Is it okay to host your own Jack and Jill

No.

Jack and Jill as in cohost bachelor and bachelorette? Or as in party with raffle tickets and entry price?

The first one is borderline tacky to host yourself, the second one should not happen, whether you host it or anyone else.

Wtf is a Jack and Jill party?

But yes, generally it's considered tacky to throw your own bridal shower, bachelor/ette party, engagement party, etc.

Do not throw your own party.

A Jack and Jill is a party to raise money for the wedding day. It's most popular in New England and Canada. Your guest would purchase tickets to attend in advance and you and your wedding party would provide the entertainment and food.

Thank you for the advice. No go on the Jack and Jill.

Tacky.

No

And I don't know what your planning but if includes a newspaper add, people you don't know or no open bar. Double triple NO

No. Not okay. Don't host or have.

No this is the tackiest thing. Don't have a party and charge guests to come

Not okay to do.

ETA - I see in your comment you have taken our advice. I recommend updating the title of your post so more people don't comment without reading, like I did

Nope.

If no one wants to throw one for you, you do not get to host your own.

So she would just have to forgo it if no one else wants to? That really sucks....

Native bride - yes that how it works.

Also no one should ever throw a jack and Jill 'fund raiser' it's not a charity it's a wedding.

@Erin Well dang. Now I know. Sorry OP!

I do agree with not hosting your own bridal shower. But bachelor/bachelorette parties, I don't think it matters as much. You are just going out to party. Just don't expect other people to pay for you. ETA just saw your comment that it's the money raising jack and jill party not the bride and groom together party. No!!!

Me: Wtf is a Jack and Jill?

FH: A jack and jose? Sounds like a party to me.

Me: No, a Jack and Jill. omfg read this, this is what it is!!!

FH: I wanna puke... at the idea of that nonsense... and I feel like I'm not alone

Please don't make ignorant comments like these parties are popular in "Canada" - that's not true. They are not done throughout the entire country.

Secondly, it is extremely tacky to fundraise for a wedding. A wedding is not a charity. Don't worry about the hosting part - you shouldn't be having one of these parties at all.

I don't think I will have anyone throw me a shower because everyone is spread out. It makes me sad. It makes me really sad. I won't host my own, though. It is in bad taste. I'm sorry you don't have someone to host for you.