Is fighting more frequently normal before a wedding?

I think so. Anything that adds stress can do it. I notice I start fights more than normal right now.

Yup I notice the same thing as well. I pick fights and a lot of it is because I get stressed about money and all the little details that go into planning a wedding.

I think so too. So much goes into planning a wedding that strains us financillay, emotionally, etc...and with one month out I imagine the stress is building a bit too!

I find that we are shorter with each other more often than normal for sure. We try to check in with each other and I find that recognizing that the stress of the wedding is bringing it on can help sometimes...trying to do non wedding related things that promote quality time really helps too.

Hang in there-one month to go!

Yes. It's a very stressful time in your life. Just make sure it doesn't get totally out of control, but this too shall pass :-)

I agree with all these ladies!

Hope things get better for you!

Its stress... go get a massage, do a yoga class, get a facial... tell him to go golfing or hangout with the guys... go fishing. Dont talk about the wedding for a couple of days. I will probably be doing the same thing too, but im getting massages already to try and relax, I freak out to the max as well.

Thanks everyone. i didnt know if it was just us or what. lol

And its harder to not fight considering we are 3000 miles away right now.

There was an article about "How to Survive Your Engagement" in Brides magazine some months back that talked about this very issue!

I think I've gotten into my worst fights so far with my fiance during this time. Money... details... it all adds up to stress! Don't worry about it. It's normal- as long as both of you remember that it's due to all the planning. You'll need to make sure you make time to just be a couple and designate non-wedding quality time-- even if you're that far away!

I think because the FH's are like whatever and tired of hearing about the little things so they are annoyed and uyou are annoyed because you are stresed-- Dont worry, everything will work itself out!!

With 3 weeks to the wedding. We have been arguing quite a bit and we NEVER fight. So, I set up massages for both of us tomorrow!

Definitely normal. There is so much more pressure and stress going on during wedding planning, of course it is going to cause more drama and such.

Been there and done that. That is why some people seriously re-think getting married or back out at the last minute. Just hang in there. Things will get better.

Sherren, I am so with you! My fiance and I have been together for 4 1/2 years, and although relationships are sometimes tricky, we always figure it out. We talk it out, work it out, and love the way through. Since wedding, it seems that we bicker allot. Not terrible "I hate you stuff" but stuff as simple as I like a round cake and he likes a square...holy cow, does it matter?!?! I wonder if it's because we just want it to be perfect, but is perfection causing us to forget why we love in the first place? I really struggle with this one.

Yes but we had have a rough year. My brother past and that change me. Then My job was messing my hours, and student teaching has shrunk our pockets.

Yes but we had have a rough year. My brother past and that change me. Then My job was messing my hours, and student teaching has shrunk our pockets.

Yes we fought all the time....it was all the stress that we were under him with work and me with family and house stuff

Im right there with everyone!! I agree. I have come to realize this is a very stressful time in our lives. Bothers me...but it passes. I have an attitude a lot. Ooops. Money does awful things to your brain. He is usually a very optimistic person so when things get rough with this he always knows how to calm me down. Just remind yourselves why you are doing this to begin with. Good luck hun!

Its always going to cause a little extra stress, this on top of the fact that I lost my job in october, and can't seems to find another one anywhere, haven't help. But you just got talk it out a get through it. Fighting is normal, you will get through it, you are just getting close that's all. It will be better once the wedding is over.

Sorry its taking me so long to get back to everyone! lol. my parents never did the traditional wedding and no one in my family really has so i had no idea if it was just us. and in all honesty before hearing back from everyone i wasnt really sure if it was the right time for him and i to get married. i appreciate all the kind words and great feedback from you all.

and yes at aleasha B, its over the dumbest things with us as well! and we had a discussion just this morning about how we can come to compromise on things and im more confident now. i mean we planned this wedding in 3 months and that right there can be stressful as it is.

And massages sound like a fantastic idea lol. count me in on that idea!