a date until this June. One, weddings are expensive. We had to figure some things out since we are the only 2 paying for the wedding. Two, I wasn't ready to jump right into the stress of planning and just wanted to enjoy being engaged. I know some people have short engagements, and that's great if that's what you want, but as my FH likes to say, "Neither one of us are going anywhere...what's the rush?" And he's right. But of course, it's up to you. Do what it right for the two of you.

It's all up to you. Depends on budget, family, etc. I personally cant stand having an almost 2 year engagement. I couldn't imagine 3. But it all depends on your situation