Is cocktail hour necessary?

@rebecca i apologize but that was a typo

Spiffy, you still don't understand. A gap is rude, it doesn't matter the reason. GymRat gave you a perfectly acceptable schedule.

Inviting people (including children) to part of a wedding is rude. There is no disagreement, it's fact.

You can disagree all you want and there will be a bunch of white knights who will tell you "it's your day", but the truth is, it's not. As soon as you have guests, it's no longer your day. If you treat any of your guests poorly (including the children) people will talk. It may not get back to you, but they will talk.

And we know that it needs to clear which is why we've already had most if not all of our guest informed we dont want anyone to be surprised but again it was already widely discussed between my family. Our guest count isn't huge we're only expecting about 80 guest to attend if not less once we get rsvps back (we havnt sent invitations out)

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@spiffy because if you had better reading comprehension skills you would know I WAS a Catholic. I.e. grew up in a Catholic Church, been in more Catholic weddings than I can count. And I can be as sarcastic as I want on a public forum.

@jessiejv im not going to tell them they cant bring them to the ceremony when theres no cost involved in that. Would it not be considered rude for me to tell them no they cant come even though theyve expressed it would be easier for them or that they'd like them to witness it? They dont even want to bring them to the reception none of my guest do they want to have an adult night out away from their kids which is another reason i wanted my reception later. You're right i dont get what the issue is if they're requesting it. It doesn't mean im letting them run the show im accommodating them. If that means I'm breaking etiquette thats fine my reception will be properly hosted and they'll have no problem with not having their kids there while they're trying to drink amd enjoy themselves

@almostmrse and if you had better reading skills you'd know your wrong

Wait, I just noticed your wedding date. This is taking place on a Friday? So now you have people either taking off work to come to your wedding, or at the very least leaving work early to rush to your 4pm ceremony and then they have to do more driving around to take their kids somewhere, then drive AGAIN to the reception? And the reception starts at 7 so it will be even later that these guests get to eat dinner while some of those guests who left work early probably didn't get to take a lunch break in order to make up for the lost time?

Yes. Cocktail hour. They deserve food and alcohol while they wait after dealing with all of that shit to be there.

FFS! STAAAAAAPPPPHHH!

First, parents can drink and enjoy themselves with their children around. I do it all the time. I'm not a fucking nun.

Second, stop asking for advice and then turning around and going, "no I'm not going to do that".

Third, WW remembers.

It's "you're".

No, it isn't rude to tell them their children can't come to the ceremony because you are having an ADULT ONLY WEDDING. You think you're the only person in the world who isn't having kids at their wedding?

I'm having 4 kids at my wedding because they are part of the wedding party - everyone else will need to find a babysitter OR decline if they can't find someone.

My fucking gawd.

@mrs.lmac so me saying exactly what she said to me was an issue but her comment was completely okay?

@jesseka i am going with the cocktail hour i needed an understanding on that and i get it. Its needed

@gymrat I know how to spell and speak im on my phone on the app im not scrolling up to proofread every auto correct

You proofread BEFORE you hit the send button my dear.

Thats fine everyones just nitpicking at everything i say now at this point lol i get i need a cocktail hour thank you for the advice i needed. Have a great rest of YOUR Tuesday everyone.

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Kids scream, cry, run around, etc. do you want that during your ceremony? It seems your only concern is that it's not going to cost you anything, but the bigger concern should be a child disrupting your ceremony or crying during your vows.

@jessicaL if it were only up to me I wouldn't have kids at either like I originally wanted. FH doesn't feel the same along with the guest who have spoken out. But his opinion is what ultimately changed it

My reception time can be changed. My concern was if my ceremony takes an hour that puts everyone at 5 oclock rush hour. Where we live to get from the ceremony to reception isnt a difficult drive but if there's rush hour traffic then it will be

This site is ALL about hosting your guests properly. Their food preferences, etc... So if HER GUESTS are requesting or asking for something specifically then she is hosting them properly!

Sheesh