Hi, my sister recently moved to Michigan and is getting married there. I am in the wedding party but I live far away. The wedding is 4 days long and I’m honored to be on stage helping with several of the different traditional Indian ceremonies.
The problem is I have two young girls and I’m nervous about who will watch them while I’m on stage. I am usually very strict about who is allowed to watch my kids and I never let my kids out of my sight.
Anyways, there’s no family on our side who can watch my kids. I was told I should just let the groom’s aunties and friends watch my kids when I’m in the ceremonies but I barely know them. I met them once at a party and they insisted on watching my kids but they kept passing my eldest around until they eventually left her alone to wander the party without supervision and I was very uncomfortable with that.
I could ask the aunties not to let my kids out of their sight for a second but honestly I think the aunties will still pass my kids around even if they promise not to because they will suddenly need to help with the ceremony or assist an elder etc.
I can afford to hire an expensive nanny service to help out for several days at the multi-day wedding but I’m worried the groom and his family will be offended and feel I don’t trust them. I worry that they will think it is lavish or snobby to bring a nanny to a wedding. I don’t really like the idea of hiring a nanny for a few days because they are also a stranger, but at least I know they will always supervise my kids and not have to run off to help with the event. So that’s the best I can come up with unless you guys have better ideas? I wouldn’t feel trusting of the nanny to drive the kids back to the hotel and put them to bed but it would give me peace of mind during the ceremonies I’m in. There will be 300 people at the wedding but there are very few kids and anyways even if there were a kids area I wouldn’t feel comfortable leaving my little ones with just one adult and 10 kids.
Do you have suggestions about childcare ideas? Is it reasonable to hire a nanny for just *my* kids during the 4 days of eventsor is it awkward? (Some events are as small as 20 people and some as large as 300). And how can I make sure my kids are supervised without offending the groom and his family?
Thanks so much!
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