Hi please bear with me, if you saw my previous post I was having wedding blues due to having no support other than FH and feeling alone in planning with no bridal party or no one really. All is great with me and my FH if anything were amazing but we hit a few financial issues and had a few family medical emergencies/ injuries. We are 7 months away and I am stressing. We sent our save the dates out already but I really do not feel up for my wedding as big as we wanted. His groomsmen and best man are great as for me, my MOH is not existant and my bridesmaids are a state or counties away which are hours away. They are there with me emotionally but my MOH is not. I am not asking her to be with me I am not asking her anything as I no longer want to hurt myself reaching out just for her to know I exist. She has alot going on and I have been there seen her visited her but my wedding is never brought up which is fine I am not pushy. This wedding planning is not fun anymore, I haven't gotten my dress my MOH couldn't come or bailed, my other friends cannot everyone is busy I get it my BMs are out of state I want to go with my mom but shes sick sometimes she can't leave the house and my cousins wife who offered FORGOT 3x and I do not want to walk into a store alone if my mom cannot come. My future MIL is sick too and I would have to drive 3 hours to get her to come with me (doesn't drive) and I do not want to do that.I honestly wish I did a DW with FH. I want to save money as well, I have to review my contract but I want to do something smaller more intimate for my wedding. Is that bad? I can change the venue to same city or find something more intimate or just overall change the city and have that notified in the wedding invitations later this year, We have already put down 3K to save the date at my current venue, I do not know if we will get it back but I hope so...is this bad? Should I just chill relax and see how next few months go ?
I honestly just wanna marry my best friend so bad I am doing this ceremony for my mom who is elderly and sick and cannot travel. He wants to do it for me because he says I deserve to be queen for the day and as much as I love it I am stressed. We financially are doing this alone, neither one of our families are financially able to help other than little things. These emergencies set us back and even if they didn't I feel I have no support. My MOH is always busy and I feel I am not a concern which is fine I GET IT, one of my BM is complaining about my day which I ignored because it's not my problem she doesn't like its Sunday and she can't "turn up" and has to drive back. I have a cousin's wife mad at my date because she had a suprise party and I feel like I do not want to be around anyone but my FH and our IMMEDIATE family even though I know I have too. I don't know, I am sad...he wants what I want and he is so supportive that he was like let us take a trip and get married just me and you and celebrate small when we get back if you want. I am TEMPTED.
Any encouraging words or well wishes would be great.