Is anyone else NOT doing a rehearsal dinner?

Yes and no...we are simply having the wedding party and a couple out of town guests to our house the night before for pizza...very casual (and FH's favorite food). We are going to supply the pizza, but didn't figure the cost would be too bad.

If you didn't want to foot the bill for a rehearsal dinner, I would just mention where you were going to eat and tell people they are more than welcome to attend if they wish. Giving them the option to go and pay their own way or not. I don't know a darn thing about etiquette tho lol

The rehearsal dinner is the time to thank your wedding party and those that have contributed in some way. We're just doing a super casual pizza meal in my parents backyard. Can you offer a small, simple meal? Like BBQ? Or pizza? Or even appetizers? I wouldn't stress about it, but I would try to do something simple. And just invite your immediate family and wedding party. My FMIL keeps trying to invite her OOT guests, without offering to pay. I don't want to pay for two weddings!

If it helps:

http://www.emilypost.com/weddings/planning-your-wedding/460-the-rehearsal-dinner

I'm not

Well, I can't get into the venue for rehearsal unless I rent it for another night, so I don't know....FH's friend got married there and said the week of the wedding they were able to rent it for $50 because it was still open, as of now, if I booked it, it would be $310. So....yeah. I dunno. FMIL was asking questions about rehearsal dinner last night and it's like "I have no clue" she didn't realize we were doing the ceremony there too...

We don't have a wedding party. It will be just us and the ministers. However, we are having small apps and a few bottles of wine with them to go over the wedding for the next day. We certainly can not pay for a rehearsal. We are having a destination wedding and neither parents are paying (or coming) to my partner and I's wedding.

It's something that would be nice... but, we just can't do it. So, apps and wine from trader joe's with a few people will have to do.

We're not either. We're having a very simple ceremony so there's not really any "rehearsing" that needs to be done. My officiant will be there about an hour early to go over with the guys and my father and they're the only ones that really need to know anything anyway. Us girls have it easy.

Plus, the wedding/reception is closer to my family and friends than his and his groomsmen are almost all married and some with kids so asking everybody to come down the night before wasn't something we wanted to do.

Personally when I've been a BM I have always dislike rehearsal dinner's, I know they are to thank me but I just end up feeling rushed and starved haha! Because you usually have to wait for everyone to be done work, then do the rehearsal then head to a restaurant and wait for your order. So ya I'm not a fan. We decided to tell everyone to eat a quick dinner, we'll "rehearse" a little later than norm and then come back to our place for some dessert and cocktails. I think it will make for a much more relaxed evening for everyone.

I'm not even doing a rehersal never mind worring about another meal for people lol. Our wedding is way up north and not all the wedding party will be up there the night before so no real point

We're not.. We're just going to have the wedding party at our house for BBQ.

My wedding party is soooo small, we'rejust going to have a pizza party at the chuch after rehearsal. I figure we'll maybe have 15 people there.

We're not having a rehearsal. We don't have a wedding party (just the two of us and our officiant) so I don't see the need for a rehearsal :-)

Alec M-I'm sorry that your family isn't supportive. If I were nearer to your venue, I would go just to support you guys.

Thanks for the kind words Soon to be Mrs K. We have fantastic friends that are going to join us. About 70 of our close friends are joining us in NH... all but two have never been to NH. (We live in SC... and most of our friends will be coming from SC/NC)

I'm actually really excited that we did whatever we wanted to. While I'm disappointed that my parents are not coming.. it allowed Michael and I to be creative with our planning.

Glad to hear that you have lots of friends coming. Here in the midwest it seems like the states keep changing their minds. I have friends who are just waiting for Nebraska to wake up and realize that this doesn't compromise marriage, it enhances it, making it available to all. She plans to go out and marry her partner the next day.

We're not having a rehearsal, so not having a rehearsal dinner.

Might get the group together for pizza or something at our apartment the night before. Haven't quite decided yet. Might be too busy with DIYs!

We weren't planning on having one.

I only have 2 MOH and it's 2 groomsmen. No need to rehearse. The Friday night before the wedding, we're inviting the wedding party over along with parents for dinner. I'm just cooking lasagna with salad...

We are trying to decide between going to a cheap restaurant and footing the bill or having everone over to the house and lighting up the grill. We don't plan to have more than 20 people so it should be cheap either way. Our venue has a menu that is $45 per person for the rehersal dinner! There is no way!

My in-laws insisted on doing a dinner... it was awesome though we had choices of steaks, family style fish fry, baked cod, ribs, and broasted chicken. The restaurant at the place we had the wedding just treated us SO great. They foot the bill it came to around $300 and I begged them to just do pizza but I guess it was what they really wanted to do for us. I don't think they are a requirement I like Tamika's idea...