Is it hard for kids to bond with siblings when there is a BIG age difference??

I have a half sister who is 14 years older than me and we have never been close - she treated me like I was her kid and I already had a mother, so I didn't appreciate it. My dad's hope was that when I became an adult, too, that we would finally be on the same playing field and be close, but it didn't happen. Instead she threw a fit over the fact that my parents are paying for my schooling (which they offered to do for her, but she didn't go) and for part of my wedding (again, offered, but the engagement was called off). It didn't work for my family.

My sister is 5 years older than me and my FH's brother is 7 yrs older than him. My sister and I had a great relationship when we were younger but when we got older and she married our relationship changed alot (I havent seen her since I was 14, but she lives in Kansas and I live in Pennsylvania.) On the other hand, my FH wasnt close with his brother when they were younger and they still arent close but we do invite him down here to hang out every once in awhile. It really depends on them. They could have a good relationship or they could have a bad one. Ethier way, I dont think the age difference will play a role, I mean maybe jealousy..

Thank you all so much for your input we are going to try for a our baby and will love both kids and same and not make my son feels like 2nd best or that he has to watch his brother/sister. I want him to have his young years and have fun with his friends and be a nom kid and he he wants to help out that would be great but we will not make him. Thanks again to everyone

My oldest sister was 14 when I was born, so she was out of the house by the time I was 4 and I honestly don't even remember living with her. But that doesn't mean we didn't bond. Even if we didn't have a lot of time together when we were young, we are the best of sisters now that we're older.

My youngest is over a decade younger than my daugther. I know there are things that we are missing right now since I have to take care of the younger child and her other brother is more indeendant of me so could allow us to do more girl things. But as far as siblings bonded I think they are about the same or better than me and my sister who are just 3 years apart.

No my brother (half of course) is a lot older than me and we get along great and my sister annoys the crap out of me most of the time (she is a year older). Of course it depends on the specific family but its definitely not a guarantee that siblings closer in age get along better.

I have two older brothers one was 14 and one was 16 when I was born. I didn't have a very typical sibling relationship with the oldest brother because he left for the military when I was only two and by the time he returned I was 6. And he was 22. He moved out of state for college after that. And didn't return til I was 12. The brother that was 14 when I was born drove me nuts!! He aggravated the mess out of me as a kid and I returned the favor. When he would have girlfriends over I would sit outside their bedroom door and color them pictures. He got married when I was 7. So after I was 7 years old I was essentially an only child. It got really boring and I was always jealous of friends who had siblings closer to them in age.

I am having problems with my boys being 10 years apart.

My 10 year old has no contact with his biological father, but my fiancee has stepped up for the past 3 years.

We now have a 4 month old and I'm sensing frustration and a bit of hostility from my 10 year old.

I even stepped up to coach soccer this year for him, take him to dinner, special privileges and nothing is working.

Any advice?

It is really starting to worry me.