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Devoted October 2009

Is anyone afraid of someone showing up uninvited?

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FutureMrsSmith, on September 17, 2009 at 4:25 PM

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Hi ladies, is anyone afraid of someone that you don't care for and didn't invite, showing up uninvited and unannounced? If so how are you handling or planning on handling it? I'm just curious, bc my biological father whom I haven't seen or talked to since I was 11. He's just a nasty person, he would so show up just to ruin the day, there's a lot of bad blood between him and us. He'd so make a scene, and my biggest fear is his showing up and doing all of the above. He's a very violent man too, and I just, I don't want that for anyone, I don't want my guests to have to endure that either. So, I'm just trying to play it by ear and not panick unless he does show up, but, what am I going to do if he does? As best I know he does not know about the wedding, we've kept it hush hush and only invited my grandparents and 2 aunts that don't talk to him. Anyone having a problem like this?

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Devoted October 2009
FutureMrsSmith · on September 18, 2009 at 3:55 PM
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Nashea, I so hear you. Maybe her n my sperm donor are related. No one in his family likes him except my one cousin. WE too have kept our locations secret, and that is a burden in itself. FMIL just does not understand the magnitude of what this man can do, thinks I'm over-reacting and that she can just walk up and ask him to leave and he will. Silly ppl. I also just thought of something. One of my FH friends is a prison guard and he's invited. SO that will be nice. It's bad when you position your head table so you can see who's coming, but now that I got a guard! I'm so happy. Talk about RELIEF. You ladies are awesome, thank you.
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LuckyinLove · on September 19, 2009 at 2:35 AM
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I also concerned about unwanted people showing up. I was thinking about sending my guests a confirmation after they RSVP and have them bring it with them. If they don't have it and their name is not on the list (and yes they will have to show picture I.D. if they don't have the confirmation) they will not be admitted. There will be two people at the door accepting the confirmations. I know it sounds kind of harsh though you do what you need to do to keep people out that might ruin the day.
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JJ · on September 19, 2009 at 2:44 AM
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I had one person I had to courtesy invite because of my mother. She is actually coming I believe after continually saying she wasn't. I am taking the Celticchick idea of having my MOH call her and uninvite her. At this point, I don't care who I piss off.
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Super October 2009
Teems · on September 19, 2009 at 9:59 AM
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I am concerned but I am hoping that with all of the off duty cops, people wont try that. lol
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sheila · on September 19, 2009 at 2:11 PM
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I don't know it's going to be so many people there I won't even know as long as they don't interfer with my day I don't care.
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