Is anyone else having a hard time to get people to RSVP?

Girl you are doing well to have half of them back. I am SO not looking forward to this aspect of it.

The bad part about it is (only family)

Family were the worst offenders of the non RSVPers for my wedding. And it was all the people that my dad wanted to invite that I really hardly know at all that didn't respond!

Yeah this is definately not the part that I am looking forward to. But as it comes it makes the day come closer and closer.

Why people can not just let us know if they are not coming as well?

I think lots of people think you'll be upset or super disappointed if they say they aren't coming so they just don't respond at all. My thing was that I'd rather know they weren't coming than be stressed about whether I had ordered enough food!

From what I gather family is the worst!! I don't get why its so hard to RSVP. I always RSVP on time!!

I had one family member told me that I knew your wedding is coming up soon but they did not get my invite and thought the guest list was full. Such BS. I had sent them out in Jan and now since I am asking you to RSVP all of a sudden you did not received it. Please just tell me that you can not make it.

We have even reminded people and they still blow it off. We just gave an invite to a B lister and they immediately hopped online and RSVPd. So why is it that family and old friends are like "eh, whatever" and new friends and those not that close say "WOO HOO HOO, I get to go!"?

My deadline is next week also and 44 haven't responded either way yet. We have 107 guests on the list though.

To me the less is the better save $$$, but I will have to pay for at least 100 people. I am thinking I will get about 120 or less.

My friends are getting married 6 weeks before me. When I got their invitation I was about to get in my car. I walked back in the house, filled it out, and put it right back in the mailbox. Trying to start some serious RSVP karma for when it's my turn.

That is good. What is bad that none of my dad brothers or sisters had RSVP. They are the main ones.

My family is the worse about RSVP-ing and they admit it. I always have to start calling, emailing, and texting people to get an answer. After a voicemail, text, email, message on Facebook they eventually get back to me...lol.

My final date was just this last Monday. I had received almost none from my side of the family. I even posted something about it on here. To make a long story short, I emailed this exact note out:

Dear Family & Friends,

Our wedding day is quickly approaching and we are busy wrapping up some last minute details. If you are receiving this email, we have not received your RSVP response. We must respond to the reception venue for catering purposes with a final guest count this week. If you have not yet mailed your response, please take a moment to reply to this email. Please indicate TOTAL # of guests and of that total, how many will need a plate for a child under the age of 12. If we have not received a response by this Thursday, February 11th , we will assume that you are not able to attend.

Reminder: Wedding Ceremony February 27th, 2010 @ 7:30, Dinner & Dancing Reception to immediately follow.

Thank you very much for your assistance,

Bride's name & Groom's Name

I immediately started receiving rsvp's back. For those I don't have an email address for, I sent the same message to their FaceBook acct. For those who have neither FB, nor email, I called. I got great results that way. Honestly, I was very surprised. I also found 1 family that claims they never received their invite, so keep that in mind. Luckily I called, or I would have never known and they are people that I would like to have attend.

I am going to have my sister to start the calling today.

Also, wonderful moment, keep in mind....your RSVP date isn't until 2/20. I think calling people prior to that date might be a little pushy. I would just wait. I know you're eager, as we all are, to see them come in the mailbox. As of right now, though, nobody's rsvp is late yet. Let them utilize the time you gave them. If you don't have them buy the 20th, feel free to start calling, emailing, stalking.........

I understand that detailedplanner. After the 20th I do not intend to contact anyone. I am just giving them a friendly reminder. If I do not push my family they will not get it done trust me. Some already said that they thought they did not have to RSVP because you already know that I am coming. It mainly will take two-three days for me to receive it. Due to my situation now and my dad in the hospital everyone had put our wedding on hold which I understand even I did. Which many people of them already told me that they had forgot about it. I have to come up with extra money. My family is not the type to RSVP and I will need final head count. So I thought it would be nice just to send a nice friendly email or phone call. And they are all my dad brothers and sisters mainly.

See I just got two more responds. See what a little email can do.