Is it too long to be waiting?

There’s no time limit do what feels right to you and your fiancé! I know people who wait three years, 1 year, 6 months!

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Do what’s best for you. I really don’t understand longer engagements or even dating someone for years without the intentions of marriage if marriage is what your goal is. We'll have had a 5 month engagement. We’re not into waiting for our forever.

We used scrapbooking supplies and made our own invitations....I got quite a few compliments, it was fun and saved a ton of money!

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I don’t think it’s anyone else’s business how long you’re engaged or why. People will have opinions no matter what. If that’s what is best for you, then do it. The only people it really makes a difference to is your and your fiance.

I do think it's long but it's totally valid if there's reasons why like school

3 yrs is enough time to pay for everything, and to have everything right! Weddings is so expensive nowadays, so take as much time as you need. We’re looking at a year and a half on my end before I have my wedding. Congratulations!!!💋💋

We became engaged in 2017 and will be getting married in 2020. Everyone's timeline is different based on where they are in life and what they're trying to accomplish before, during and after the wedding. We're paying for our wedding ourselves so we wanted to give ourselves enough time to budget to have everything paid off before the wedding and live life.

I think it depends on why you're waiting that long. If you're really young, i would say there's no problem waiting. Or now that ive seen how much a wedding costs, just saving up money to have a nicer wedding, that's good too.
Im older and didn't want to wait long. I'll be 10 months engaged by the time we have our wedding in May 2020. FH only wanted to wait long enough for his brother to come back from deployment so our date is two months after that.

I just got engaged a couple of months ago and we having our Wedding in 2022. So no honey, it give you more time to plan the wedding, budget, and save!!

I've been hating the engaged questions, so I'd wished we just sent the invitations to announce our engagement. We'll have been engaged 15 months when we get married, wedding date on our 10 year.

For me, engaged life has felt harder than the other years to be honest. He says he feels no different lol. We started dating in early 20s and just didn't care about marriage - we said we'd stay together as long as we were happy. Started discussing govt papers due to insurance, end of life planning, etc. at about 8 years.

All that to say I could understand a longer engagement to have time to talk about the future, and honestly figure out if you want to be married to this person. I'm sure people who have been together longer than us can chime in - there's some big changes between a 2 year non-living together relationship and living together for a few years (and experiencing the REAL sickness and health, job gains and losses, deaths, etc.)

Your timeline might give you time to not get "caught up" in the whirlwind. It's easy to be madly in love when things are exciting, it's another to stay in love when you're in that standard day to day. All said, CONGRATULATIONS

I got engaged may 2017 and am just getting married this October 2019. So uts not quite 3 years but 2 and a half years and it's still stressful. But it gave more time to look onto what I really wanted

I got engaged a few weeks ago, but ours isn't until 2021. It does seem far away but our wedding is out of the country so I think the time will fly by as we get into the planning phases of the wedding.

Honestly.... It’s long! I say that because ours will be nearly 2 years and even that’s too long (We’re only finally getting close to the 1 year mark) 😩However our engagement is long because we’re having a destination wedding in Vegas and wanted to skip the extremely hot months in summer, as well as, the cold winter months. So when we saw 10/10/20, we decided that it was a perfect and fun fall date.

But otherwise, I’d prefer a 6 month engagement (1 year at max) to avoid it being dragged out.

That would have been too long for me! We were engaged just over a year, 385 days. I was SO ready to be married i didn’t want to wait, and i wanted to be married before I graduated school. Had I not had to worry about that we probably would have gotten married a few months later in the spring.
But, everyone is different. We had a date picked within 3 weeks of being engaged. My uncle has been with his fiancé for I don’t know 15 years and engaged for 6 months. They have no idea when they’ll get married. You have to do what works for you.

Any amount of time is ok for waiting! We will be engaged 3.5 years once our wedding happens. I'd suggest not focusing on wedding planning until like 1.5 years to 1 year out from the date though as it is a long time. To me the perfect time frame is one year engagement/planning but if yall need longer to save and have what you want or that time frame is just better, then no problem! I had a teach in high school that got engaged and just never got married so I think it's been 10 years now?

You do what's right for you! We are doing 2 years

Every one is different and has different reasons. I don't live with my FH so three years would be way too long for us. We were going to do two years and cut it down to 13 months which was still too long but just right for saving enough money to invite family and friends to our wedding also we got engaged 4 months after meeting so gave us more time to get to know each other and out families also we needed to do pre marital counsel. So 13 months though long was exactly perfect any longer would suck.

I get it if it’s for financial reasons?