Jaclyn
Just Said Yes January 2022

Is it too long to be waiting?

Jaclyn, on September 22, 2019 at 9:04 PM Posted in Planning 10 134
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I recently got engaged 2 months ago and we decided to get married in 2022. What are your opinions on waiting 3 years for marriage?

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  • Kristen
    VIP April 2020
    Kristen ·
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    I think everyone is different and therefore has different reasons for having a long or short engagement. One of my friends got engaged two weeks ago and eloped today, whereas I have also had a friend who was engaged for 5 years due to his FW having to finish university and move to America
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  • Lisa Marie
    Devoted October 2020
    Lisa Marie ·
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    We will be engaged for 3.5 years come our wedding day and together almost 9 years. It’s your personal preference.
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  • Samantha
    Expert October 2020
    Samantha ·
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    We’ll have been together 10 years on our wedding day. We wanted to wait until we were both out of school (I graduated law school in 2018) and financially stable before we got married. I don’t know what your reasons are for waiting but all that matters is that you’re comfortable with it.
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  • Chinda
    Dedicated December 2020
    Chinda ·
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    My FH purposed to me 10 years ago. (We were 16 and I was 6 months pregnant with our first child) we waited because we were still in school and VERY young. We knew we wanted to spend our lives together! After we turned 18 we talked about getting married, planned our date 12.13.14. Then unexpectedly I became pregnant with our second. Our wedding is now in December 2020 and we are locked on our date 😂
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  • Ashley
    Just Said Yes October 2022
    Ashley ·
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    My fiancé and I also got engaged this year and are waiting until 2022! We chose to wait that long to finish our college degrees and save some $$$
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  • Erin
    Dedicated October 2019
    Erin ·
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    Every situation is different and you need to do what works for you. My brother and I got engaged within a week of each other and I’m getting married a year before they are. They’re 8 years younger and wanted more time to save. I’ve been engaged for 1.5 years and picked a date that worked well for weather and our business.
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  • Farrah
    Devoted September 2019
    Farrah ·
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    We were engaged for 2.5 years before getting married on friday!
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  • Laura
    Rockstar November 2019
    Laura ·
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    I think it’s too long. Getting engaged, to me, means you’re ready to get married. How can you be both ready and waiting three years? Doesn’t make much sense to me.
    Ive been engaged for almost 18 months, with 7 weeks to go, and consider that far too long. It was due to FH’s ability to get days off and I’m still a little bitter about it; we shoulda/coulda been married a year ago had he made different choices.
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  • Formerbride
    VIP June 2019
    Formerbride ·
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    I couldn't wait 3 years. If I had people asking me questions about my wedding for 3 years I would call the whole thing off lol. We had just under a year engagement, like 6 days under lol. It all depends on what's driving you to have a long engagement. We all have different needs and wants. Congratulations!
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  • Megan
    Expert October 2019
    Megan ·
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    I have a friend who has been engaged for almost 7 years... they've had plans for ceremonies 3 times but never committed to it. If you're asking here, I get the feeling that you may think it would be too long. You can only do what you and your partner are comfortable with. My FH and I will have only been engaged 6 months when we get married in October. My FSIL was engaged for 2 years.

    Only you can decide if it's too long. Congratulations and good luck. 🍀
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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Champion March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    Everyone is different! We had about 15 months to plan, which was great. I think my nerves would get to me waiting 3 years but it will allow you more time to save.
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  • Erin
    Super June 2021
    Erin ·
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    We'll have been engaged for just shy of 2 years when we finally get married. There's nothing wrong with a long engagement if that's what you need to do. Every person's situation is different. Congratulations Smiley smile

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  • D
    Super September 2019
    Dana ·
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    Do whats best for you ! I had a 25 month engagement and at first it seemed like forever but the day is Saturday and damn did that come quick
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  • Kat_
    Super October 2019
    Kat_ ·
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    We enjoyed being engaged for 2.5 years and in 13 days we will be getting married! It’s so worth the wait... stretch out the engagement... you’re only engaged for a short time in the scale of life! We savored every minute ☺️
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  • Katie
    Dedicated October 2019
    Katie ·
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    I did 2 years. It felt long but it was the perfect amount of time to save up for everything we wanted!
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  • Alyssa
    Expert June 2020
    Alyssa ·
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    I couldn't wait 2 years. I would go stir crazy. FH and I will be married just over 10 months from the date he proposed and that is long enough. We had our venue/catering, photo/video, DOC, DJ, my dress picked out and ceremony musician all hired within 2-3 weeks of being engaged. Now we just have to work on details and paying for everything.
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  • J
    Just Said Yes September 2024
    Jessica ·
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    I think I might be waiting until 2024 😟
    I've been engaged for one month and have been together for 9 years.
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  • Sabrina
    Beginner October 2020
    Sabrina ·
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    We got engaged 7/7/17 (complete surprise, my FH was 1 month post his second hip surgery, didn't even know he could get down on one knee) and our wedding isn't until 10/10/20. We waited because we were purchasing a house and wanted to build our savings and have enough time to plan the wedding. Everyone is different. So get married 2 months after getting engaged and others wait longer. There's no wrong answer. Go with whatever you want. It's your wedding.

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  • Laura
    Dedicated November 2019
    Laura ·
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    I waited for four years because we didnt want to mess up my financial aid for college. I did 0 planning until I was graduated too lolz. Don't sweat it, do what's right for you.
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  • Aleaj
    Expert October 2019
    Aleaj ·
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    You honestly have to do what’s best for you, if you think it’s the right time frame for your life then it’s perfect. It’s no right time length yo be engaged. My fiancé and i were engaged for a year
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