Is it possible to have a wedding under $10,000 in NJ/NYC?

Not likely on long island! we looked at mid-range reception halls on SUNDAY in the winter, and absolute cheapest we found was $90 +tax +gratuity (inclusive of food, open bar, service). all the vendors (of the same quality) on the island seem to charge the same price. bare minimum packages for all: DJ $2k, photo/video $4k, flowers $2k, limo $1k. not even going to talk about how much things cost with the upgrades we wanted...

A very small one, yes.

Is this the budget for everything? Venue, food, cake, flowers, attire, hair, makeup, travel, accommodations, photography, invitations etc?

I live in NYC and 10K is not enough for 100 guests unless you personally know some vendors. I tried it and I know a lot of vendors. My wedding is still coming to 25K regardless. Cut the guest list. Look for a venue and vendors that can work with your budget.

Listen to Celia.

I got married in rural AL and we did 200 for less than $10k in a free venue. In NYC you're going to have to cut the guest list.

My suggestion would be a DW somewhere fun like Cape Cod or Martha's Vineyard with just family and very close friends. You could keep your costs down and people would understand why everyone wasn't invited.

Also getting married in Lancaster PA--upped our original budget from 25k to 35k, not including honeymoon, rings or attire. We're hosting 115 people for a Saturday evening wedding.

It might be possible if you consider a remote venue out in the Poconos. I had a friend get married on a Friday evening at the Shawnee Inn for about 13k for 130 people. Beautiful location, great food and drinks. You'll definitely need to reconsider your guest list if you aren't willing to push the date and spend more time saving.

Not with 100ppl. We are having 124 people and spent about 20k on just the venue and reception.

It's very very tough in NY and you will need to think outside the box!

We're at 70 guests and original budget was $12k-- now at about $17k (including honeymoon).

I'm having a Sunday wedding in central PA for <100 guests, and my budget is 18,000.

Please remember that money in = quality out. I care about the people I'm inviting, therefore I am willing to pay a bit more to ensure that they are taken care of and have a good time.

Do what works best for you, but I would be asking myself whether people I want to cheap out on are worth inviting.

OP- $10k in NYC or NJ for 100ppl is not possible like at all. I have lived in NYC my entire life and this just isn't an inexpensive city. NJ is not that far off in price unless you go real south. We tried looking at venues in North Jersey & Central Jersey and the prices were roughly the same if not more (to our surprise). The cheapest wedding venue you can find in NYC will be about $60-75 per plate (including catering, bar, linens, and cake) but it will not be lavish. It will also not include photographer, videographer, florist, DJ, rings, wedding dress, and miscellaneous expenses. The more typical per plate price is $150-200 per person. Also note that many venues in NYC and NJ have a minimum. I know my colleague had issues booking a venue for 100ppl in NJ it was almost impossible to find. I would say cut the guest list to under 50ppl and maybe do it at a restaurant or someone's backyard. Also Thursday, Friday, and Sunday weddings are cheaper. But just honestly there is not enough DIY and friendors you could use to even make this possible. Consider a Destination wedding in PA (poconos) I know the per plate price there is closer to $30-50 because I asked at a resort when FH and I went on vacation about 1 year ago.

For perspective my wedding is 150-160ppl and we are spending $40-50k.

@Bunnycita & @Erica- who is your florist if I may ask? I am still shopping around. Thanks in advance.

I had a Sunday wedding in northern NJ for 40 guests. We paid a little more because we were slightly under their minimum, but my all-inclusive venue (catering, alcohol, cake, staff, everything) was approx $10k. For 40 people.

Try diners.. some of them have party rooms and offer wedding services

Not for 100 people.

Yeah, I live in the state (Utah) with the cheapest prices to get married (according to The Knot) and it's still costing me around $15k to properly host 150 people. Could I have cut back on things to make it less than $10k. Sure. But as they say....wedding budgets are made to be broken.

It's feasible, but you're going to need to slash the guest list and most likely, keep it to a meal/drinks only reception, rather than have a band/DJ. A historic Midtown hotel gave us a quote for about $11,000 for 80 guests, though that space has no dance floor and would be best for a more sedate wedding. Our wedding reception for roughly 80 guests is about $17K. That's considered dirt cheap by Manhattan standards, though that doesn't include our church, our attire, DJ, photographer, etc.

New York is expensive. Know that. Yes, we could get married for cheaper somewhere else. But would we want to? In our eyes, there's just no place quite as magical as New York over the holidays.

ETA: Honestly? My back-up dream Manhattan wedding is wearing a vintage Chanel suit to City Hall, followed by soup dumplings at Joe's Shanghai a few blocks away and photos around town. Better than the typical catered food and NYC's City Hall is an architectural masterpiece.

I don't know about that area, but I know where I'm from you couldn't do a wedding for that many people for that little money. Cut your guest list.

Oh dear last year around that time I asked that question here.... 10k was my budget for 80 guests but now I already spend twice that and I think it will be triple soon.

I am having my wedding in NJ and will have around 150 guests. My wedding cost is around $6,000

Katrina, I uh, don't think so

We are in Houston. We are having only 25-30 guests and our budget is 10K. Definitely not in Manhattan, just the venue probably would cost more than your budget.

If you can't justify the $30K, then cut your guest list OR just elope and you've be able to save the 10K as well.

Your wedding is essentially about you and your significant other. It's optional (and totally your choice) to have family or friends to celebrating the event. If you want to save money, then there will be trade-offs. Good luck!